Do singles have the right to partake in adultery?  

areola_babey 54F
55 posts
3/20/2006 5:19 am

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Do singles have the right to partake in adultery?

Of course my thoughts outloud on this issue will be scrutinised but I feel very strongly even though Im only a newcomer.
Is it possible to not feel guilty when having sex with someone else's husband/wife?
For a very long time I had a strong moral standard that I would never have sexual intimacies with a married person....always looking at it from either side it always seemed so wrong. The question always arises in my head, how does he feel to have "his cake and eat it too"? The fact is so many men out there do it, is it only females that feel guilt? Of course its so much harder to handle when there are other feelings involved than just sexual. Should I just "enjoy the ride" and throw caution to the wind knowing that this situation will be awkward and oh so wonderful, but more complicated as time goes by?? If I had my time over again would I do things differently? Im older, but definately not the wiser!

WiilingtoLick 55M

3/20/2006 5:27 am

It is possible to have an extramarital friendship as long as the ground rules are established in the beginning. Problems come when one party is lacking at home and has alterior motives/feelings.

helga_hansen 50F
1987 posts
3/20/2006 5:30 am

Hej Areola... as a married woman who has a lover... I can say that my lover has already confessed that he would never have allowed himself to become involved with me if I was sleeping around behind my husband's back. The fact that I am in an open marriage, and that my husband knows of my lover's existence has made all the difference to him.

There is nothing wrong with having principles, but nothing is always black and white, is it? There are always shades of grey in between.


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blogginOnly 59F

3/20/2006 5:31 am

areola, the guilt is there. I blame it on mid-life crisis, lol. I don't have the love for my husband like it should be, and vice-versa. But circumstances keep us together. So, I wanted my cake and eat it to? Yep. But it led to the biggest heartbreak ever. I am just an old fashioned gal with old fashioned values that got lost along the way. If you are going to enjoy the ride, just be cautious, and dont let it get to the "complicated" stage. Take care hon.

digdug41 50M

3/20/2006 5:33 am

if its just a sexual thing then I must say I have never felt guilt because it was just sex the problem arises when you start to get emotional ties to the person your schnooping, oh and by the way nice areola's babe hehehe welcome to blogland cyaroun

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rm_gorilla062 51M
232 posts
3/20/2006 5:33 am

Men feel guilt too....but in answer to you. It really depends on the relationship. Today so many couples are in open relationships thta it is becoming common practice. Ask yourself this.... would you rather know and have a choice or have them do it behind your back?
I think I would rather know what my mate is doing rather than find out on my own.

Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/20/2006 5:33 am

Well....not as long as it is behind someoneone's back, its allways better to share in my opinion. I prefer to have my lover with me during all encounters, and be there when she has hers.

timberwolf6972 45M

3/20/2006 5:42 am

I used to mess around with married women. I've had many of them as FWB down through the years. Once upon a time I did actually feel guilty but somewhere along the line I either got over it or just stopped thinking about it. Today If I wanted to be with a married woman then I would and It wouldn't bother me as far as worrying if it was right or wrong. Now days I just don't fool with married women because usually it leads to drama which I just don't need any more. Each to their own, I'm not judging anyone who commits adultery cause I would be a hipocrit if I did. There are entirely too many single women in the world for me to have to be with married women. {=}

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
3/20/2006 5:56 am

I think the guilt is there and you know better not to do it. I always say, "Put yourself in that person's shoes." How would you feel? Now I would however, ask the partner to join

Purry {=}


bjbuddy888 76M

3/20/2006 6:09 am

Married? What do you expect from each other? Not satisfied with home then find sexual relief with another. We are all sexual creatures and as such we naturally seek multiple partners. That is natural. Why stiffle nature? Religious reasons most likely. Yeah, get marital advice from a priest. He spends his life wacking it or bearking the rules. Hey, just go for it but don't bring anything home to your spouse.

bluegirl39 51F

3/20/2006 6:17 am is my view..if the wife is aware and is okay with it..then okay otherwise..hands off because I would never want to break up a marriage and trust me it happens. sometimes a couple is looking to spice things up a bit maybe live out dreams and they normally have ground rules for it..I haven't done anything like that but if you look on here you'll see a few couples looking for just that..its up to you..good luck

escape300 42M
94 posts
3/20/2006 6:29 am

It looks like i need a ticket so you can have tour chocolate cake an eat it too

gspotfinder4her 58M

3/20/2006 8:27 am

humm if it is loveless or all the sparks are dead, or if she has no more orgasems. He is missing a woman retunning love to him. who knows.

BirdV 69M

3/20/2006 9:09 am

It depends on how grown-up you are. Some folks can't play with fire because they burn the house down. Others play with open flames and never seen to get burned nor burn anyone else...just ask the French.

The only question remaining is, is it morally right for you?

Welcome aboard from the Bird.


MONA_14 31F

3/20/2006 11:41 am

you are invited to be our Friends

loutopia2004 57M

3/20/2006 2:03 pm

No i do not think that they do , of course it take 2 to
brake that code .Leave but don't cheat, get your own, caus
there's karma. And yes i have been cukold

rm_3ormor4us 71M/71F

3/21/2006 8:15 am

I (we)never get into the guilt when choosing a sexual partner. If it is purely a physical relationship we dont really feel theres anything to be guilty about. If you let it become more emotional, then there is something to feel guilty about. Sex is to be enjoyed, not worried over.

rm_Mrnonooky 58M

3/21/2006 12:26 pm

Like every story there are 2 sides. On one hand, if someone who is married is going to cheat, they are going to cheat. If you and that person have reasons to engage in this activity, it might as well be you. Because it's going to be someone else otherwise.

On the other hand where is the fine line of what is considered marriage? And exactly when is it no longer considered marriage?
We have heard from married people in open relationships, married people unhappy in their marriage, singles who wonder what they are missing out on, fully divorced people, and seperated people. But only you are your own best judge. It's your decission in the end.

lovebiter_act 48M

3/22/2006 4:43 am

as someone yet to but wanting to cheat, i understand and respect people choices. i seek to cheat due to a wife that has bit by bot stopped doing things sexually, down to the point that once or twice a month i get no foreplay, no spur of the moment thrill. she has turned it into a mundane, male do all the work event. I personally want to get a few experiences out of the way i have never done, and hope to learn a few things i can maybe try at home. poor reasons to the morally good, but for me, worth the risk. I wish to cheat for a couple of months, learn and experience then deal with it the right way. In a perfect world i would have liked more partners than i did before we married, but as a wife and mum, she is great. If i get found out, i will take it head on and support them as i should and not duck and weave my way out of it. less dramatic than seperating for a few months then coming home after being with a few people.

Canberraplayboy 50M

3/22/2006 7:27 am

I think both men and women feel guilt with this when they first do it. But like other have raised it depends upon the way you are brought up, life experiences.

I too have been out with married women and found after a while you dont seem to worry if you accept the situation. It also make it easier if the partner is aware of what is going on. Initally you feel extremly guilty.

You may want to want to enjoy the comany of married men (or women) for sex only as its a way to explore and learn.

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