Sisters Are Forever  

angelofmercy5 60F
12148 posts
7/25/2006 5:07 am

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Sisters Are Forever

My sister is here visiting from Ohio. Last night, after running from dawn to dusk.....we just watched a silly show on TV. But just sitting with my sister and laughing over silly things makes me realize how much I miss having her in my daily life.

We were three sisters, three little stairsteps born about 18 months apart. I was the oldest with straight brown hair and brown eyes.....she, the youngest with curly blondish hair and blue eyes. She was shy.....I was outgoing. I blazed the trail and the other two usually followed without any fuss at all.

We had a sissy boy next door to us who was a bully. Now, he picked on my sisters, but not me. So, I regularly had to give him a bloody nose or push him off the stoop into our bushes. Until my Dad asked me to stop pushing him into the bushes because it was ruining them. So, then I just had to punch his face when he picked on my sisters. It wasn't that I was so brave....or that I fought alot....it was just my job to protect my two sisters.

One terrible day my sister called.....the middle sister who lived in Kentucky and had just turned 40.....had had a stroke. We put my mom and dad on a plane immediately. But my sister and I decided that we should probably wait and go when she needed us the most......in rehabilitation. We didn't know how bad it was, and we decided that if we went afterwards, we could be more help to her. Several hours later came the phone call you never want to get. She was being taken by helicopter to Lexington.......it wasn't a stroke....it was a massive brain aneuysm. We left immediately, my sister from Ohio, me from Virginia and drove as fast as we could towards Lexington Kentucky.

I fought hard for my sister on that drive. I cried.....I prayed. And I looked up at the night stars at one point.....and I just knew that my sister's spirit had left her body. I could almost see her in the stars. I could feel her touch me. But I fought still. When we arrived, we learned that indeed....it was hopeless. Her EEG showed no brain activity....no response......no ability to truly say goodbye to her. Her body was on life support as the organ transplant teams were gathered to take the organs that she so wanted donated....so someone else could live.

That night, we listened to the helicopters regularly leaving the hospital with what we knew were my sister's organs. And as our brothers came from California, my sister and I watched our parents live through the death of their child. We watched them turn old right before our eyes. And still......in my heart.....I wanted to fight for my sister. I wanted to do more for her.

So, my sister and I......we cherish the moments that God allows us. There is no one in the world that I'd rather travel with, laugh with.....just do silly things with. We live too far apart for my liking.....but it makes our moments together more precious. You know that none of us are promised a tomorrow....and this year has once again made time precious to me. Make sure that you spend some of that time with your family, and just be a kid again.


And.....if you dare to bully my sister......

I'll still punch you in your face!


ZZ_Todd 60M

7/25/2006 7:11 am

I'm like that with my sibs... even though we're so spread apart we don't get together too often, it's always great when we do. I'm the typical middle child... used to hate that, but I guess now that we're all grown up it doesn't matter.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:17 am:
Todd....my family is spread too far apart too now. But we do try to get together. My sister that I lost was the middle sister too....and she always hated it as well.

spacecadet561 61M

7/25/2006 8:45 am

A little arithmetic says it's been several years since you lost your sister, but condolences are still in order. She is not completely gone because you carry her in your heart.

SpaceCadetรน


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:17 am:
Spacecadet....yes, it has been some years since she passed...but thank you my sweet friend. She will always be in my heart.

rm_DarknStar 55F
2823 posts
7/25/2006 9:54 am

Im the oldest of 3 too, I have a sister 18 months younger than me and a brother 9 years younger than ME! I understand STANDING UP for them. I have done it all my life and for this, they protect me toooo.

and WOW...showing the bully side of you. *punchem in the face*. I would have never thought you would do such a thing.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:18 am:
Darkn.....I wasn't really a fighter as a kid.....unless someone picked on my sisters! lol

fantasylover_05 63M

7/25/2006 9:59 am

Speechless..........................


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:19 am:
Fantasy......love ya! But speechless???? Not even one LOL???

a123rat 50M
1113 posts
7/25/2006 10:36 am

I'm the baby, and my older Sister bloodied my nose more than she did the neighbor's. We've grown out of that and see each other as much as our individual family life will allow.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:19 am:
123......that is TOO funny! I'm glad you two grew out of that!

MaggiesWishes 61F

7/25/2006 11:04 am

I'm an "only child" and never having that closeness you speak of is why I tend to adopt females that enhance my life.
Altho, they never tend to stay long, due to moving or moving on in their lives, it was great to share those moments that "could be sister related" in the bond.

Thank you for this story.
Warm huggies 2ya Sis


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:20 am:
Mags......I'm absolutely thrilled to be considered your "sis"! So....blogland....be warned....don't pick on my "Sis"!

bustybettyboop 51F  
59326 posts
7/25/2006 11:12 am

i have five sisters soo i totally know where you are coming from! friends will come and go but nobody better mess with my sisters! hugz,busty

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angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:21 am:
Busty.....no one could have said it better! Thanks sweetie!

Greekgirl4u06 40F

7/25/2006 11:13 am

you are very right about living for the day because we are not promised tomorrow. im sure your sister is smiling down on you every day. god bless.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:22 am:
Greekgirl....thank you sexy lady! I know she is with me everyday! Thanks for stopping by.

electriccompany 53M

7/25/2006 11:40 am

Awright, awright already! I promise I'll be nice to your sister...

Oh, hell! I just can't resist! There's this dirty, filthy limmerick about two sisters that goes ...

Ow, OW OWWWWWW! Stop twisting my arm off! I give, I give! Auntie Angel! Auntie Angel!


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:22 am:
Electric.......shall I keep twisting your arm? Or are you going to tell me that limmerick?

rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
7/25/2006 12:10 pm

I can't say it any better than Greekgirl just did. Thanks for sharing your story.
ger - (Commenting freely and without expectation.)


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:23 am:
Ger.....thanks for stopping by.....and especially for that great picture! lol

rm_ClitPumper1 50M
273 posts
7/25/2006 12:45 pm



I too want others to benefit from my existence.

P.S.

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Now available in my blog.

Before big brother AdultFriendFinder screws with it.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:23 am:
I'll pop over to read it!

luvtolick64154 63M

7/25/2006 1:47 pm

Words to live by sweet Angle. Hold tight to the ones you love, time is so fleeting.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:24 am:
Luv.....you are SO right here! Thanks sweetie!

free2chose2 67F

7/25/2006 2:21 pm

Enjoy your sister's visit and cherish the memories

Don't worry, be Happy


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:25 am:
Free.....thank you! We are enjoying each other.....just doing the everyday things with her makes me wish she was here more often!

wickedeasy 68F  
30968 posts
7/25/2006 2:24 pm

i bet my sister could take you..............

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:25 am:
Wicked......ROFLMAO! That sounded like a phrase right out of my childhood! Thanks!

rm_Shortdogg65 52M
672 posts
7/25/2006 2:28 pm

I lost an uncle to an aneurysm. I never got to meet him because he lived in CA. He would call my father regularly and I would get to talk to him sometimes. I also have a sister who is battling breast cancer. I will be spending my vacation with her next week. Shortdogg


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:27 am:
Shortdogg.....I will be praying for your sister. You know that I'm a breast cancer survivor......so I do understand. I'm so glad you'll spend time with her soon. Just treat her normal...not as an invalid....with one eye always on conserving her strength! Not an easy balance...but you can do it!

JazzDlight 60F

7/25/2006 3:13 pm

That was lovely thanks for sharing. I don't really have any family anymore it is just basically me in the world. Jazz


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:28 am:
Jazz....well, you have a big family here! And I'd love to consider you part of mine.

VATraveler1948 69M

7/25/2006 3:30 pm

I don't mess with big sisters... or little sisters. Hell, I don't mess with any women. There hasn't been a girl yet to give me a bloody nose either, and I want it to stay that way. I promise to leave your sister alone.

That was a nice post Angel, I can only imagine your pain through that experience.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:28 am:
VAT....well, I could always be the first! Been practicing my swing!

LookandWink 64M

7/25/2006 3:59 pm

May you find peace in your life,
Love in your heart,
And the joy of living
Each day to the fullest.
Sing your songs like
You are in your shower.
Dance your party
As if no one is watching.
Live your life
As if it ends tomorrow.
Love without abandon,
All who you call friend.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:31 am:
Look....that was beautiful! Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving this for me!

redrobin012057 61F

7/25/2006 4:20 pm

We have laughed togetherHi Angel,please read that post of mine,and I will email you in private for further comments. Robin!!!


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:31 am:
Red......I read it...and your email. I just want to give you a hug for real! love ya!

interested13563 54M
2557 posts
7/25/2006 5:05 pm

I do respect your sister as I respect you!
It is hard to imagine the pain your family
went through but there is a chance since
we all go through tragic moments. By the way
years ago I almost strangled somebody who
bullied my brother.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:32 am:
Interested....I knew I liked you for a reason! Anyone who defends his sibling is a friend of mine! Thanks!

IAmRubytuesday 56F
3193 posts
7/25/2006 5:30 pm

That was just beautiful! I too am the oldest of 3 sisters and have beaten up more people than i care to mention in their honour. It goes with the territory, eh?

So sorry about your middle sister, but how poignant that she lives on....and that you could hear her flying away through the skies in her final moments. xxx

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:33 am:
Ruby....I'm so happy that you stopped by here today! Hope you come back often!

readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
106F

7/25/2006 5:42 pm

I had such a relationship once and I KNOW just what you mean about it being your job to be the protector...And so I did and opened doors for her(my little sister) as well. I would have laid down my life for that little shit head....BUT that is all gone now that she married a lying ass hole....What HURTS the most is she NEVER appreciated a damn thing I ever did for her....I miss having a little sister but strangely enough I DON"T miss her at all...It has left a giant void in my heart and in my life

Ready


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:34 am:
Ready.....that is just awful! But you know what....the day will come that she will wake up and want to come back into your life. But in the meantime....I'd love to be a sis to you and fill that void! ~hugs~

clitalicious67 50F

7/25/2006 5:47 pm

What a beautiful post! I am so sorry for your loss...and you are right we are never promised tomorrow...so always live like today is your last day...

I always tell those that I love that I love them as often as possible...I try to never go to sleep angry...and never have regrets...

Hugs

C~


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:35 am:
Clit....~hugs~! Thats a great way to live your life!

impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
7/25/2006 6:13 pm

OMG...Angel. I CANNOT even comprehend losing my big sister. She is beyond precious to me. She's seven years older but we've ALWAYS been close and though I'm sure i was a pain in the ass, she always let me hang with her and her friends. I even bought us matching T-shirts that say, "I'm the BIG Sister" & "I'm the Little Sister". You know...so everyone would know who was older (and much wiser). Blessings to you and your Sisters, and yes, I said sister's because we both know that bonds like that are not broken by something as puny as death.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:36 am:
Impish.....I love that you have a big sister you cherish! And you are right....death can't break those bonds! love ya.....Sis!

bigandtallreturn 38M

7/25/2006 7:53 pm

Don't forget, brothers are forever, too.

Even if mine used to twist my arm literally around my head. Damn, that shit hurt.

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:37 am:
Big....yes....brothers are forever too!

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
7/25/2006 8:48 pm

No sisters here...well not blood kind of family of origin sisters....

Maybe that's why I appreciate my sister Sisters so much...
'cause I never had them. Only had 3 brothers... the only
sister that I had died when she was 6 months old and I was
just a little girl at the time... I just didn't understand
so I've been told...still don't...


Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:37 am:
Goddess...I'd love to consider you a sister! May I?

twirly_girl 48F

7/25/2006 9:28 pm

Even though me and my sister never got along too
fabulously, we grow closer the older we get.
One day and not too far away, me and my sister will
be all we have left of our family.

I'm sorry you lost your middle sister.
It's especially hard when it's sudden and you don't
get to say goodbye.



-Nikki


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:38 am:
Nic....that is sad that soon it will just be you and your sister. But at least you have each other.

sweetSinn2690
2943 posts
7/25/2006 10:20 pm

Angel...this post is so touching. I cannot fathom the pain you all must have felt. So sorry sweetie. This makes me want to call my sisters...all 5 of them and tell them how much i really do love them.
Too much time certainly has gone by and it is time. TY hon for reminding me.((((hugs))))


Oh WHATEVER BITCHES!


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:39 am:
Sinn....you call those sisters! I wish I had called mine more often before she passed! We all get busy with life....but sometimes we need to just stop and take the time to say "I love you" to people who are truly important to us.

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
7/26/2006 12:23 am

My little sister is the most precious person in my life, there isn't anything I wouldn't do for her.
You brought tears to my eyes with this one, Angel.
Speechless and deeply touched...


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:46 am:
Curious....I already knew that about you and your sister from your blog. It is one of the things that draws me to you.....you have a precious heart.

SacredStarDance

7/26/2006 3:16 am

true words to live by.. live like there's no tomorrow and leave nothin unsaid..
Beautiful post

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 4:47 am:
Mrsmuff...and no one does that better than you! love ya!

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
7/26/2006 5:21 am

i live too far from mine and we were never really close as kids,to many differant characters,i've tried over the years to separate the gap but niether are ready yet

I'm closer to my friends than them and i love and need them it is enough


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:50 am:
Papy....and thank God for friends....right?

electriccompany 53M

7/26/2006 6:04 am

angelofmercy5 replies on 7/26/2006 7:22 am:
Electric.......shall I keep twisting your arm? Or are you going to tell me that limmerick?

Okay! You asked for it, Angel!

There once were two sisters in Virginia.
Three guys said, "We wanna get in ya!"
If only we were three,
'Twould be so easy!
Then we would ravage your cocks for dinner!


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:50 am:
electric.......I'm sorry I asked! lol

Looking0100 55M

7/26/2006 8:42 am

Angel,

I am back! Thank you for inviting me back to your blog.

Actually, I have one small problem. You had a blogland orgy. You never invited me. You came to my blog earlier but didn't invite me. I waited. But nothing. You did invite at least two fellow bloggers, and friends of mine. Why not me?

Back to you. I am not being selfish. I try never to be selfish. I am here now and I will stay if that will make you feel better. I still like you as a friend.

I continue to give you my love and support every day. That didn't stop even when I stopped visiting your blog. I have constantly wished that you were having fantastic sex with your husband and that the rest of your life was splendid.

Now, I see you need me again. I am not here just for that. I will stay. But, you clearly need love, lots of love. I am giving you my love, my support, and my shoulder to cry on. I hold out my hand for you to squeeze. I will stay by your side until your pain subsides.

I do not know what it is like to lose a sister. I also do not know what it is like to have a close family. I have two brothers and two sisters, the youngest being eight years older than me. The oldest is fifteen years older than me (and probably older than you).

I am not telling you how to feel. I want you to do what ever feels right and natural. Cry if you must. My shoulder is here for you. We can hug until you are done sobbing.

Take good care of yourself and your other sister,

Jon C.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:51 am:
Jon....my sister and I are having a great time together!

HBowt2 60F

7/26/2006 8:53 am

wouldnt dare angel.....I have no sisters....just the one brother...I cant imagine the pain you went through losing your sister like that....so glad you have such a close relationship with your other sister....there is nothing makes us feel as helpless as death...


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:52 am:
HB.....boy, isn't that the truth? Are you close to your brother?

butterflylove63 54F
1 post
7/26/2006 12:19 pm

Sisters are Forever,
I absoluately agree with you, all good girls and fellows! Had lost sister in law in car accident with my other brother. That took her life. She was also my best friend, we all family encourage and supported her. Never forget her "cocoon" into beautiful blossm- butterfly. Every time, I look at the blue sky, feel the wind breeze. I feel her wings flapping to know she's here with us. I see, some more of my people - girls has died from cancer, many others took their lives. Go grab chitty-chatty with your dear loving families and friends. We don't know what's tomorrow but We have "today", go to ask one or two friends out for coffee or sharing a movie at your place! How about ask your mom/dad to join along PJammies' Party!
"Live every day as if it were your last, tomorrow is not promised".


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:53 am:
Butterfly....thanks for stopping by here today! I know what you mean about seeing her in nature! I hope you won't be a stranger here....I'd like to get to know you better!

Passion247000 47F
3195 posts
7/26/2006 8:37 pm

I weeped as i read your post.... Tears still lingers as I write this to you. My heart aches for you...

I am too choked up now to complete this reply.... there are so much more I wanna say to you to make you feel better.... But all I can come up with is this BIG Warm Hug}}}}}}}}


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:55 am:
Passion.....and a great big hug is just what I needed! Thanks!

VTLakesideVixen 61F
458 posts
7/26/2006 9:18 pm

I am so sorry about your loss Angel. I want to say that I know what you went through, but I can't because I haven't lost my Sister--not to death anyways.

There is only my sister and my Mom left of our family. And because her husband (the asshole!) decided he didn't like my Mom after my Father died, he got my Sister to throw my Mother out of their home.

My Mother is so very hurt by my Sisters actions still and it will be
three years at Christmas time that this happened. She will not call
my Mom or take any calls from her and has only sent 1 Christmas card, 1 late birthday card, and 1 late Mother's Day cards. But yet Mom won't give up on her.

There is almost 4 years between us. And like you I defended the little shit when anyone tried to go after her. Because I took Our Mom in after my sister threw her out she refuses to even acknowledge my existance. My youngest daughter got married a year ago in June.
They came to the wedding because they didn't want to hurt my daughter, and I do appreciate that, but when I went to try to greet her, she turned away from me and pretended that she had not heard me.
When Mom tried to greet her, she turned and walked away. Broke my Mother's heart all over again!

Frankly, I am really pissed at my Sister for doing this, but you know
I could not and would not turn my back on her should she ever need me.


angelofmercy5 replies on 7/27/2006 3:56 am:
VT....How sad is that? I feel so bad for your mom....her "mother" heart must really grieve over this. I'm so proud of you though that you would still step in if she needed you!

rm_Unikorns63 49M/54F

8/1/2006 2:59 pm

Great story!!
I dont get to see my Only Sister very much. She lives in Ga. and I'm in Fla.
Loved the input !!


PlaynAgain 55F

8/2/2006 3:52 am

How lucky you are to have such a close family. Mine was never close, and most - including my only brother - are gone now.

"Attitude is everything. Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain."


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