What is sexy?  

annierocks 62F
164 posts
7/9/2006 9:59 pm

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What is sexy?

Seems like many people get their notion of what constitutes sexy or sensual from men's magazines. These tend to feature meaningless sex and genitals.

Some women also appreciate this approach to sexuality, but many do not. Women seem to prefer sex in the context of a relationship.

Any thoughts?

hotrod352006 68M  
555 posts
7/9/2006 11:40 pm

I like the relational context.

annierocks 62F

7/10/2006 4:43 pm

That's nice to hear. But do you also likek the anonymous sex? The stereotype is that men do (which is fine, of course). I wonder how much the stereotypes affect our preferences?

hotrod352006 68M  
555 posts
7/12/2006 11:03 pm

My guess is that stereotypical sexual behavior is begotten by individuals who are content to follow the crowd and if pushed, are not able to think outside the box. Probably more often than not.
Anonymous sex? IMHO there is little soul or substance to it. In a way, that is the lack of the energy field surrounding sex.
I don't know, that may sound strange but something substanitive and energetic (in its own right) just seems more fun.
Yeah, I know, maybe I'm an oddity.

WestSideAl2004 72M

7/13/2006 2:12 pm

Sexy? A healthy female runner with dimples, a tan and a bouncing ponytail.

Sensuous? Her eyes, (any color) looking deeply into mine. Her hand touching me. A mere glimpse of cleavage. Her graceful stride. A whisper.


annierocks 62F

7/13/2006 3:57 pm

These comments take my breath away.

rm_strider9965 60M

7/19/2006 7:13 am

There is such a broad range of differences between sex, sexuality, and sensuality.

Sex, is an act. It can be performed in the context of needs and wants. Sexuality and sensuality are the driving forces behind the wanting aspect of sex. Sexuality is a look or action, sensuality is an attitude. The dictionary hasn'r quite caught up to this yet.

Sexuality can be the manner of dress, the way a person carries themself (walk, talk, mannerisms, etc.). Sexuality is an attitude that a person hasa about themself and shines through the layers for others to see. It is an air of confidence, yet vulnerability; independance, yet dependant; as well as many others. Sensuality requires the personal development that generally comes from intraspection and reflection that very few people have the ability (or desire) to master.

The portrayal found in mens magazines, does not (I feel)reflect neither sexuality nor sensuality, but appeals to the basic "needs" of sex. Men are genetically programmed to reproduce and in doing so seeking out the most desirable person to fulfill the procreational requirements. Large breats for feeding, wide hips for birthing, etc.

I am interested in knowing if this response is acceptable by the other men out there as well as the women. It is a very interesting concept, and is one of the reasons that I have so much difficulty in explaing what I find beautiful about a woman, or what attributes define sexuality. It could be a walk, a smile, a conversation....

annierocks 62F

7/19/2006 3:20 pm

Thing is, there is no way to provide compelling experimental evidence to back the evo psych stuff. As it is, it may face validity, Ockham's Razor demands the simpler explanation: conditioning.

Let me have your best shot, Stider....let's have some FUN!

rm_strider9965 60M

7/25/2006 12:57 pm

There is plenty of empirical evidence that supports the claim that there are biological as well as environmental factors that explain the differences between men and women as far as behavioral differences and thought processing differences. Some examples for you to check;

Geiger, J. F., & Litwiller, R. M. (2005). Spatial working memory and gender differences in science. Journal of Instructional Psychology, 32(1), p49 ‒ 57.
Loori, A. (2005). Multiple intelligences: A comparative study between the preferences of males and females. Social Behavior and Personality: An International Journal; 33(1), p77 ‒ 87.
Putrevu, S. (2001). Exploring the origins and information processing differences between men and women: Implications for advertisers. Academy of Marketing Science Review p 1 ‒ 16
Unterrainer, J., Wranek, U., Staffen, W., Gruber, T., & Ladurner, G. (2000). Lateralized cognitive visuospatial processing: Is it primarily gender related or due to quality of performance. Neuropsychobiology; 41(2), p 95 ‒ 101.
Van Strien, T. J. (1994). Gender-schematic processing: An extended replication of the Larson and Seidman study. European Journal of Personality 8(1), p59 ‒ 74.

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you on this one.

rm_strider9965 60M

7/25/2006 1:07 pm

As far as the simpler explanation being the best or most valid, 400 years ago the simplest explanation as to why ships disappeared from the horizon was that the world was flat. Of course, with time and some brave experimentation and exploration, we now know that this is not the case.

annierocks 62F

7/25/2006 4:13 pm

And experimental evidence? Correlation does not prove causation.

Damn I love a good academic argument.

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