The saga of life continues....  

anivorygrl 58F
68 posts
5/22/2006 6:58 pm

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The saga of life continues....

I have been dating a man for 7 of 8 weeks now and for the past week he has been staying at my house. While I am at work this guy has shampooed my carpets, washed, dried and folded my clothes, cut my grass....the list is endless. When I come home he is always fixing something or cleaning something. The other day he made a crack about him being my bitch. I was already rather uncomfortable with this so-called role reversal, this comment just added to it. It was a very uncomfortable feeling, him cleaning while I am kicking back from work. I know some of you ladies would love it but I just didn't know how to take it. This stayed on my mind the rest of the time he was here. Later on in the weekend I was cranky after having worked all day and I asked him to leave, that I needed space. Was I wrong for feeling unusual given the role-reversal situation? What would you have done in my case, considered him your bitch and order him around? Guess the world will never know how many licks it takes to get to the center of a tootsie roll tootsie

mondauthor 31M
62 posts
5/24/2006 2:29 pm

I'll bet you really miss him! Did you get the space you needed? Calling someone your bitch is OK as long as both parties understand it is not meant in a derogatory way and is always done in private. Sounds like you had it made for a while. When this guy starts working full time you probably will not have it that good, he will be just as tired from work as yourself.

You know how fragile men's egos can be, so ordering him around might not be a good idea. Leave the guy some self-respect!

Maybe the guy takes pleasure in doing those things for you, especially if you work long hours. Maybe he felt guilty for not working full time and the housework was all he could do to help out. I wouldn't cut the guy off, few women have it so good! But if you find you can't respect him in this new role reversal situation, then maybe you did the right thing asking him to leave.

bill_e_2 73M  
845 posts
5/28/2006 12:29 pm

You made the right decision if you were not comfortable in that position. Take some time and have him visit you occasionally rather than staying there. TALK to him about his "bitch" role before you let him move in with you. I'd gladly fix thinga around your house but would never make a comment like he made. Bill

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