This is not good.  

amnottforfree 35F
10 posts
6/28/2006 9:59 am

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This is not good.

So first of all, im not into criticisms that much so please take it easy on me. Lol. I may be a bitch but I still have a heart.. should have, coz i think im in love.

Is it possible to fall in love with someone you haven't even met? You talk to this guy almost everyday, see him on cam, and have butterflies in your stomach.. but the thing is you can't even touch him. I've been feeling this lately.

I think i've fallen for a guy who's 10years older than me (but that's not a problem.. just pointing out), 2500miles away from me, and that's not just it.. I haven't even met him yet.

The sad part is and i know this sounds cliche, but he's the realest thing that has ever happened to me.

You know how it is when you fall in love with someone. You think about him all day, can't wait to see him (well for me on cam), can't wait to talk to him and ask how his day went. You have butterflies on your stomach, you have that natural high and when you do see him you can't put that smile off your face.. and eventhough you guys aren't talking about anything your just happy that he's with you.. and when he's about to leave, it's frustrating but at the same time you can't wait for the next day til you see him again.

What should I do? Remain this way? Or cut the connection? Its just that I don't want to look back someday and think of what might have been if I ever let go of him now. Know what I mean?

Anyone? Help?

moonlightphoenix 46F
6508 posts
6/28/2006 11:12 am

Just realize that until you really get to know this person in real life, on a day to day are in love with the IDEA of this person. You are in love with who he wants you to think he is. I don't doubt that you're in a fashion....but just remember to keep your feet on the ground. Enjoy it for what it is until it has the opportunity to progress.

(This from someone who married someone she met on the net.)

rm_iwannatellu 46F
933 posts
6/28/2006 11:28 am

"In cases such as these, all advice is useless..."

This is a quote from a movie - can't remmeber which, but it seemed appropriate. We often cannot direct our hearts in the most suitable directions, but sometimes, just somtimes, our hearts know something our brains do not.

It sounds like a real dilemma, and I wish you strentgh and courage for the way forward.

I for one will be holding thumbs for you...


amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
6/28/2006 11:30 am

Stay, and enjoy it while you have it. I have been in several (3) online relationships, and they are just as real as any other relationship. When it's over, it hurts just as much, you cry just as much. But love is love, no matter what.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

rm_latnlver469 36M

6/29/2006 8:40 am

I agree with the public here lol. make the most of the relationship, but please, try not to get too invested in it if it will not go any further than online. realize what the other person is after too, and if it does come to meeting in person, let it happen from there. if you've already met though just make sure you both have the same goals as far as any relationship that might come of it. theres no need to get hurt. ive met some people online (not from AdultFriendFinder, just Yahoo and whatnot) and at times its been a great experience and some times the momentum that was built up from chatting was lost in real life. if you feel as strongly as you seem to though, give it a shot. what do you have to lose? take care sweetheart.

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