Look out...she's back!  

amberabercrombie 38F
11929 posts
4/28/2006 7:59 pm

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Look out...she's back!

After a long week of being emotionally, physically and dare I say spiritually drained.. I'm back....so look out!!

I'm asking a short simple question tonight..because I'm groggy, I'm tired and damn it because I can!

What is the single most important quality you look for in someone you WANT to date, sleep with or simply love..?

Yup call it a cop out, I'm curious, interested and honestly, nothing is functioning to well right now!

Loosetooth 42M
1147 posts
4/28/2006 9:16 pm

A connection, which is vague. Er....well something in that girls excites within me a tingling, excitement I suppose. People often quantify their desire into a physical attribute (I am a tit man, bum man etc). What I have found though is that all my lovers have been extraordinarily different except that when I met them there was a magnetic quality to them. Something that drew me to them, something that meant that when they looked at me, I had to smile and look away.

elysianpleasure 48M

4/28/2006 9:26 pm

chemistry... which is more than a single thing... it is a feeling of trust, of attraction, of mental connection, of physical desire...

I know that feeling of emotional / physically / and spirtually feeling drained. That is how I feel right now.

rm_chislut 43F
710 posts
4/28/2006 11:13 pm

I can't really answer the question as it's asked because it would be a different quality for someone I wanted to date or for someone I wanted to sleep with or for someone I wanted to love...

gypsy1629 42F

4/28/2006 11:49 pm

Glad ur up and at em again! Granted at a slower pace...but tomorrow is another day!

I want to feel that animal magnetism...where my heart skips a beat...I have to concentrate to draw my next breath...I think of little else but that person...my panties get moist...electrical charge...I followed your rules and named ONE thing, but so much alse goes into it!

Thanks for the hug in my blog...I actually "felt" it...good lord I needed it too.


rm_xxxtheline 54M

4/29/2006 12:05 am

Tough to Quantify...
To date = Someone who can hold up their end of a conversation, crack a joke or two, and hopefully be somewhat attractive.

To Sleep with = Somebody fairly attractive, who can crack a joke or two, who doesn't steal the covers (oh, that's not the sleep you meant is it?)

To Love = Someone who loves me, who is sane, who can be playful, who is honest, who takes care of themself, who takes care of their responsibilities, and who is fairly attractive, who I'd enjoy dating, who I'd enjoy sleeping with.

That's it, the single most important thing.

P.S. Attractive means: Usually brunettes but occasionally blondes, Perky tits (a to D), Proportional (not necessarily petite nor ample just relatively proportional), and of course the most attractive thing about a girl's looks is her personality.

mollen6 35M

4/29/2006 1:12 am

Chemistry! There has to be something in the very first beginning that make you feel this could be something.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
4/29/2006 1:59 am

Chemistry, pure & simple...if it ain't there, it ain't going to work...period.

Glad to see you're back....and your front *grins*

NG61...leaving behind a red rose tied in black silk ribbon...as a welcome home gift...

rm_lust2u2 52M

4/29/2006 2:13 am

Intelligence - it´s beautiful, it makes you beautiful, it provides passion... sounds perhaps weird, but when you se that witty spark in the eyes...wow

rm_lust2u2 52M

4/29/2006 2:16 am

..arrkk, damn "sticky fingers" (sorry) - see

rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
4/29/2006 4:05 am

Chemistry or unspoken attraction if you will first and foremost but also a woman that honest with not only herself but with me

rm_jugals 43M
5 posts
4/29/2006 5:21 am

I look for sex appeal,not just tits and ass but the way a women presents herself clothing,confident smile,not A women that uses like at the beging of ever sentance,like I went to the mall and like bought a dress,I ushally reply with like I'am out of here!THE TITS AND ASS HELPS THOUGH

caressmewell 54F

4/29/2006 6:58 am

Honesty...I'm so over the games and the saying one thing and meaning another and of people promising stuff and not delivering.

its_a_go 38M

4/29/2006 7:31 am

What is the single most important quality you look for in someone you WANT to date, sleep with or simply love..?

The ability to keep up in conversation, in a relaxed way. I've met lots of people that can converse but too many people seem to struggle with coming up with a sensical response. Wit and Charisma are essential traits to being conversationally adept.

EverReady343 48M

4/29/2006 7:35 am

I just want to be loved!

sillyperv 55M

4/29/2006 7:37 am

Well, I've lost interest in a woman when I found that we didn't light up when we met.

smoothnjuicy4u 51F

4/29/2006 9:04 am

To Date: Fun Loving

To Sleep With: Creativity

To Love: Honesty

digdug41 50M

4/29/2006 9:55 am

to date: gotta be sweet
TO sleep with: gotta have a connection
TO LOVE: love me back

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

TrapsTomesSteed 43M
202 posts
4/29/2006 11:10 am

Welcome back. Hope you're feeling better.

And I look for honesty above all else.

SlowPlayin 51M

4/29/2006 12:10 pm

Hey beautiful,
I'm glad to see you back ... what do I look for in those things? You, baby ... YOU.

I don't know ... I think we look for the things that we really admire and just adore ... possibly even the things that are lacking in our own personalities but we wish were there ... good question ... I guess that's why they call it "falling".


P.S. Don't forget to call your Dad today, hon.

rm_acer57 60M
124 posts
4/29/2006 12:22 pm

What is the most important ingredient in a cake? Any 'wrong ingredient' will totally spoil the result.

Looks are nice but eventually I would want her to love me as I love her.

Some say for a strong relationship the couple has to connect on three levels: animal, emotional, and intellectual.


PS: Applications go in the text-box at the bottom right. .... and no pushing or shoving!

docdirk 48M

4/29/2006 12:37 pm

I'm very particular. For example, for starters, she abslolutely, positively, has to say YES!!!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

Westhill19 54M

4/29/2006 3:22 pm

Thanks for commenting on my blog,I appreciate you taking the time to read my thoughts.
Take care...

rm_irida2005 46F
78 posts
4/29/2006 3:40 pm


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
4/29/2006 6:29 pm

bout damn time you got back! Now go get me a burrito.

NGs_lady 65F
762 posts
4/29/2006 7:05 pm

honesty above allNGs_lady/Lady Stee

semper30 54M
1 post
4/29/2006 9:44 pm

hey not just looking for a fuck,i just tried to say hi,hey hows it going,just a place to start

rm_cnilingsfan2 49M
158 posts
4/29/2006 10:28 pm

attractive(I know thats shallow),honesty,whit and chemistry. To me the last two are the most important.
Glad to see your back we missed you

redpineapple 39M

4/29/2006 11:03 pm

It's a tough question since there are so many important things. I've seen a few comments about a "connection" being the most important thing. On some level I'm inclined to agree with this, however I think there are a few other things that are requisite to attain that.

In a way, I think you could say that other things are first required to attain this "connection" that has so much potential to make any partnership or sexual experience just out of this world. Honesty is certainly high up on the list, but I'd have to say loyalty comes first. It's the first step to commitment, essentially.

This certainly isn't the first thing many of us think about when we have sex on the brain, but upon close thought about many relational dynamics that occur to me, I think that is difficult for human nature to fundamentally supply us with the needed desire to "push" us over the edge of our emotional limitations (that also hold back our physical enjoyment) without first deciding to excercise some mental initiative to "get serious" about a person, so to speak - and then continually maintaining that.

It seems apparent that "commitment" is commonly thought of as something that occurs when a relationship evolves into a supposedly deeper and/or more loving type of thing. Personally, I think that looking at commitment in those terms only serves to keep people from realizing all the different area of their lives that it could benefit.

I think that being very loyal and serious about another person is probably the greatest boon to achieving the heights of even the most shallow aspects of sexual engagement. I think the methods of acquiring primal gratification that typically occur to people, frankly, don't work all that well... Only people might never know it because they just as easily might not ever acquire the frame of mental reference to see the difference.

So my answer to you: Loyalty.

TriggerJinxed 39M

4/30/2006 7:07 am

Has a sense of humor. And a vagina. But a sense of humor the most. And a vagina.


Who am I kidding? Has a vagina. J/K

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
4/30/2006 7:32 am


NiceNaughtyNimai 31M

4/30/2006 8:24 am

Hm. There is no one important quality for me, seeing as how a lot of the times I find I can sacrifice and adapt depending on how much I like ze person. I think teh main problem with online dating is it promotes "picking" or in other words a check list of ideals that the person needs to obtain, if something isn't on ze checklist their out. In reality it's much different though, you might ends up not liking someone so much at first, and then find out later you to go good together because you get to know the person more. For example, you might hate bitches but find out that is smart, loyal, and honest and at first you hated her but now you ends up liking them, such is love random slaps in the face that often make you go wtf? So all in all, I can't really say what's important, I might dare say cliche chemistry but even then there's times when people connect greatest with their opposites. So all I can say is, Love me love me, saaaay that you love meee. Fool me fool me, go on anddd foool me!

Djeeper1987 48M

4/30/2006 10:55 am

Got to be some connection. A level we both can feel for each other. I think its almost like you know when the other person is thinking almost. Mostly she got to have a sense of humor and not be a tight wad.

Carpe Diem

Knot4Everyone 41F

4/30/2006 12:04 pm

I hope you're feeling better! (Sorry I haven't visited in a while...)

What ONE thing is most important in a mate? I only get to choose one thing? Geeze oh wheeze! I have to go with trust. If he's going to be an intimate part of my life then I have to be able to trust him with everything, and he needs to be able to trust me.

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
4/30/2006 4:19 pm

Kindness and respect. And a recent shower.

TriggerJinxed 39M

4/30/2006 6:22 pm

Yeaaah, but you love it.

JoLeeS 41F

4/30/2006 10:42 pm

I can't answer that right now... I dunno what I want anymore.... Glad ya are back girl!

xakosta 39M
41 posts
5/1/2006 12:41 am

well she must certainly be sweet and good character but i must like her face and body also or else you cant enjoy sex i believe!

kitchenfun1234 45M
1797 posts
5/1/2006 3:18 am

She must be someone that I can talk to. I find everything else falls into place if that quality is there.

Don't ever give up searching for the fun in life.

rm_lucky125125 48M
91 posts
5/1/2006 7:26 am

Nothing, there is no one thing, it just is. The momment you meet you know what you want to do to that person, if any onething i would like is for the other person to want the exact same from me
Whats your one?

reverend21 50M
1913 posts
5/1/2006 12:49 pm

A strong spirit

alphuctup 41M

5/2/2006 2:55 am

R-E-S-P-E-C-T...for themselves and others, and more than just a lil bit!

rm_leon5176 41M

5/6/2006 12:28 pm

I've been thinking and it's kind of hard to answer. Let's face it, your question isn't about who you are going to have sex with - it's about who you would actually get together with and spend your life with.

Still can't come up with a sensible answer - it's just I either like the person or I don't. A couple of girlfriends I knew for a long time before we ever got together, I just never looked at them as a possible partner and time wore on and then I did. Other's I've looked at and liked immediately. But I can't tell you what it is about them. Sorry.

rm_yandhar 52M
13 posts
5/7/2006 1:46 am

what a beautiful,lusty,lovely thought,you are expressing.honey.IF you make love with me,not only i make love with you,with a great love passions.also,do a nice,fuck, on a bed.to full fil your great,lusty desire. yandhar.

masterofyou247 43M
4 posts
5/7/2006 7:06 am

if you are submissive

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