Scarves and Bedposts Me oh My!...  

amberabercrombie 38F
11929 posts
7/23/2006 1:41 am

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Scarves and Bedposts Me oh My!...

Okay so me and said male got into the topic of scarves and bedposts the other night...surprise I’ve never did it!...Sometimes I feel like such a prude when writing these blogs cause there’s a hell of a lot of things that I’ve never done before.....The male in question was asking me if I would like to tie him up one day...(this guy hasn't got laid yet and were already on this topic together!)...I told him I don’t know..do I?....He said yes...

While I'm all for indulging in a mans fantasies and letting them have their *thing* I'm not so sure I'm on board with tying this man up when we eventually do have sex...Oh believe me its going to happen!..I'm just in the letting him sweat it out phase...wait until a certain time passes one....

Because I’ve never done this before or know if this is normal or if people even like it...I'm asking all of you!...Hey a girls got to know when she’s getting into some kinky shit before she jumps on board!...So I ask you...Do you enjoy being tied up?...Have you ever been tied up?...Would you like to be tied up?...Does the thought of scarves and bedposts turn you off...Or is the idea of being tied up amusing and sensual to you!..?


bigandtallreturn 38M

7/23/2006 3:53 am

The idea of being tied up turns me off, actually. I don't like the idea of not being able to use my hands during sex; I like to give massages during sex, run my fingers up and down her body, etc. Besides, being tied up means you've (temporarily) lost control, and I'll admit it, I'm a guy that doesn't like loss of control.

And you, a PRUDE? Nah, anyone with naked Daphne can't be a prude.

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen


rm_b0bmale1 42M

7/23/2006 4:39 am

GET A LIFE YOU SAD OLD PERV.


smut_bear_2469 56M

7/23/2006 4:59 am

i have a fantasy of being tied up like that and having 2 or 3 women use me as a sex toy..ive been tied up and have tied up a lover or 2 so i guess you could say yes it is a turn on


SingleWarrior 53M

7/23/2006 6:23 am

I'd have to really really REALLY trust to be tied up. Which means it probably won't happen

About that Daphne pic - Movie of Scooby, Velma was the larger chested and hotter of the two


rm_ChiRugger 44M

7/23/2006 6:43 am

Being tied up is great. A surrender to the person your with. It requires a great deal of trust to be willing to accept being tied up. If this man wants you to tie hip Right off the bat then, (A) he's hard up, or ( he may be a guy who's way too into you way to early. He hasn't gotten any in a while so be careful. I think it may not be a good thing to do right away. Tease him a little about it. Make him "sweat it out," and give him another surprise later in the relationship.


Rideandfun1000 61M

7/23/2006 6:46 am

That would have to... uhhhhhh... cum down the road a bit... I would really have to know someone very well to let her tie me up - but I'm willing to give it try when the trust level permits... there are just too many crazies out there that can keep you fooled for a long time to let that happen early in dating...


UdderPuttyBiped 38M
102 posts
7/23/2006 6:55 am

Personally, I don't have much in the way of fetishes. On the other hand, very little in the sexual arena sounds like a "bad" idea to me either. Basically, if she (or in your case he) is turned on by something that I can do for her, I'm all for it. I get turned on by getting HER turned on. The method used doesn't so much matter to me.

Although I draw the line at excretions, animals, and serious heavy sadism/masochism.


rico5515 53M  
202 posts
7/23/2006 7:06 am

Amber, there should be a bell going off, I have done that, tied some else up, It was a way into the relationship, was open, unrehearsed, and a hole bunch of fun.
On the other hand, you could be starting a great open relationship, with a interestingman open to talking about his feelings.

Still that should wait for a bit. The first times you need the hands to be free, moving and running about the bodies.

Still have fun go for it, in time.
Rico


rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
7/23/2006 7:16 am

Not I. Much too much of a control freak to tolerate being incapacitated.

On the other hand I have been with someone who was into being tied up. When I'f talk to her during sex, the phrase that always got her most excited was "... and there's nothing you can do about it."

That was where I discovered that I have a streak of dominant in me. But having read some of what a true dom is like (I've read way too many of Frogger's posts over on Myspace) I realize that I don't even begin to qualify.


RocketMan_Len 53M
2325 posts
7/23/2006 7:58 am

Maybe not right away. After I've built up a level of trust with the particular partner... I might be willing to explore.


sassy1296 52F

7/23/2006 8:01 am

It has to be with someone you trust totally. The feeling of being unable to do anything but let them enjoy your body. It heightens the sensation. But again it has to be with someoen you are familar with and that is fimalar with you. Who knows your limits and you know will not push them.


rm_sloman44 61M
701 posts
7/23/2006 8:06 am

I haven't had that experience yet but would be open to it with the right person. The trust issues have already been brought up so I wont go there. I do have a different point though.
Seems to me, the person doing the tying should be the umm... aggressor for lack of a better word, in this situation. I mean, once you get him tied up, now what? I'm sure you could improvise just fine but it's new territory for you. If it's his thing, shouldn't he be tying you up? And then we get back to the whole trust issue.


Djeeper1987 48M

7/23/2006 8:20 am

I rather use my hands instead of being tied up. Then again thats up to you. Do you wanna tie me up?

Carpe Diem


norprin5 56M

7/23/2006 8:24 am

my queen tied my hands to the posts and blindfolded me once...it was different, the sex was good...but then it's always good...

i'm not in a hurry to do it again, but if she wants to play that way, i'll let her...i don't mind giving up control once in a while

King Nor XVIII


rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
7/23/2006 8:39 am

Silk scarves are the only form of bondage I'll engage in. I'll only let someone I trust without reservation tie me, and no knots that i can't get out of by myself if necessary, which means it isn't going to happen until I've known someone for months and KNOW he/she isn't going to get weird.

I'm not a domme, and I'm not submissive. I would wonder at someone who wanted to jump into this at the beginning of a relationship.

That said, being tied, and a long, slow, sensual session with massage oils, feathers, hair, and massive teasing is one of the hottest evenings I've ever spent.


FunFlirty4u 47F

7/23/2006 8:39 am

I have a male friend that I trust because we had met several times before having sex but on our second sex date he wanted to tie me up with electrical tape. I was more nervous with anticipation than ever but I do trust him so I was game. The only thing is that the tape leaves marks LOL I found it more exciting to be tied up and I tied him up too.


meerkittykat 43F

7/23/2006 9:17 am

amber...

I've liked using scarves during sex; not often, but every so often. I'd never do it with a casual sex acquaintance; there's just no way; but with someone that I fully trust, because it's the implicit trust and understanding that the person is fully dedicated to your needs is pretty amazing.

I'm a domme, yet the idea of being submissive to someone I trust wholly and completely was surprisingly fulfilling the first time we tried it. Sometimes it's pushing the sexual boundaries which bring a lot of excitement.


GuyFromEK 50M

7/23/2006 9:18 am

being tied up and or bliindfolded is all about trust and can heighten the sexual encounter.

just my thoughts


rm_BLUEYEDFIRE 45M

7/23/2006 9:25 am

Biting my bottom lip, breathing faster now, the sweat from your brow drips delicately across my face. Our exotic plight, four bedposts each with a silk scarf of crimson wine. Our conclusion of a sensual tide... you holding me down pressing your crimson lips to mine.

Thank you for the warm welcome!

BLUE


SacredStarDance

7/23/2006 10:03 am

You would have to have complete trust..COMPLETE TRUST....

I love silk scarves but tied very loose.. more of imagination bondage play..

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Greekgirl4u06 40F

7/23/2006 11:26 am

not with someone i have just met, no, but with my man now, i love being tied up at times, im very much on the submissive side and i love having someone else control me inside the bedroom, i consider many weird things erotic turn ons for me, and being tied up is one of them


JaniSux 46F

7/23/2006 12:18 pm

HI Am!
I have been tied up before, but you really have to trust the person tying you up, because you don't want anything to happen that you don't want to happen.. Some people like some different stuff, soooo you don't want to be tied up and vulnerable and have him bring 5 other friends in the room, or have him stand on the bed over you and pee on you or have him trying to shove abnormally large objects in your puss.. soo that's the first step, knowing that he won't pull that stuff once you're vulnerable.

Once you get past that, add a blindfold, and heat ensues! Omg I had a very hot time with a certain friend when he tied me up, and tickled and teased and licked and sucked and fingered me for steamy hours.. I loved it! And that's something that I'd never thought I'd do.
Janie


Thank you soo much for the comment on my blog Amber.


tadpudgy 57M

7/23/2006 12:22 pm

umm, well, er, i have never been tied up, but what the heck, if both people are agreeable, then go for the gusto. making us sweat for it is right. before long we will all crawl on our knees to worship at the temple of nookie!


DragsNiseiLogic 57M
21 posts
7/23/2006 12:46 pm

you better really know and trust a person before being tied up i never left any one tie me up but i did tie a bitch up that i wanted to teach a lession


rm_kneel_be4me 50M
457 posts
7/23/2006 12:47 pm

I don't want to be tied up... I dont like or enjoy the idea of being restrained. There is nuthing a woman could or would do to me that would be intensified by me being tied up.

I dont have a problem with a woman that wants to be tied up...

There is something to having a person give you all the control or power. It can also give a person an excuse to push their limits or bounderies and justify it to themselves that it wasnt thier fault they were made to do it by the person in control.


IsThisBetter4u 107M

7/23/2006 12:53 pm

I'm not sure which I like more...the idea or the anticipation.

So here's the deal. If you're unsure, then what you need to do is fly down here to Texas immediately, let me tie you up (I'll bring the scarves), and take it from there. Then you get to tie me with the scarves and we see how that goes. You won't have to wonder any more, and I'll be the happiest man I know...

...until you leave...I'm sad already...


JoltsBeefsMagma 65M

7/23/2006 1:28 pm

It's a lot of fun to tie someone or be tied up.I've been on both sides many times but you have to trust the person you're with totally!! The times I've done it I've been with girls that I've known for some time,I would not do it with someone if it's your first time together.


mysticdreamangel 62F
2759 posts
7/23/2006 1:55 pm

I find being tied up very sensual but only with someone I have total trust in. Being more on the submissive side, I don't think I would enjoy tying up my partner.

Just remember it is important that if you are tied so that you cannot get out of the retraints yourself that you have a safe word...a word that will let him know that you have had enough.

Have fun no matter what you choose.


rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
7/23/2006 2:44 pm

I'm thinking the mildly kinky stuff is best after you've already explored the vanilla stuff. Kind of like knowning exactly WHEN to add a little spice.

It's been years but yeah. Scarves are fun.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
7/23/2006 2:46 pm

    Quoting rm_kelli4u2dew:
    Silk scarves are the only form of bondage I'll engage in. I'll only let someone I trust without reservation tie me, and no knots that i can't get out of by myself if necessary, which means it isn't going to happen until I've known someone for months and KNOW he/she isn't going to get weird.

    I'm not a domme, and I'm not submissive. I would wonder at someone who wanted to jump into this at the beginning of a relationship.

    That said, being tied, and a long, slow, sensual session with massage oils, feathers, hair, and massive teasing is one of the hottest evenings I've ever spent.
Now that I've browsed thru this, I want to amend my comment to "yeah, what Kelli said."

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


moo_nips 59F

7/23/2006 3:08 pm

Up above someone said, Complete Trust

Exactly

To me it's not a kink thing in the manner of unknowns doing unknowns

But, more of a...You My Friend...i agree to be helpless in front of your lusts

Or a new twist for me...about 30 minutes ago...someone asked me about wearing a white gold necklace with a daimond initial pendant...for me...and never taking it off...and she respects me so so much...god..should i do it!

sorry to digress...tied up...yes...feels good to do that when you are safe!


bustybettyboop 51F  
59326 posts
7/23/2006 4:36 pm

omg! i love tying the guy up and being tyed up is a turn on too but then i like alot of kinky stuff! lol! try it u might like it!

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?


Damn_Dilemma 50F

7/23/2006 5:17 pm

Hello beautiful, trust me on this, its great. When I find time later I will write my experience, modified slightly to suit me on 4biddenlove4us blog.
Stay well sweet


Grabinfeld 49M
2 posts
7/23/2006 7:23 pm

Hey Peyton;

The whole bondage thing derives from the slave/ fantasy. So technically, if that is the fantasy being sought, the less trust, the better! Fear is the antithesis of pleasure; the (often mind blowing) experiences come when you go from absolutely terrified (I'm gonna die!), to resigned to your fate (this is my own damn fault!), to ashamed at the pleasure you are having (this is just plain WRONG!), to surrender to the pleasure (OMG!). This can be accomplished using a vivid imagination, but it pales in comparison to the real thing - the best way to have it (without taking serious chances) is to only meet the prospective "master" briefly, before committing to the adventure (to get an intuitive basic trust level/chemistry only) - and then make sure you have backup (like telling a friend what you're going to do and when/where/with who) so that they can check on you the next morning to make sure you weren't left tied up!

Also, bear in mind that being tied up spead eagle can cause repiratory distress - people who were crucified died from slow asphyxiation, because when your arms are stretched up and out, you have trouble filling your lungs - make sure to keep lots of play in your arms and shoulders.


Grabinfeld 49M
2 posts
7/23/2006 7:29 pm

An alternative to the 1 on 1 master could also be having a friend that you trust who brokers the whole thing - then you know that there is a safety net near by, but you are still "at the mercy" of a "stranger." (Hopefully your friend knows your tastes well enough to pick a suitable master! - You HAVE been nice to your friend, haven't you?!! )


Brainy42 54M

7/23/2006 8:26 pm

I found your comment about the "letting him sweat it out phase" a little disturbing and completely unattractive. If you treat life like a game, don't be surprised if all you ever meet are players. I don't play. Good luck.


Eddie5011 43M

7/23/2006 11:13 pm

Not my cup of tea. I like to move around to much when having sex.


rm_Shortdogg65 53M
672 posts
7/23/2006 11:32 pm

Some people really get off on bondage. I know someone who is and she is always threatening to tie me up. Hasn't made good yet though. Shortdogg


tracy_de_lacy 106F
9268 posts
7/24/2006 1:56 am

If you tie him up and blindfold him...you can have a lot of fun doing whatever you want. Damn I gotta do a blog about this fantasy. Maybe later.

Bye everyone, it was a blast


rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
7/24/2006 3:09 am

What turns me the fuck on is pleasuring a woman. A little light bondage ups the fun and erotic factor for the sole fact is i can manipulate her orgasm at will and she can't get a hold of me or pull me into her when she is close to cumming. This makes it easier to do. How long can you be held on the edge or orgasm before cumming Amber, before losing your mind? Sorry i just love to give a woman a good hard fucking sometimes with me doing it all.


foghorn49 61M

7/24/2006 3:39 am

Personally I have no problem with it as long as the person being tied can escape, on their own, with some effort of course. You don't want it to be to easy.

Before you get too involved you might want to read Ryan's Game by Stephen King. It’s a story of what can go wrong when being tied to a bed.


funintheday2006 57M
9659 posts
7/24/2006 6:27 am

Happened to me the once Amber, by a profiler here. Check it out. No one believes this but, I swear, apart from a LITTLE dramatisation it is true!! I WAS FUCKED SILLY, THATS WHY I AM STUPID


cobra70118 106M

7/24/2006 6:31 am

I think it's strange getting right to scarves to tie him up out of the gate. I would have suggested tying you up and spanking you.

We don't use scarves here... we have to use beads


drno0032 58M  
1 post
7/24/2006 10:31 am

agree most it sounds interesting but maybe after you know the person for a while


wickedeasy 68F  
31332 posts
7/24/2006 10:39 am

i'm a masochist and a submissive - i adore being restrained, and pain is for me both cathartic and erotic to the nth

but me tie up my Man - nope - not gonna happen

nothing wrong with it - just not something i want or he wants

reminded me of the Seinfeld line "not that there's anything wrong with it"

and make him sweat a while longer -

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


sweetambrosia52 38F
69 posts
7/24/2006 1:07 pm

the thought of me being tied up..nooo..but the thought of tying him up hell yea! cause the thought of teasing and doing alittle torture is always fun and very natural! lol!

Live life to the fullest its to short


Diecast10192 67M
1 post
7/24/2006 3:05 pm

Tieing can be much fun........but its better left for other than the first experience together..when the couple has gained some trust.


rm_Twister2bed 48M
617 posts
7/24/2006 4:01 pm

My take on it has already been said by others here, Complete trust is needed, I'd worry about someone wanting to do it to soon with a few months of knowing them first.

Personally I have tied up and been tied up it can be sensual.


docdirk 49M

7/24/2006 7:11 pm

Since I've never had sex with either a scarf or a bedpost, I don't feel qualified in answering.

OK, maybe ONE scarf, but I was really drunk!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...


clitalicious67 50F

7/24/2006 8:09 pm

I hate being tied up!!! I like having the use of my hands and usually feel the need to be in control or have some control of what is going on...would have to really trust the person I guess


galileo1247 70M

7/24/2006 8:35 pm

Thanks for popping in on my test blog. I thought one good turn deserves another. Well, the thought of tying someone up as part of a sexual activity might work in the movies, but in real life .... I don't think it is a good idea. Sex and love are a form of communicating, which is a two way type of thing. Each person needs to know that the other can back off which kind of keeps the two of you on an equal footing.


rm_devilsgrin69 52M
223 posts
7/24/2006 8:40 pm

FREEDOM for ME
we've tried scarfs, but its just as much fun to not being allow your partner to move. Tease them endlessly only to have them go crazy grab your hair or head sholve it down further and cum hard.
No hands or moving is best when done orally.


SingleWarrior 53M

7/24/2006 9:46 pm

*streaks through*

LOOK! UP IN THE BLOGS!

It's my Favorite Profile Photos list!


rm_charlieff 77M
264 posts
7/24/2006 11:08 pm

The thought of being used sounded exciting but the experience of being tied up (very loosely) just wasn't the fun for me she said it would be because but I like to play and touch during sex. Even receiving oral sex I like to touch; not just lay there with my hands in the air!

Plus, I couldn't resist recalling this post Tie me up.


LimasMooseRaper 60M
16 posts
7/25/2006 12:43 am

I've tied a couple women up.sure. It's fun.....they don't know where you're going next...what with.etc. A blindfold really adds another element to the equation..............try it sometime!!!!!!!


Shameless_Biotch 50F

7/25/2006 9:53 am

Well, hun, I have read alot of good stuff here....
being into BDSM is different than wanting to tie up/be tied up for just an additon to sensual sex play....believe it or not, in some dominant/submissive realtionships, they do not even spank, tie up or flog!!
There is alot of confusion about what the intitals stand for, so here's some definitions that might help you...

BD= Bondage and discipline....whips, restraints, blindfolds etc....some people who are into this are into the D/s and SM lifestyles, but NOT EVERYONE...
DS= Dominance/submission...is about letting the other person surrender totally...within pre-set limits...takes a lot of trust, and not to be jumped into lightly...it is a mental stimualtion for both participants, may not have anything to do with actual penetration or other sex...
SM= sadism/masochism....sadism means you get by inflicting pain, masochism means you like to recieve pain....again, WITHIN PRE-SET LIMITS, this kind of play takes a lot of trust too, you must trust that the other person will respect your boundaries, and that "No means NO"...safewords are a must here

If you are really curious, there is an excellent website, called castlerealm.com that I would recommend, it has a lot of info, about what the D/s lifestyle is and isn't...

BDSM is not something to play around with on a first date, either...a little spanking and light play is fine, but until you really know or trust that person, or have been with them before, I don't recommend it, as there is the potential for getting hurt...emotionally as well as physically....
There are different levels of involement, from just the casual slap on the ass to actual D/s submission on a total, 24 hour/7 day a week kind of lifestyle...choose wisely, get as much info as you can, if this is something that you are curious about...

that is enough out of me for now....stop by my blog or Nightguy1961's...people do enjoy this and I really get off on being spanked by someone who knows how!!

Good luck,
your shameless friend


LustyTaurus 50M
21253 posts
7/25/2006 6:00 pm

You can tie me up...


4biddenlove4us 50F

7/25/2006 10:22 pm

I left you a story on my blog but not sure you read cause it was dedicated to you and ONE other


Dildo_replacemen 39M

7/26/2006 1:11 pm

Well, I've never been tied up! I've been held down... okay she was one of those women who is physically aggressive and wants to always be in control... I played her game for a while and then showed her that changing who's in control is a lot of fun! So to anwer your questions, I would enjoy being tied up but if its complete domination there would need to be a lot of trust.

Now you say scarves and bedposts... there are a hell of a lot of things you can do with a scarf or for that matter a bed post that could occupy a couple for hours without anybody being tied up! I love to experiement, any toy that enters the "arena" is fair game in my books, okay... except sharp/pointy objects or clamps of any kind!


FunFlirty4u 47F

7/26/2006 7:26 pm

Tape leaves marks but there is special bondage tape and scarves don't leave marks.


funintheday2006 57M
9659 posts
7/26/2006 8:55 pm

Of course I will not stalk you after what you did to me.

I bet you do not have the courage to tell anyone that this was you, do you????

I WAS FUCKED SILLY, THATS WHY I AM STUPID

No wonder I have turned into a quivering wreck whose only sexual outlook is peeping through windows


Masieminx 42F

7/27/2006 6:24 pm

    Quoting Damn_Dilemma:
    Hello beautiful, trust me on this, its great. When I find time later I will write my experience, modified slightly to suit me on 4biddenlove4us blog.
    Stay well sweet
now hang on but dont you say u have been in this way? i seen somethin u wrote on fungods blog when he wrote a funny storu called was i last nite. u changing yer mind again?


bustybettyboop 51F  
59326 posts
7/29/2006 9:22 am

who me??? *mouth agape* not me??? *acts shocked* i'm an angel! lol! *wink* alright..maybe a smidge..*wink*

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?


rm_voidrunner21 46M
2 posts
7/29/2006 2:01 pm

I have never been tied up but I have always wanted to try it. I don't mind giving up a little power for a night as long as she doesn't mind trying it also. I do agree though that you have to have a certain level of trust there.


GSV 54M

8/4/2006 3:12 am

Never been tied up, don't like it. Won't do it.

Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy,

Greg


rm_eclipse46362 60M

8/9/2006 7:43 pm

well i never really been tied up yet but i imagine it most been really nice to try i would do it maybe with someone i trust for anyting but havent fund anybody i can trusted yet but i will for soon . and amberabercrumbie i really like you blogs so smart i just love it ..

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rm_arySyah 42M
2 posts
8/10/2006 12:38 am

I haven't had that experience yet but would be open to it with the right person. The trust issues have already been brought up so I wont go there. I do have a different point though.
Seems to me, the person doing the tying should be the umm... aggressor for lack of a better word, in this situation. I mean, once you get him tied up, now what? I'm sure you could improvise just fine but it's new territory for you. If it's his thing, shouldn't he be tying you up? And then we get back to the whole trust issue..... 9w2yab


rur4r2luv 58M
80 posts
8/27/2006 8:20 am

[Would really have ti trust the one I am with. Have heard of bad experiences from friends. Would not want anyone being left tied up for a long period of time like a friend I know was left in motel. If you really care and trust this person and want some excitement try it on your conditionsCOLOR crimson]


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