REALITY CHECK  

angelofmercy5 60F
12148 posts
9/7/2006 9:23 am

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9/8/2006 9:53 am

REALITY CHECK

I have been seeing a therapist that was recommended to me by someone that I really respect. The first session was awesome! I finally felt like this was someone who was ready to help me work on ME!

But unfortunately, while she takes my insurance, she is not in my network. So....insurance won't pay. We do have Tricare Standard as well, because my husband is retired military....but then there is a co-pay. So, I had an appointment yesterday, and I went fully ready to tell her that I wouldn't be able to keep coming there.

And then I got there. The first thing she did was re-cap for me what we talked about last week. And I had to pick my jaw up from the floor! She heard me.....she really heard me! And she even said it better than I did! Then she talked to me about healing.....talked to me about my childhood and family and growing up. And all of a sudden, I saw that from a very young age, I have been taking responsibility for everyone. Some of it thrust on me....and some of it I willing took on myself.

I need to heal.....I need this. I have to find a way. I need to do this just for ME!

Does anyone out there know anything about the Sanctuary?


horny4770 61M
8158 posts
9/7/2006 10:03 am

To be truly beneficial, you need to do it for you. I'm glad you're viewing this as a positive move forward. I know you will find a way!

H.


SacredStarDance

9/7/2006 10:07 am

I'm sooooo happy for you.. Call your ins. company .. I went through the same thing. there is a lil red tape but I was able to get my therapist added to my net work..long story...
all and all he has helped sooooooooo much. I'm happy I went and have another appointment tomorrow

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rm_Bladesong 42F
476 posts
9/7/2006 10:35 am

Angel,

Good therapists are hard to find. I know it may be hard for you but I know you will do everything possible to find a way. I am really happy that someone is listening to you and you are getting the help you need for yourself.

~It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved!

Be Good to those around you!

Blade


electriccompany 54M

9/7/2006 11:15 am

Angel sed:
... all of a sudden, I saw that from a very young age, I have been taking responsibility for everyone. Some of it thrust on me....and some of it I willing took on myself ...

HEY! This is great news for you, Girl!

OH HO-LEE CRAP!!! This is bad news for me! I suddenly get the feeling you're beginning to nurture a healthy self-image. How much longer can I exploit the old Angel that would swing by my place on the way home from work, make me a sandwich and bring me a beer (and "put a head on it" ) ?


(And could you run the vacuum cleaner next visit?)


rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
9/7/2006 11:18 am

What price is healing?
Fuck the insurance.
Seems to me that the insurance would pay for a bozo
who wouldn't hear you... (seems like those guys are always
on the rahrah insurance yes list) and then how far ahead are you?

Life is too short to forge forward any other way...trust me.

Go to the best possible one that you have available
and find a way to make it happen.
Call me... I have an idea


Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


rm_SWSunset64 52F
3940 posts
9/7/2006 11:25 am

I hope everything works out so that you can continue working with this therapist.

SWSunset64


FINE AS WINE IN 2009!
SWSunset64


VATraveler1948 69M

9/7/2006 12:31 pm

I'm glad you have found a therapist that you like. My advice is to just pay the cost, your mental health is worth the cost.


fantasylover_05 63M

9/7/2006 12:54 pm

I am truly happy for you Angel

FOCUS ON YOU!!!

Believe me.. you are WORTH EVERY NICKEL!!

There has to be a way!!!


terry4u9 55M

9/7/2006 1:23 pm

Thats great ! The first step is knowing what is wrong. The work is doing what it takes to heal. Sounds like you are going in the right direction. We all have our challenges. I have been thinking of writing a book about dating over 40. So many people infact all of us have concerns including myself. I see people make mistakes and do things they should not. Its so much harder to see if its my mistake but if I observe another things are more clear.
I know that is not completly what you refer to. Its just kinda my view in general now as my life goes forward. I do not know your details but do know how hard things can be at our age. Hugz Terry


artsyfox 44F
1799 posts
9/7/2006 1:42 pm

hugssssssssssss and AWESOME!!!

ArtstyFox #


ArtsyFox
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firestarter665 44M/40F

9/7/2006 1:42 pm

Therapy brings out so much. Sometimes much more than what you anticipated.

I am glad to hear that you are on your way!


uniquelytwisted 106F

9/7/2006 1:57 pm

I think the policy stinks but get a referal from you g/p for the (named) therapest and copy it for your file and send the orig to the ins co. that should clear up the problem.

go grow
Hugs


PlaynAgain 55F

9/7/2006 2:21 pm

    Quoting SacredStarDance:
    I'm sooooo happy for you.. Call your ins. company .. I went through the same thing. there is a lil red tape but I was able to get my therapist added to my net work..long story...
    all and all he has helped sooooooooo much. I'm happy I went and have another appointment tomorrow
Also, talk to the therapist directly about becoming "in network" and/or working out a reduced rate or payment plan with you. This is too important not to do!

Hugs

"Attitude is everything. Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain."


PassionKisses4Me 45F

9/7/2006 2:26 pm

Glad things are going well sweetie and that you found a good therapist that understands you...that is so hard to find...love ya bunches

Becky

~Becky~


sexyariesgirl 59F

9/7/2006 3:50 pm

Angel I am SO happy you've found a therapist that you can relate to...and that LISTENS to you and HEARS you! It sounds like several people here have ideas of how to alleviate the insurance problem...I so hope that works out for you.

Power To FOK


spacecadet561 61M

9/7/2006 4:04 pm

A good therapist is a rare find. Unfortunately, the health insurance maze can be a real pain in the anatomy. It's a function not only of your insurance carrier, who may just be an administrator for a self-insured corporation, but the details of your corporate plan. Can you get a referral from your primary care physician to this particular therapist? Just a thought.

Good luck.

SpaceCadetรน


evil_lolita 35F

9/7/2006 5:58 pm

I'm so glad it's working out for you It's hard to find a therapist that you click with, so I sure hope you can stick with it!

I've been thinking of finding one, just someone to bounce ideas off of and to work through things in my head - but I don't know. I have a hard time relating inside workings to people.

I hope you can work out the whole health insurance thing - American healthcare always confuses me, so I'll leave it at that

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rm_impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
9/7/2006 6:21 pm

I found my Sanctaury....looks like you have too. There were times when I felt like I couldn't "afford" my co-pays, but then I realized that I couldn't afford not to. Believe my Angel... and your "net" will appear.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


florallei 100F

9/7/2006 6:48 pm

Hello Angel,

The journey of healing and finding out your true Authentic self is going to be a difficult one but it is worth the journey and I pray you can stick it out Hun...You will become angry, nightmares might increase, resentment may arise, but you know as surely as these things come to the surface the Real YOU is surfacing as well. Find HER, EMBRACE HER, LOVE HER, HEAL HER, ACCEPT HER who is YOU!!!
When in that forest it may seem overwhelming and scarey and the feeling of being lost but find a clearing and choose that path and continue!!!
Love,
flo


drivinthrough 63M

9/7/2006 7:04 pm

((((HUGS))))KISSES
Insurance companies can be such a pain in the ASS
ANGEL take care of yourself, surly things will work out. I'll be praying for you.(((((HUGS))))) & KISSES
Wayne


twirly_girl 48F

9/7/2006 7:12 pm

I have no advice. I have no experience with therapy.
I'm sure I could do with a LOT of therapy.

I hope it works out for you, hon.



I don't know the Sanctuary. If it's a cult, don't let them
talk you into buying a new sweat suit and tennis shoes.
The comet is NOT a spaceship.


-Nikki


rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
9/8/2006 12:03 am

good therapists are damn hard to find ...it's so important that you feel comfortable with your therapist, and what works for one may not necessarily work for another ... insurance on the other hand is always a bloody scam cos of sooo many regulations. i hope you find a work around, cos you truly deserve to get something just for you!



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rm_skyeone2 65M/46F
7186 posts
9/8/2006 3:54 am

    Quoting uniquelytwisted:
    I think the policy stinks but get a referal from you g/p for the (named) therapest and copy it for your file and send the orig to the ins co. that should clear up the problem.

    go grow
    Hugs
I have to agree, it could only help! Good to hear you found someone that you not only like, but seems to do a good job.

All the best,
Skye


Blessed Be


puntachueca 107M

9/8/2006 4:27 am

Go for it....
and read up on synchronicity...Baronessk
something will fall your way to deal with the insurance swine


NoGlory777

9/8/2006 5:12 am

Angel..so glad to hear that you have found a good one..one who actually listens to you..
I had two bad experiences..both were too busy carrying out their own agendas rather than really listen..it was amazing how alike their comments sounded..cookie-cutter therapy..
I managed much better with the help of friends..


economickrisis 56M

9/8/2006 5:51 am

Healing is always a better option that the alternatve


rm_ironhead1956 61M
275 posts
9/8/2006 6:25 am

I don't know anything about the sanctuary, but I do know that healing yourself is the most important part of healing your life. Good luck.


mycin62 56F

9/9/2006 10:17 pm

Damn, I know that story, I could have written it myself, still could.

Good luck with your therapy


_Safira 55F
11260 posts
9/10/2006 8:06 am

I am Sanctuary ... and I know where it is, too. Go with this person who can see into the very depths of you and help you emerge with the will not simply to survive, but to THRIVE ... YOU'RE WORTH IT! *massive hugs* / {=}

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