What???? No Orgasm????  

angelofmercy5 60F
12148 posts
6/2/2006 6:05 am

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What???? No Orgasm????

I was reading and commenting on a blog today about faking orgasms. Yes...I have been guilty of that in the past! I'm not proud of it...but it was in my younger days....and my man just wasn't going to let himself cum unless I did. I don't know if I was any good at faking it or not...but I DO know that I don't need to fake it anymore. I almost always orgasm.....several times. And this past year found me letting go enough that I squirted! Yes....it's for real!!!!

While I was writing that comment...I started to feel a kind of panicky feeling. What if I can't orgasm the same way when I'm allowed to start having sex again? What if the surgery has changed that?
What if no uterine contractions mean the orgasm isn't as intense? What if the lack of ovaries and therefore hormones make a difference???? What if I can't squirt?


lovemetouchme5 52F
2102 posts
6/2/2006 6:20 am

That is a very scary thought, but I don't think you'll have to worry. You might have to experiment different positions to get the right angle - do you think you would have a problem having sex over and over again until you found that perfect spot of Ecstasy???

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 6:42 am:
Well, now....when you put it that way? lol I kind of have a numb feeling down there still right now. And since I'm not allowed to play at all in that area....I just don't know.

rm_shannee2006 53F
3355 posts
6/2/2006 6:32 am

Have you discussed this with your doctor at all? It may be that you are worrying about nothing or it may be that this is an issue with some women and that simple exercises will take care of any problems. Get some info, so you won't worry anymore or you'll know what to do to help yourself through it...and damn! My thoughts are with you. Pleasure is so important in my life. I would be a bit scared too...hang in there.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 6:56 am:
Shannee....I know what you mean about pleasure being important. I did talk to my doctor before the surgery and he assured me that nothing would change. But, I DO remember uterine spasms being so pleasurable...and there is no uterus there anymore. I guess I'll have to wait 3 more weeks and see.

STCMOguy4fun 38M

6/2/2006 6:36 am

~ blink blink ~ That would be bad... I think i would crawl into a whole & stay there.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 6:57 am:
STCMOguy....Welcome to my blog! I'll go read yours too. But yes...I may have to find a hole and crawl in. lol

VATraveler1948 69M

6/2/2006 6:45 am

A very frightening thought Angel BUT, there have been many aspects of your surgery that you feared and then overcame with flying colors. Let's hope this is another one of those fears.

Didn't you blog once that you had asked your doctor that very question before the operation? What did he say then? You have said that your husband is reasonably adept in his bedroom skills. Let's just hope that he is sensitive enough to help you find just the right buttons to push to make your eyeballs roll back in your head. That wasn't original, I heard it on a rerun of an old TV show the other night.

If, you discover that your eyeballs are still looking straight forward after you have your first sexual encounter after surgery, let me know, I don't live far away and I would like to try my hand at assisting in your complete recovery.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 6:48 am:
VAT....awwwwww...aren't you sweet! Thank you. I want "my eyeballs to roll back into my head"!

rm_unlistedone 67M
2718 posts
6/2/2006 6:54 am

CALL ME!!!!!!

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:37 am:
Ring......ring.....ring......Are you going to answer????? lol


6/2/2006 7:16 am

lmao at unlistedone...

you will and it may even be stronger because now you have peace of mind that everything is well....

thank our lucky stars

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We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:38 am:
Mrsmuffland....this is true! And I've been thinking about you alot lately my friend. Everything ok? love ya!

digdug41 50M

6/2/2006 7:39 am

well you gotta wait and see dont jump the gun angel I'm sure you'll be just fine

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:38 am:
Dig....I'm not jumping the gun! Or anything else for that matter....lol

longtallandcute 43M
42 posts
6/2/2006 7:56 am

Then again, you might get to be a virgin all over again! Bear with me - I have a point..

Haven't you ever wanted to take a journey of exploration.. again? Don't you remember the first time your knees shook because you were half an inch from cumming - and you didn't know why? When it was fumblefumblefumble*whattheHELLwasTHAT?* fumblefumblefumble *yippeee!*

Now I truly hope (and seriously expect) that you'll recover just fine - but everything is what you make it. Get well soon, and you'll be back to >>! in no time, doing naked happy dances (happyf

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:43 am:
Cutie....well, now you have a good point there. I do remember that time! And after a hiatus.....it could feel like the first time again. Thanks....postive thinking...positive thinking!

firestarter665 44M/40F

6/2/2006 8:01 am

I guess in 3 weeks there is only one way to find out. Keeping you in my thoughts that when the time comes for you to have sex that your orgasm is explosive.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:40 am:
Firestarter.....tell you what! I'll post fireworks on my blog if it is explosive!

EbonyHnk 38M

6/2/2006 8:04 am

Could it be Possilbe ? I can only imagine - horrendous !

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:10 am:
Ebony...I know! Wouldn't it be awful? Thanks for stopping by today!

EbonyHnk 38M

6/2/2006 8:08 am

A know Shrink suggested this difficulty in achieving orgasm might have evolved because it helped females select males who were the most powerful and thoughtful, who would be the most likely to hang around as a long-term partner and be a better bet for bringing up offspring. In this theory, women who orgasm easily may have been satisfied with mates who were less skilled in bed.

~ How about That ! ~

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:11 am:
WOW! Now that is something to think about, isn't it?

EbonyHnk 38M

6/2/2006 8:12 am

Ever heard of sex reassignment surgery (SRS) includes the surgical procedures by which a person's physical appearance and function of their existing sexual characteristics are changed to that of the other sex.

If thats possible i believe anything else is !

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:12 am:
Ebony...this is true! And if I can't orgasm....I'm headed right back to that doctor who assured me it wouldn't have any affect! lol

rm_Keystone3812 66M
583 posts
6/2/2006 8:14 am

I'm confident you won't have a problem with that, Sweet Angel.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:10 am:
Keystone....thank you my friend! Where have you been? Happy I hope!

oldude1946 72M

6/2/2006 8:27 am

Trust me, all will be the same

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:08 am:
Oldude....okay...but if it isn't, then I'm going to take up drinking coffee and sitting on the porch with the nude you! lol

rm_pagan380 66M
4405 posts
6/2/2006 8:36 am

I'm just taggin along with OD, things will be just fine Sweetie.

Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.


angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:09 am:
Pagan....I'm going to just have to wait and see. But gas up the Beaver to come and help just in case! lol

HBowt2 60F

6/2/2006 9:29 am

did'nt I tell you it would be ok...huh....i had mine 13 years ago and it gets better all the time.....and there's nothing to stop it being a daily occurance.......

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 11:52 am:
Hbowt2...you are right! And you did tell me that you are better than ever! I guess it was just thinking about it this morning that made me feel kind of panicky! Thanks my friend.

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
6/2/2006 9:32 am

The mind is very powerful. What if's are powerful...
Food for thought.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 11:52 am:
Goddess...well, I guess you have to keep coming back here to teach me this over and over. You are right!

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
6/2/2006 9:34 am

NOW... WHAT IF.................
everything will be better than it ever was before?

Huh? {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 11:55 am:
Goddess...you know what? Now that IS the power of positive thinking! And honestly, my orgasms have gotten better the last year anyways.....so...it WILL be better!

Sulabula 46F
12659 posts
6/2/2006 9:56 am

Of course you will ...and I squirted for the first time a few weeks ago lol...I don't think I have ever faked an orgasm tho...lol

Sula xxx

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angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 11:58 am:
Sula....you did? Really? Now isn't that the best orgasm when you let go enough to squirt? I still don't know exactly why it is that it doesn't happen every time.....but it is wonderful when it does.

HighPocKets1938 79M

6/2/2006 10:01 am

You just hush up and quit thinking that way. Ole Dr Feelgooder N. Gooder has assured me that there is absolutely no reason in, under or over the sun, the moon, or the dark that will change except

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 11:59 am:
Highpockets....you crack me up! It sounds to me like you've heard a female orgasm or two in your lifetime! lol Thanks Dr Feelgood!

horny4770 61M
8158 posts
6/2/2006 11:44 am

lol @ HighPocKets...that cracked me up!

One bridge at a time...don't be concerned, fear is in our minds, and that's where REALLY good sex starts!


btw...I drink coffee too!

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 12:01 pm:
Horny....lol! Highpockets cracked me up too! And you are right...good sex really starts in our mind...especially for women I think....although I AM a woman...so I'm a little biased there. I'll rememeber the coffee thing too!

penguinluvr 59M
1087 posts
6/2/2006 12:04 pm

Things will be..."different". Now whether that difference is bad or good will be up to you for the most part. You can't cut up a body and sew it back together without making changes, that's the nature of the beast. But aside from some structural changes (parts that aren't there) your state of mind will determine how it works. After I got out of the hospital I was having sex months before I could walk without a walker. Sex was suppoed to be harder than walking in my case...


angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 1:08 pm:
Opus...well, if it worked for you! I know I will just have to wait the rest of the time....and find out for myself...right? Thanks Opus.

campfirecozy 68M

6/2/2006 12:24 pm

take a deep breath, hon...it's gonna be OK. Most women do see a change in sexual appetite. For some, it's less. For you, with this load of stimulating friends, you might want to consider shopping for restraints!

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 1:07 pm:
Cozy...I'm sure my husband will be reassured by your comment! lol Know a good place to buy restraints?


6/2/2006 1:50 pm

Try increasing for play, and have ur partner give you a message, rub you all over, kiss your innter thighs, and have him eat you for 1 to 2 hours with out you keeping track of time. Have rub your clit, and suck hard on your pussy, and lick your ass around in circles... that should make you cum........... Never worry about not cuming, think of how many times you will cum......

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:39 pm:
Roxy....I think I can! I think I can! I have a great man in my life.....and he will do all he can do to pleasure me as soon as the doc gives his ok in 2 1/2 weeks. Thank you sweetie for your encouragement.

Looking0100 55M

6/2/2006 3:53 pm

Well Angel,
You sure are down on yourself today. You will never know anything for sure until you give it a try. Just wait for the surgical scars to heal, and test out your sexual theory.

I hope you have even more intense and very satisfying orgasms, much better than they had ever before been. You have been denied such activity, and you are clearly being frantic about losing a precious gift. You love that gift, the gift that keeps on coming and never gets old.

I do not know what you are really going through. I hope I do not have to face such dangerous thoughts. I am however on various web sites because of desperation. Desperation is a bad thing that can lead to really nasty conclusions and unhealthy relationships. That is something I hope you never ever have to face. It is a horrible feeling.

Just like your feeling is horrible. You are worried that you will lose something that is very dear to you. I give you lots of my hope that your surgery post-operation area will end soon, and you will be as good as new, if not better than ever. I am counting on you making a FULL recovery, including both the physical body, and your mind and soul.

You are telling yourself some negative things right now. How about if we change those into pleasant things. Just focus on getting better and having lots of sex. Keep that mental picture (what ever that is for you) in your mind's eye and never let it go. Always have that very good thought close to your heart. Know that you will not lose anything, but might gain something very nice.

What ever thought you have that makes you feel warm and safe, just keep believing that it will happen. My hope is here to support you in your fear and worry. You can have faith, as I do, that you WILL be a beautiful person inside and outside, meaning you will have a good body that can and will do the things you want it to do, and you will be in excellent spirits from that day onward. Never lose your hope, or your faith. Do not lose yourself to the bad stuff. Just keep it away from your heart. If you focus on everything that is good, you will soon be feeling better.

I know for a fact that you have lots and lots of love here. So many supporters are here to give you what ever you need, a kiss, a firm handhold (I want to do that for you), a hug, a cup or glass of your favorite beverage or drink, a slice of cake, a back massage, a foot massage (would you like me to give you one?), or anything else that your heart desires. Your friends (including me) are here to give you our love and support in what ever way you find comfort.

Here is another good idea. You have lots of blog friends, and you must have loads of real friends. Just think about all the good these people have done for you, the love they share with you, and how much more they will give to you, free of charge. These people do love you in each person's own special way, and they want to do what they can to help you feel better about yourself.

Take very good care of yourself,

Your blog friend,

Jon C.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:37 pm:
Looking....I do have such good friends both here and in the real world. Thank you for reminding me.

vrec_dawn 41M

6/2/2006 4:14 pm

Wow. That's a scary thought. I doubt you have anything to worry about. But it's still scary.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:37 pm:
Vrec....I know...it is a scary thought. Alright....I'm just going to have faith that it will be fine!

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

6/2/2006 5:02 pm



angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:36 pm:
Ready....doesn't it sound like an awful existence! I'm not going to think about it! I'm just going to wait my 3 more weeks.....and jump in with all my heart and soul.

normalornaught 36M

6/2/2006 5:09 pm

Orgasms start in the head and when your mind is stimulated you will be too.Let go, have fun, forget the concerns because the mind is the only thing that will hold you back. Happy Orgasms to you (as he slowly walks away whistling)

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:35 pm:
Normalornaught....I can just hear you sauntering away humming that tune! "Happy Orgasms to you....until we meet again!" Okay sweetie...I'm going to put my mind in the positive area.

puntachueca 107M

6/2/2006 7:10 pm

My ex went through exactly what you have, and had the same concern.
From first hand experience (pun intended)...no problemo. In fact, things got better, she had more and better orgasms...and she became a squirter at 56. I wish the heck I could have gotten along with her better in other realms. Just give it a little time to adapt...the human body and mind are really incredible creations.
remember...for every door that closes, a new one opens.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 8:31 pm:
puntachueca.....Thank you for this comment. It reassured me alot. And I do believe that for every door that closes a new one opens. I just need to get through the next 3 weeks....and go for it!

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
6/2/2006 8:49 pm

Awwww... It's going to be just fine. You are going to cum again and again and squirt again and again!


angelofmercy5 replies on 6/2/2006 9:39 pm:
Whisper....thank you sweetie! I will be thinking postively about it from now on. And it will happen soon....only 3 more weeks.

clitalicious67 50F

6/3/2006 4:19 am

I am sure you will be back in full force!!!! Squirting...something I have only done once or twice...damn...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 7:51 am:
Clitalicious....I can't wait!

libgemOH 57M/53F

6/3/2006 5:55 am

You had a post once before where you were talking about those things we labeled as emotional orgasms. Somehow dear, I just don't think you have anything to worry about!!!! Orgasms are always there for the horniest and randiest of us and you are one of the horniest and randiest women I know of!!! -B

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 7:50 am:
Thanks Libgem.....I know you're right.


6/3/2006 8:39 am

No way!!! you are way too sexy for that to happen.
Great bloggy darling, Marilyn loves you.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 10:47 am:
Kissable...thank you so much for the compliment. And thanks for stopping by my blog!

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
6/3/2006 12:33 pm


Without overstepping my bounds, I would be more than happy to prove that you can still orgasm...it would be a pleasure...in more ways than one...

Just a suggestion....

NG61...disappearing into the shadows...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 8:52 pm:
Nightguy...and you are close enough to reach out and touch too! Hmmmmmmm

BadAssBlonde1 58F
4989 posts
6/3/2006 1:34 pm


All in due time.

Lady Hunter / BAB

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 8:54 pm:
BAB.....thanks for stopping by! I know you are right!

interested13563 54M
2557 posts
6/3/2006 2:30 pm

The intense pleasure is mostly a result of brain activity!
I might humbly suggest that you be patient for a while
and things will work themselves for the better. A sensual
mind will always remain so...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 8:55 pm:
Interested....thank you for that reminder. And you know....my sensual mind set is coming back quickly now that I'm feeling better and better. I'm sure the orgasms will follow.

rm_DarknStar 55F
2823 posts
6/3/2006 6:28 pm

Oh Keeping fingers crossed that everything will be OK! and you never know....You might be headed for the Best Sex of your life!

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 8:56 pm:
Darknstar...from your lips to God's ears! I just might be headed for the best sex of my life! And I promise.....I'll post the fireworks!

HighPocKets1938 79M

6/3/2006 8:57 pm

Quoting your response to campfirecozy "Cozy...I'm sure my husband will be reassured by your comment! lol Know a good place to buy restraints?" Angel, please be my guest, I have at least 4 different ones that you are more than welcome to try out at anytime before you make up your mind if you want to explore that thought further. I also give personal one on one seminars on the proper uses of some very good restraints.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/3/2006 9:03 pm:
Highpockets.....hmmmmmm....a personal seminar, eh? Well, I'll let you know.

Juliet610 52F

6/3/2006 11:07 pm

Sweet Angel,

1. Take a
2. RELAX!!!!

I had my hysterectomy at 32 (but my doc left my ovaries), and let me tell you, things have only gotten better! I became a squirter after my surgery, and it was (and still is!) amazing. As you have said in many places, at least for us women, sex, romance, pleasure all begin in the mind. It sounds like your hubby will be more than willing to work with you to, um, work out all the kinks.

Oh and speaking of kinks: about those restraints... Some time ago, I dated an ER doc for a short while, and he said at his hospital, they were required to retire the psyche unit restraints after 12 or 18 months of use (I can't remember which one). They just threw them in the trash! Anyway, with your hospital connections, it should be a piece of cake for you to get a "worn out" set. They had plenty of life left in them for what he had in mind. As a matter of fact, they still do--I somehow ended up with them when we went our separate ways, figuring he knew how to get more....

Still holding you up in prayer,

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/4/2006 4:02 am:
Julie.....thank you! Knowing that you and a few others who have had this surgery don't have the problem really reassures me. And as to those restraints.....hmmmmmm....what a great idea. And how cool you inherited those! Have fun.....and Julie...thank you for your prayers.

PS...it is so good to hear that you are happy and having a good time.

twirly_girl 48F

6/3/2006 11:41 pm

From women I know who've had the same surgury,
you've got nothing to worry about sweetie.
Worrying about it will be the only block you
might have from orgasming or squirting.
Best wishes on your speedy recovery.



angelofmercy5 replies on 6/4/2006 4:03 am:
Nic.....thank you so much! I'm just going to try not to worry...and start to prepare my mind to resume mind blowing sex! I'm so glad you stopped by my blog. I hope you'll come back often.

mycin62 56F

6/4/2006 5:44 am

Oh, honey, don't worry about, YOU WILL!!!

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/4/2006 10:10 am:
Mycin....I believe you...and I can't wait! I'll let you know.

nodrama1958 61M/60F

6/4/2006 8:42 pm

Oh, cool! You're a squirter too!!! I am 48 and it started happening for me a few months ago. The first time it happened I thought I peed all over myself (and him)lol! I don't squirt every time but it is certainly regular. As a matter of fact, I need to change the sheets before going to bed tonite! Just keep counting the days and you'll be back better than before. My husband had to have back surgery 2 months after we got married. (isn't that just the luck..) Doc said no sex for 2 weeks. On day #4 I had him on his back and said "just lie there and I'll do all the work!" I guess you have more patience than I do! Take care and I'll check back in.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/4/2006 9:04 pm:
Nodrama....well, I certainly don't have more patience than you....just sutures inside the vagina from the cervix being removed. Now.....isn't squirting the coolest thing? I just started this past year. I don't squirt everytime either...and I don't exactly know what the key is except relaxing and letting go.....but I love the feeling! I'm so glad to get to know you!

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