Someone Special  

angelofmercy5 60F
12148 posts
5/20/2006 10:02 am

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Someone Special

Have you ever met someone....or cyber-met someone that was so just felt an instant connection to them? Someone here in blogland maybe? Someone that you just felt like your very souls touched and you'll never be quite the same again?

I have. Here in blogland. It is [blog Unlistedone] Unlistedone

During my birthday month (January), he took it upon himself to really help me with some aspects of my marriage that I was struggling with. My husband had kind of gotten cyber involved with some rather unsavory women...sorry girls...and my understanding of the whole thing was just nil. I didn't understand how you could even imagine that you were "in love" with someone that you never even met in person....or for that matter, spoken to on the phone. [blog Unlistedone] took it upon himself to be my teacher...and without me even knowing what was going on....he "taught" me how people can connect here on the internet. He took me to a place that I had to admit that I "loved" him....and then told me that I needed to understand how easily emotions can get involved. So, during that month of January....he served me cyber breakfast in bed every morning. He took me through some emotions and mental exercises that truly helped me to be free to be who I am today.

And, wonder of marriage healed in many ways as I became strong enough to say "no more"! And to understand what my own feelings are....and to grow. And even more of a wonder was that in the process, [blog Unlistedone] had to admit that he "loved" me too. And I learned that there are many kinds of love between men and women....and they can all be wonderful. So, although we have never met......I will always love him. He truly understands love...and can put these emotions into words in a way that we can almost all "feel" ourselves in his poetry and writings. It is a gift......HE IS A GIFT! To all of blogland.

Then, as I was facing the biopsy and waiting for the initial results to find out if once again I would be fighting cancer.....he started the "butterfly" phenomenon by his post....and also posting a request on some other key people's blogs to fly a butterfly in my honor. From that.....I have gathered strength, laughter, tears, and many new friends. I felt like all of blogland walked through this surgery with me....and I smiled every single day at the outpouring of all of you good people here who really and truly cared.

It is his 1 year anniversary blogging today! And just recently he thought of leaving would have truly been a huge loss I think. Would you please go to his blog today [blog Unlistedone] and wish him Happy Anniversary...and while you are his writings and enjoy. Thanks my friends.....I knew I could count on you.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY [blog Unlistedone]!!!

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
5/20/2006 10:24 am

Awesome Angel!!!...thanks for telling us, that is a wonderful story of connection and growing...

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/20/2006 10:57 am:
Thanks Lusty! I know you to be a caring wonderful person also. And I love your blog.

Fox4aKnight1 44F

5/20/2006 10:29 am

Done sweetie!!


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/20/2006 10:57 am:
Thanks Kelli....I knew I could count on you!

helga_hansen 50F
1987 posts
5/20/2006 10:39 am

Like you, I have met some very special people, and have connected with someone very special. I have been fortunate enough to meet him... and whatever happens in our lives, he will always remain truly special to me. I am always so pleased to learn of other happy experiences!! Congratulations to both of you!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/20/2006 10:59 am:
Helga....I'm so happy for you too Helga! We all need these special people in our lives...and we are blessed when we actually connect with them. I hope to someday meet him in person too.

Wackytits 54F

5/20/2006 12:06 pm

Angel....Thank You for this. I also found someone very special from this site, and we fell in love. Sadly I doubt we will ever meet. But our connection will hold us together as 'Special Friends' forever.

Heading over to unlistedone right now. xx

rm_cru1972 46M
4407 posts
5/20/2006 12:21 pm

I too have met many wonderful people in Blogvile, I too have met someone I need to know more. We have yet to meet, but I am looking forward to the day we do meet.

pleasureyourclit 67M
836 posts
5/20/2006 12:37 pm

Nice post AngeL and thanks for sharing it! Hope you arr still moving forward on your road to recovery.

Have a nice weekend,

rm_coathanger1 49M
859 posts
5/20/2006 12:59 pm

Some people here would be easy to love.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/20/2006 1:27 pm

Consider it done....and I know what you mean. There are several here that I have grown rather fond of and hopefully, have grown used to me. Though I doubt I'll ever meet them, I still have feelings for them...

NG61...slipping back into the shadows...

seek_u_topia 52M

5/20/2006 1:32 pm

Angel...this is wonderful...I'm glad he was here to make you feel so much and to help others of us feel too. I'll go over to his blog right now. Cheers!

kelly402005 53F

5/20/2006 2:12 pm

Angel...... On my way!!!

Have a good nite girl!!!

PassionKisses4Me 45F

5/20/2006 3:05 pm

what a wonderful post...I so understand about the love thing...I met my sweetie on a sister site of AdultFriendFinder...he is my best friend and my lover...I love him so deeply on so many different levels...just amazing

On my way to his blog to give my congrats



HBowt2 60F

5/20/2006 3:33 pm

going right on over...

VATraveler1948 69M

5/20/2006 5:13 pm

I'm heading over there as soon as I finish this. I have read Unlistedone's blog pretty regularly for the past 6 months or so and I agreem he is a very caring person and certainly one who is a big asset to Blogland!

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
5/20/2006 8:38 pm

That's so wonderful. I will visit his Blog. It is a wonderful thing that someone you have never met in "real" life can be so special.
What an uplifting post.

clitalicious67 50F

5/20/2006 9:01 pm

What a great tribute to your friend...thanks for sharing...hugs C~

Looking0100 55M

5/20/2006 10:11 pm

Angel, my sweet,

I never knew the troubles you and your husband had been having. I am sorry for that. I only started in December last year at being online with both email and internet access.

I can tell you that I was one of the friends that supported you while you were in surgery. And I am still here for you now.

I want to share with you some of my experiences while online. I met lots of friends online, five are very good friends, and five are blog friends (including you). I have devoted a large part of my life to finding and keeping my friends, and I will continue to be with them. I love all ten of these women (as friends), as if they were here with me right now. I also love ShayeDK as a friend that I lost. Can you tell me if you know her personally? If you do know her for real, can you ask her if she will forgive me for one bad mistake. I apologized many times to her in her blogs, but never got a response. One good thing is that she is not blocking me from her blog. I know that she has a beautiful heart and an excellent writing style (the best I have ever seen here).

Now, about good things. I met online my California friend over 11/2 months ago. We started talking in a private chat room in a different web site (one-on-one chats, profiles, and emails). We hit it off rather well. She opened up to me about a big problem that she was having. I was there to listen to everything she said and I truly supported her. That happened within two days. Since then, we have shared so much of our lives and have given our love (as friends) to each other every day. We do have our difficult times. But we can always work through all of it, and still be good friends that love each other. We share pain, sorrow, laughter, sadness, anger, love, and so much more. I very much love her for being a part of my life. She knows everything about my relationship with my ex-girlfriend, the love, the good times, the bad times, and the abandonment, and so much more.

Back in December, I had my very first real love while online. She is a beautiful woman from Russia, my very good Russian friend. We have often communicated in another web site's chat (pay sex-chat). We hit it off very well during my first visit to her chat room. We ha sex of course. But we shared more that first time. And we had many more sex-chats since then. Plus we have done lots of emailing back and forth. We have shared so much of ourselves back then. I do miss her now. We still talk but only on occasion. I cannot pay much for her sex-chat now because of a certain hardship of my own. But, I email her often still. She doesn't email me anymore and I do not know why. We have had several chats without sex since the last email she sent to me more than a month ago. Once, she really helped me a whole bunch when my girlfriend abandoned me. That was just over a month ago. I talked to her and she listened to me without judgement.

And then, there is my first Canadian friend. I met her online at the Party Room at AdultFriendFinder. We hit it off instantly. She liked me and I liked her. During my second visit at the Party Room, I invited her to be in my Friends Network (she was my first invite) and she immediately accepted. We have had dozens of conversations by email. We truly love each other as friends, and talk about lots of different things. She emailed me a warning about scams shortly after I was abandoned. Several days later I emailed her with a small request. I thought I lost her. But I didn't lose her. She finally emailed me again on May 4th and sent me four more emails since then. I know that she still loves me, despite the request, which she can understand concerning the circumstances. And she does know all about that. Recently, I found that she is no longer a member of AdultFriendFinder, but is still shown in my Friends Network. We can no longer chat, but we can send each other emails. And I will continue to do that.

I have lots of other friends. Those three I mentioned are very close to my heart and always will be. They were my first friends. I will always love them and they will always love me. I will not talk much about my other friends. But I can say that they are good people and I enjoy talking to each of them, especially a few other very good friends. Those women I also love. And I know they love me as well.

I can also mention that I have five blog friends. I enjoy reading their posts every day and am often leaving responses to their posts. One of these women [blog hippie_square] and Shaye are very good writers. Excellent writers indeed. And they are beautiful women (physically yes, but they also have endless inner beauty). I see their beauty every time they write. I know that they are good people with lots of compassion, love, respect, and so many other excellent qualities. You, Angel, are my newest friend. I am learning more and more about you as the days pass. I hope to continue to learn more about you. Please visit my blog again and learn about me. You are mentioned there at least two times as a friend.

So, in summary, I can say that it is quite possible to find love and friendship online. My only friends are online friends currently. I am working toward finding friends who live in my area. But have so far got nothing there. I do wonder if women are afraid to be with me for real, even they that is easily a possibility. I have friends, but the closest one lives in Minnesota. I live in New York State. So these friends are "safe" from me. While those living in my local area of New York State do not even respond to my emails. I have sent literally dozens of emails, and I will continue to send out emails.

Never ever lose hope, and always keep your faith. These will make you want to keep going every day and every night. I know that from experience.

Your blog friend,

Jon C.

ryota3k 38M

5/20/2006 10:47 pm

thanks for the welcome

rm_Keystone3812 66M
583 posts
5/21/2006 3:18 am

You're both fortunate!

rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
5/22/2006 12:54 am

This post touches me deeply.
And the response to it from all your friends, both here and on my blog gives me a renewed sense that perhaps I do belong here in blogland.

You are such a friend to many here. One that gives of herself, without asking for anything in return.
I guess that's one of the reasons it's so easy to give so much back to you.

Whether we ever meet face-to-face or not, I will always be the better for having known you.
143, my


5/22/2006 3:58 pm

Angel this is so beautiful.. Thanks for sharing..I too met someone when hubby and I were having some hard times..Nothing romantic and we never met but we chatted a lot He really helped me through some ruff times. Really helped me with a Mans perspective on things that really opened my eyes and was able to view the situation with hubby and I more clearly and I will cherish our friendship forever.

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wondertwins2006 44F/39F
138 posts
5/24/2006 7:03 pm

You can love someone you have no chance of meeting. My feelings for my guardian demon are.... hard to explain. He's part lover, father figure, mentor, bossom friend. He's seen me on good, bad and crazy days. I've opened my heart and soul to him.

And the chances of sharing anything else are damned remote. He's across an ocean. SET might as well be on the moon. But I'll take him in any manner I can.

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