Why oh Why????  

angeldevillvr 54F
92 posts
5/13/2006 6:14 am

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5/28/2006 3:51 pm

Why oh Why????



Why is it everytime you think you have found your soulmate and your heart starts getting involved it goes sour and the guy gets cold feet??? Why is it so hard for a man to just lovesomeone?

Life is about loving and being loved so why dont more people do that in today's world. I am not a hard woman to get along with I am just searching for a man with a big heart and big arms to hold me and to love me for who I am and to always tell me the truth and be able to talk about things. If two people who lov eeach other (or who have a connection) just talk to each other anything can be overcome. So I want a man that is not afraid to talk to me and let me know what he is feeling. I don't want a man for just sex I want him for love and if we love each other the sex will be there.

Soany men up for a real relationship with a very loving and caring woman???

SexyXtwo69 57M/52F
39 posts
5/13/2006 7:22 am

Please take this as advice

I don’t understand posts that start with “what is wrong with men”

If it has happened more than once, maybe it is not the mans fault


Shelly_Marie 45F

5/13/2006 7:44 am

I think sometimes things move a little too fast for them, and they get either uncomfortable or turned off or scared. men seem to like to hide themselves from too many emotions most of the time, i think for fear of being hurt. and plus men just dont seem to be as emotional as women anyway, but there are men out there who are and are willing to love and not afraid. but on a site like this one, it will be hard to find, but not impossible. sometimes you can start out as friends and then grow into love after a certain amount of time, if the guy is up to that type of thing to begin with....


luckyinluv01 59M/32F

5/13/2006 2:07 pm

I think that part of the problem here ladies is that men tend to not show there feelings as quickly as woman do. alot of the times we end up being asked by woman if we love them or if we want to be with them or whatever. Life is a journey and it is meant to be enjoyed by both. i don't feel that you come on a swingers personal site to look for true love. i get a real kick out of reading profiles that say " I am not looking for a one night stand" well my advise is if your not then you have picked a site that may not be compatible to your goal. There are alot of people on here who enjoy the pleasures of another and don't have the time or desire to dedicate to a real relationship.


SaintorSinner30 43F

5/14/2006 9:58 pm

    Quoting luckyinluv01:
    I think that part of the problem here ladies is that men tend to not show there feelings as quickly as woman do. alot of the times we end up being asked by woman if we love them or if we want to be with them or whatever. Life is a journey and it is meant to be enjoyed by both. i don't feel that you come on a swingers personal site to look for true love. i get a real kick out of reading profiles that say " I am not looking for a one night stand" well my advise is if your not then you have picked a site that may not be compatible to your goal. There are alot of people on here who enjoy the pleasures of another and don't have the time or desire to dedicate to a real relationship.
Now I would have to disagree with you on some of the things you said. I met the man I am currently in a commited relationship with on this site and we are quite happy together. So yes it is possible to find that special someone on a site such as this, all it takes is patience and time. Although I do agree with you on one point, men do not show their feelings as quickly as women do. just my 2 cents worth on this topic

SaintorSinner


Tommy66606 56M
1 post
5/28/2006 4:33 am


Dear Angel,
First, let me say I am very new to the AdultFriendFinder site and all. My impression of you is that you are a kind and gentle soul, with much passion underneath. Being a man, let me just say this: on a site like AdultFriendFinder many people (both male & female) basically treat this as a "meat market", much like the bar scene. This is unfortunate because a mixture of true friendship and sexuality is much more satisfying than the hit & run, 1 night stand, lies & more lies until I just can't fool you or can no longer pretend anymore to "love" you type of relationship.
Don't give up, don't be a fool, and I believe you will find the person you have been searching for. Don't compromise your feelings for anyone to gain their affection, and try to be brutally honest from the start. This will save you much heartache in the long run. Be upfront about what you expect from a man; expect the same from him. Words are just words, and easily spoken. If he is truely committed to you and a relationship he will show you through his actions. If not, move on; it was just not meant to be.
I grew up in a small town myself and am aware of the challenges that entails.
I wish you well in your search (guard your heart)an maybe we will meet sometime.
Take Care,
Tommy66606


angeldevillvr 54F

5/28/2006 11:09 am

    Quoting Tommy66606:

    Dear Angel,
    First, let me say I am very new to the AdultFriendFinder site and all. My impression of you is that you are a kind and gentle soul, with much passion underneath. Being a man, let me just say this: on a site like AdultFriendFinder many people (both male & female) basically treat this as a "meat market", much like the bar scene. This is unfortunate because a mixture of true friendship and sexuality is much more satisfying than the hit & run, 1 night stand, lies & more lies until I just can't fool you or can no longer pretend anymore to "love" you type of relationship.
    Don't give up, don't be a fool, and I believe you will find the person you have been searching for. Don't compromise your feelings for anyone to gain their affection, and try to be brutally honest from the start. This will save you much heartache in the long run. Be upfront about what you expect from a man; expect the same from him. Words are just words, and easily spoken. If he is truely committed to you and a relationship he will show you through his actions. If not, move on; it was just not meant to be.
    I grew up in a small town myself and am aware of the challenges that entails.
    I wish you well in your search (guard your heart)an maybe we will meet sometime.
    Take Care,
    Tommy66606
Tommy,

Thanks for your kind words and yes it is true sex with friendship can be so much more exciting than the one night stand becaus eyou not only learn each other sexual needs but you learn the little things that turn each other on which in turn heightens your sexual relationship.

I knwo lots of people on here are only after sex and Im not saying I hate sex...quite the opposite...been told that I am a nympho and am insatiable. But that all depend son my partner too. I am taking my time searchign for the man worthy of my love and I know he is out there somewhere and that I will find him someday.

Being we are only like 45 miles apart I am sure we will possibly meet each other someday.


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