No Fingers Either?????  

angelofmercy5 60F
12148 posts
5/18/2006 5:53 am

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No Fingers Either?????

So.....I'm feeling alot better. Actually getting better everyday. I am really trying to be a good girl...and obey the doctors orders. But, I'm starting to get bored with resting...although if I overdo it, I feel it. And, I still have this 6-8 weeks of NO SEX!!!!!

I just re-read my post op instructions to make sure! And it is adament!
No tampons....who needs them anymore. Hooray!
No baths....ok, I can live with that...showers are ok.
No sex of any kind.....ok...I don't even feel like it yet, although the twinge is coming back.
Nothing inserted into the vagina at all. fingers either? You know...they removed my cervix...and inquiring minds just want to know.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/18/2006 6:35 am


Well, spring is in the could go plant flowers, go to the beach, take the ferry across the James River, go fishing, go up to the mountains,....

Just trying to give you some suggestions that could take your mind elsewhere, angel....

Take well....

NG61...fading back into the shadows...

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:31 am:
NG...all good suggestions...but that's part of the problem....I'm supposed to be housebound...and resting! Don't worry though, if I do too much...I really feel it and rest quite well the next day.

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

5/18/2006 6:47 am

You know I was wondering.... Couldn't you have stimulation of your clit? It beats NOTHING...when you start to feel your frisky self.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:32 am:
Prags....I was wondering the same thing...but thinking that perhaps muscle spasms wouldn't be good yet. I have a post op appointment on that is one question I will have to ask.

oldude1946 72M

5/18/2006 7:03 am

Glad your feeling better

My ass fell off, does that count

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:34 am:
Oldude....thank you. Now, tell me about your ass falling off?

PassionKisses4Me 45F

5/18/2006 7:09 am

Wishing you a fast recovery thankful you are feeling better....soft hugs to you...and the no sex part, let time fly baby hehe



angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:35 am:
Becky....I know time will fly. And in the meantime....I'm going to be a good hard as it is.

fantasylover_05 63M

5/18/2006 7:12 am

Behave now!! LOL LOL

(sorry... I know.. I know)

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:36 am:
Fantasylover.....YOU are telling me to behave? lol I know...and I will be a good girl! It just gets harder to rest when I'm feeling better!

happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
5/18/2006 7:23 am

Angel... been visiting your blog but think this the first time I drop a comment.

Just out of concern... don't think too much, rest well... and hope you recover in no time.

Take care! Me will come check on you again soon.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:37 am: glad you stopped by my blog! I will rest and hope to rcover even faster! Come back and check in on me soon! Thanks.


5/18/2006 7:26 am

oh my.. you poor thang.... Dont read any erotic story's from
Glad your feeling so much better

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:39 am:
Mrsmuff.....thank you my friend. I'm trying to stay away from the really erotic stuff here. But at least for the moment....I still don't feel good enough to be too turned on!

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
5/18/2006 7:28 am

If you stimulat your clit and the muscles start to contract, etc as you orgasm can that cause a problem? Please be careful.

"Before engaging in sexual activity make sure you are healthy enough, check with your doctor of pharmacist." lol don't ya love that on the ED commercials. Great, guy takes viagra, has sex, dies and his family brings up a law suit. They never told us he had to be healty enought to have sex. Nobody told me not to eat 12 big macs a day.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:40 am: your comment made me laugh! Yes! Those ED commercials crack me up! I don't know for sure about the clitoral stimulation...or if the muscle spasms from an orgasm can cause, until my post op appointment...I'm just going to behave.

LabioBent 106M
2082 posts
5/18/2006 7:36 am

One day at a time girl!


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:41 am:
Labio...ok! I promise! And if you keep feeding me great jokes from your blog....I'll be alright!

nydude1955 62M

5/18/2006 7:50 am

I very glad to know that you're on the road to recovery. Please take care of yourself and take your time in healing. As corny as it sounds listen to your doctor. Glad all is getting better.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:41 am:
nydude....thank you for coming by! And you are right! I will listen to the doctor's advice!

kelly402005 53F

5/18/2006 7:54 am

I know it's tempting, the finger thing, but "Don't do it"!!!

~~~I work in the medical field, if you didn't know.

***Massive bleeding if you dislodge a clot or pull stitches***

Sorry girl, just being straight with you.....
And I care. You're only a couple of days out from your surgery.
I know you are feeling better, that's good!!!
But, follow your postop instructions, please!!!

Have a good one,

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:28 am:
Kelly..I know you are right! (And I respect your comments even more BECAUSE you're in the medical field) It just seems to be getting harder to get the rest and obey because I'm feeling so good and want to celebrate! But you know I will behave myself. Thank you sweetie.

HighPocKets1938 79M

5/18/2006 8:01 am

Angel, you know the drill, it was burned in, back in school
So you just stop having those thoughts for now, you aren't a fool
Those thoughts can wait until you are completely healed
After that time, still take your time, then you can be feeled

I know that is spelled wrong but poetic license overcame
me as I just had to go through 79 dictionaries and others of the same
Ilk and Roget's too, but fie on them, no way could it be better said
For now my dear, you just take your time AND STAY IN THAT BED.

When you are back and fit as a fiddle, than you can do your thing
I would be happy to help you try to make that particular bell ring
Of course, though the miles between us both do stand in the way
I hope your recovery stays on track, and later you can also say

"I just might have to take on another just to see
if there IS any difference twixt THOSE and me"
Love You my Sweet Angel, that you do know
But take your time, as I dont want to say "I told you so"

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:27 am:
Highpockets...that was so cute!, I'm going to behave. Trust me...I don't want to do anything that will set me back at all. Love ya!

rm_Keystone3812 66M
583 posts
5/18/2006 8:14 am

DON'T overdo.............. get healthy, then you can let the fingers do the walking. Thinking of you, Angel.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:26 am:
Keystone....let my fingers do the walking?????? Now that one made me crack up! I'm going to be a good girl!

penguinluvr 59M
1087 posts
5/18/2006 8:49 am

The restriction is to prevent infection, so that means no fingers either. Hands are just about the most bacterially contaminated area of the body, even worse than the anus. (More kinds of bacteria on hands than you anus) So... no touchee, no feelee if you want to keep what you have left functional.



angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 9:14 am: are so right! The hands are truly baterial nightmares! I will keep my hands off....I don't want to do anything to lengthen the recovery time! Thanks for reminding me.

freetime648 53F

5/18/2006 8:49 am

NO STIMULATION either...I asked this question....!!! It causes contractions and you cannot do that without re-injuring the insides! I know it is a long time but if I could do it so can you....also, I was told 7-9 weeks and I did what the doc told me and I got the ok to have sex at 7 weeks!!!!!!! Trust is worth the wait!!!!

***leans over and whispers....but, at 5 or 6 weeks I did dibble a little but NO insertion!!!!


xx FREETIME648 xx

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 9:13 am:
Freetime....I figured that would be the answer....and the reason for it! I can wait.....I will just think about how good it will be when I can finally have sex again. PS...thanks for telling me you slipped off the wagon just a tad earlier!

firestarter665 43M/40F

5/18/2006 9:05 am

You are a strong woman. I know you can make it through 6-8 weeks. We can be your support group.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 9:11 am:
Firestarter...I know I can be strong here! And I'd love to have you all for a support group.

LabioBent 106M
2082 posts
5/18/2006 9:16 am


Stay tuned!




angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 11:14 am:
Labio...I just love your jokes. Promise not to hold you responsible!

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
5/18/2006 12:19 pm

yeah, bed rest can get really tedious after just a few days. do you like jigsaw puzzles?? or painting?? also get some videos of things you always wanted to see.. or maybe have a tea party -- that you do nothing -- but everyone has to wear silly hats or paint their face silly ... i find not bathing to be a major bind as well -- showering just doesn't do it for me!

[blog freelove999]

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 1:01 pm:
Freelove....I do have videos...and a stack of good books. I guess I need to bury myself in one and soon! I'll get over it...and I'm not complaining because I feel so good. But it would make it easier to stay in bed if I felt worse! lol

RoyalPurpleRose 53F

5/18/2006 12:36 pm

I'm so happy you are feeling better. I know it's a bitch to follow doctor's orders. But do you really want to do something that might increase that 6-8 weeks??? Please don't make matters worse. Luv ya Babe ... don't make me come spank you!

~Kisses, RPR

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 12:49 pm:
RPR....ooooh..a spanking! lol I know you are right...and I'm going to behave myself.

rm_Bladesong 41F
476 posts
5/18/2006 12:53 pm

I am really glad your feeling better Angel. Its sucks to follow doctors orders but I am also glad to hear that you are because you will get better faster that way.

~It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved!

Be Good to those around you!


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 12:59 pm:
Bladesong....glad to see you girl! I know it sucks to obey the rules sometimes....but I'm going to do it! Thanks.

HBowt2 60F

5/18/2006 1:45 pm

Remember i told you to be good and do what you were told....well i know what i'm talking about cos i didn't.....and you don't want to know what happened....but BE GOOD

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 1:54 pm:
Hbowt2....ok...ouch! Want to tell me your story and scare me straight??? lol I obey the doctor's orders.

interested13563 54M
2557 posts
5/18/2006 2:01 pm

Patience, my dear Angel! Your recovery is the top priority.
Sex can wait a little and it will be even more pleasant!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 2:13 pm:
Interested....I know you're right. And thanks for caring. You are too sweet!

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
5/18/2006 3:17 pm

i;ve been banned more times than not from sex by my docs ,the last sugery was a large ovarian cyst,and a wonderful 12 cm scar for my troubles,within 4 weks i was playing gently,nothing mind blowing but enough to get rid of the tension.
Outer stitches are one thing,its the inner stiches that take there time,so be careful

I'm a

i'm here to stay

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:51 pm:
Papy...I guess you are right...the internal sutures are the ones that take the longest to heal. Well, I've heard enough stories here now to make me behave myself.

MaggiesWishes 61F

5/18/2006 3:21 pm

There is a time and a place, let your mind help heal your body, before your body takes over your mind ...
Oh, fiddle ... let me read you "mother goose tales" I swear, it will take your mind off things ... but hold a pillow to your tummy.

warm huggies 2ya, sounds like you are right on schedule with your recovery, angel

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:53 pm: are so funny! And I bet you could crack me up reading me mother goose tales! I'll think of you as I laugh about them on saturday night when I read them to my grandsons. ~hugs~

Sulabula 46F
12659 posts
5/18/2006 3:34 pm

Just take it easy

Sula xxx

come visit my blog

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:53 pm:
Sula....I am going to behave. Just keep reminding me.....ok?

Looking0100 55M

5/18/2006 3:37 pm

Wow! Angel!
I never realized how much pain this would be for you. You have to go without sex and masturbation. You mention the fingers, so I guess you love to masturbate. Who doesn't, right? And sex with a partner can be fulfilling when the two people masturbate each other, maybe together, maybe one after the other. Of course, it is sexually stimulating. But, much more than that. Even more than just fucking, this is an activity that both can enjoy equally and both give and receive just as easily. The interaction is such that both partners are fully involved and they feel that way.

But, Angel you have to go without and that makes me so sad! Can you tell me what the cervix actually does (maybe you do not know). I know that it is a part only of the female anatomy located deep inside the vagina. No need to be technical, I am only curious.

How do you feel about not being able to play with yourself or have any sexual fun? And what about personal female hygiene? I know that all women like to have clean bodies. So without tampons, what will you do? No need to answer this question for me. It is just a thought that I give you. You can answer for yourself (and probably already did).

Would you think it vulgar or bad taste if I ask this one question?: Do you use one or two fingers, or do you prefer a toy? You do not need to answer this question. I do not mean to be insensitive. I am simply curious.

Thanks my friend, for sharing. It is all very beautiful. As are you!

Jon C.

p.s. Do you like this font size? And is it easy to read?

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:54 pm:
Looking....the font size is great! Thanks.

qship52 64M

5/18/2006 3:38 pm

Sounds like you need something of an antisex drug.

I remember when I was always getting horny in high school, and needed to calm things down quickly (didn't want to get up in front of a class with a big bulge in my pants). I just thought of the least-desirable girl in the school. (I apologize in advance to the lady, if by some remote chance she ever sees this). That girl's name was Ethel Ziemer, and, well, she looked like her name sounds.

At that time, thinking of her was pretty much the trick to attaining wet noodle status.

Perhaps you can think of a few men that would do that trick for you! It can be quicker than a cold shower.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:55 pm:
gship....thanks for making me laugh! I have a great mental picture of poor Ethel....who could by now be a real knock out you know! I'm going to remember this one!

puntachueca 106M

5/18/2006 5:13 pm

By "sex" they probably mean something very narrow in definition....
expand you definition...think like Bill Clinton....there's a lot of fun stuff that one can enjoy that's not "sex" but sure gets things feeling good.Remember..the entire body is potentially an erogenous zone.

Hope you feel much better (pun intended)

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 5:57 pm: that is funny! Think of Bill Clinton! You know...I think the doctor's definition is much more clearly defined! lol But I can chuckle thinking about it though.

libgemOH 57M/53F

5/18/2006 6:19 pm

6-8 weeks????

~crying for Angel at the horror of that thought~ -B

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 6:45 pm:
Ligem....It is pretty horrible...but I'm going to concentrate on how wonderful it will feel in 6-8 weeks!

rm_funinic 50M
823 posts
5/18/2006 7:37 pm

The longest I spent without orgasm in the last 20 years was a week when I was in the hospital on morphine with my femur in five pieces.

Then I had to do something about it.

Knowing just a bit about female anatomy (less than a woman, certainly) I would guess that when the sensitive bits finally get engorged, flushed, hot with desire, the pressure and sensation of the moment might actually send you over the edge without any help at all.

Did for me...

Take it easy, follow the docs advice.

When week 4 rolls around without any pain when you sneeze I would guess a gentle (keep those muscles relaxed!!!) tongue-lashing might not be put of bounds... You do have someone who can help you with that, right? Lucky man, to be married to such as yourself...

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:29 pm:
funinic.....I think you might be right! And maybe in about 4 weeks....I can enlist my hubby's help in carrying this one out! Thanks.....for putting a positive spin on this.

seek_u_topia 52M

5/18/2006 8:10 pm

you are cracking me up! thanks...and good luck following orders. though i must say 6-8 weeks sounds like no fun...though sad to say i've gone much longer in my hoo...

rest up and get well Angel!!!!!!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:28 pm:
Seek....ok...I'm going to rest and just plan for the time when I get the go ahead from the doctor!

complexlysimple 35M

5/18/2006 8:20 pm

So 6-8 weeks of bed rest?

...then after that 6-8 weeks of nothing but fun in bed?

...that's how it works right??

6-8 weeks to plot, plan and otherwise prepare for 6-8 weeks of pure bliss ... that just sounds deliciously delightful....

You've commented to me it's all a matter of perspective..

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/18/2006 8:27 pm: are right I IS a matter of perspective. What a way to through my words back at me. lol But if I look at it as a time to plot for pure bliss....then it doesn't sound so bad.

HeartlessBitch69 47F

5/18/2006 9:34 pm

No baths? I would just die! I have to have my bubble baths! I feel sooo sorry for you!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:17 am:
Heartless....I actually see you as a bubble bath girl. I do like a long luxurious bath from time to time....but daily its a shower for me!

marcusgarvey008 46M

5/18/2006 11:47 pm

Take it easy!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:19 am:
Marcus....I like your picture! Thanks for stopping by!

(Princess Lips)

5/19/2006 12:02 am

you could look longingly at the produce in your fridge...and make expatbrit49 happy ! lol

*resting hugs*


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:21 am:
Redlips! That is so funny! I promise to do just that today and make our guy happy! lol

(Princess Lips)

5/19/2006 12:04 am

and there's always phone sex


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:21 am:
Red....and thats something I've never done!

(Princess Lips)

5/19/2006 12:07 am

or cyber...

but NO O'S!!!


angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:22 am:
Maybe I should go back to helping men cum on their web cam! lol

mycin62 55F

5/19/2006 2:26 am

I sympathize with you Angel, I had different surgery a year and a half ago, with the same instructions. NO SEX for 6-8 weeks!!! It was rough, but I got thru it ad so will you!!! (I cheated a little at the end)

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:23 am:
Mycin....I know I'll get through it....but I think I might cheat a little at the end too! lol

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
5/19/2006 2:40 am

Awww...poor Angel. That's got to be frustrating, but be glad that you are feeling well enough to be thinking about it. Hope the next 6-8 weeks fly by.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:24 am:
Curious...I know....poor me! But, you know what...all of you can entertain me here in blogland...and the time will fly by!

VATraveler1948 69M

5/19/2006 3:28 am

6-8 weeks... well, it's been a little more than a week now so it's that's now down to a little less than 5-7 weeks. See how time flies when you aren't having fun. You will be able to handle this, you're a strong woman. Just keep that husband of yours on a leash tied to the other side of the bed.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:25 am: husband is behaving himself...although he does parade around nude every morning...and I just HAVE to look you know.

horny4770 61M
8158 posts
5/19/2006 3:58 am


6-8 weeks of no to be you! lol Oh Sorry!

Glad you're feeling better and on the road to recovery. Rest up, the time will pass...very slooowwwly!

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 5:25 am:
Horny...I know! But after reading some things here that have happened to others who didn't obey the doctor....I'm going to behave!

lovemetouchme5 52F
2102 posts
5/19/2006 6:49 am

I'm glad you're feeling better, and don't worry that 6-8 weeks will just fly by! BTW, you are my 100th comment! Take care...Loveme

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 11:15 am:
Loveme....I am honored to be your 100th comment! Thank you for all the love and support you have given me.

saddletrampsk 55F

5/19/2006 7:49 am

So glad you are feeling better..and the wait will be well worth it sweety..

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 11:18 am:
Saddle....I know you are right! And I will behave. Thanks.

rm_coathanger1 49M
859 posts
5/19/2006 3:40 pm

Are you saying I shouldn't tease you for a few days??? That sux, I was gonna do one starting at the....... Oh I better not say that.

angelofmercy5 replies on 5/19/2006 8:29 pm: tease away! I can take it! lol

Toodela 60M
1747 posts
5/27/2006 7:03 pm

Well, I'll bring SensuallyKatey and I'll be wearing purple flippie floppies.

I really hope these are adequate ...


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