The urge!  

arianmale1975 43M
7 posts
8/1/2006 11:25 am

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The urge!

Just think about this. Most males have in their sexual lifespans, been inclined to have it with as many women as possible.

The women I've spoken to about this, think that it is because there's only enough blood in every male to either power the brain or the cock!

Scientists say that it is a genetic pre-disposition in males to search out potential child bearers for spreading the genetic pool.

However, in the last 5 decades or so, we have moved on from being just "producers" to "procreators". Therefore, the only reason a man would want to hook up with as many females and for any number of women who too would like to link up with multiple male partners (at the same or different times) seems to be the joy had in procreating.

All would have been hunky dory if this fact had been accepted socially. But that is not so. Be it the American, European, Asian or African context - culturally it is a sensitive issue, if any person has multiple partners. In some contexts lesser and in some, much more. Medically it is a sensitive issue, due to proliferating STDs and such sorts of problems (which are addressable though).

What we all do forget is that as like every thing else, there's a life-cycle for our sex life as well. It is something that most of us have and do experience on a daily basis. Tell me, honestly, who amongst us does not fantasise sleeping with one of the people we come across on a daily basis?

Rather than condone that our urges are wrong, and put a premium to the availability of such resources (which lead to a host of other issues), why can't we not appropriate the concept of freely enjoying what we can provide to each other? A question that flummoxes me!

I would be happy to see any opinions on this topic.

rm_annalee79 36M/39F
34 posts
8/1/2006 11:59 am

i think issues arise because we hold ourselves as the most intelligent of species. animals have sex just to procreate, humans on the other hand like to say that we have sex for procreation purposes but also to relay how much one loves ones partner. the problem with multiple partners is that many people feel that the human brain is only capable of truly loving just one person, thus the problem. "if you really loved me, you wouldn't want to have sex with so and so" females as well as males are very sensitive to this issue. it's just about forging a bond. when you invest all your time and effort in one person, giving them all that you can, you don't want to share them with someone else. there is only so much sharing one can do before they become empty, it's just the nature of things. eventually we will not have any resources because we keep "sharing" them. it is the same with human emotion. eventually, if you have multiple partners you will run out and someone will get the short end of the stick, so to speak

hornylilgirl78 107F

8/1/2006 1:23 pm

Something that was pointed out to me once: If we are not capable of being turned on, of wanting, someone other than our partner, then how the hell is it that we can be turned on by that person?

That being said, I think one of the problems with multiple partners is the fact that many people, whether they admit it or not, still think that sex equals love. Our societies still has a lot of ideas and stigmas attached to sexuality. And those stigmas, those ideals are so embeded in our feelings about sex, that I don't see the idea of openly "freely enjoying what we can provide each other" happening.


"Chastity: The most unnatural of the sexual perversions." Aldous Huxley


"As kinky as a cheap garden hose!"

arianmale1975 replies on 8/2/2006 11:03 am:
Thank you Horny for the comment and I appreciate the time you have taken to say what you feel.

You are possibly right in that it will take time for a level of openness and transparency to come in ourselves and thereby making us less of hypocrites.

It may be just a childish wish, but in the end it is about being honest about one's feelings, desires and objectives.

arianmale1975 43M
5 posts
8/2/2006 11:10 am

Thank you all for the comments.

When I mean "sharing" it is not emotions of the sorts that has been mentioned. It is indeed quite tough, maybe even impossible to share an emotion such as love (of the romantic type) with more than a person at a time.

While I am not advocating free love, I do feel that it is important that not only do we realise our inner desires, we also be honest enough to admit it. Why just fantasise internally? Express it.

Whether one chooses to actually bring the desire to a conclusion in reality is a completely different matter (which is another topic to discuss!).

It is indeed sad to see the kind of stigma associated with something like sex which is one of the most powerful of urges that any human has. And incidentally, animals have sex to create, not procreate. We humans have an almost monopoly on the ideal and process of procreation!


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