In the mailbox....  

amberabercrombie 38F
11929 posts
2/13/2006 3:33 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

In the mailbox....

Would you be willing to give this person another chance...

Dear XXXX:

I can not live another moment without you by my side, Ive made mistakes in the past as your well aware of, but I cant go on without you. You are my sole purpose for living, your the light at the end of the tunnel when I'm having a bad day. I miss your laughter, your kisses, when we were happy the way we made love.

I miss the passion inside you, the quirky little jokes you always make. I miss the way you never miss a beat towards a comeback, your ability to light up a room just by walking into it, the way your hair smells, the way you smile. I miss us. Would you please give me another chance to prove to you that I can be who you want me to be. If so meet me at XXXXX tomorrow.

Love always: XXXXX

Thats the jist of it, confusing, emotional, reckless heart wrenching romantic its to late crap....(OK maybe that was alittle harsh)

What would you do?

onenonlydave_77 40M

2/13/2006 4:47 pm

The words convey a longing, and maybe a sense of loss. I don't doubt that they're sincere and I suspect you don't either. But sincerity is not really the issue. The last line is telling. Being the man you want him to be. He has to change. Not what he says... but what he does. And words are always easier than actions. Changing the way you act takes time and effort.

So, without konwing what the specific issues are/were all I would say is... demand changes in behaviour.... over an extrended period of time. Changes that are born out of a genuine desire, not to please you, but to be the better person that you deserve. The change must be as much for him as for you.

boytoy4urdesire 38M
35 posts
2/13/2006 5:00 pm

Well according to the letter, you are a terrific person to spend time with. Wonder why that never hit him (I assume it's a him) before? Also, the note never says anything in writing about what/how he plans to change; just about how good you are. You know him better than we ever will. How do you feel about him? Do you miss anything about him? Most importantly, do you think he can change and are you willing to go through another heartbreak if he doesnt? If you are, then go for it; but let him know up front what you expect. If not, I fill bad for him, you sound amazing; but sometimes people dont get second chances and maybe thats the lesson he needs to learn.

Allsleeky 37F

2/13/2006 5:16 pm

I agree with onenonlydave_77. I do believe eveyone deserves a second chance but then again it's up to you, only you know what really happened. What ever your decision may be I wish you all the best.

Happy Valentine's Day

rm_z1master 45M

2/13/2006 6:16 pm

a huh sista’ ain’t got no passion
stuck somewhere between money and fashion
Gucci blinders on steady fuckin’ up her sight
but sista’ just simply ain’t ready to see the light

she makes-up happiness in false hues of rouge
over stressed strained eyes, this lady wears her blues
her temple she adorned, yet inside was full of blight
but sista’ just simply ain’t ready to see the light

insecurity often coddled her, self-pity became her new obsession
satiating the appetite of strange men, from past-time to profession
this sick ideal of love sista’ stuck steadfast and held tight
but sista’ just simply ain’t ready to see the light!!

TropicalBill2 63M

2/13/2006 7:08 pm

It's a train wreck!!! Be glad you hopped off at the last stop.

frangipanigal 46F
10406 posts
2/13/2006 8:06 pm

Actions do speak louder than words, but then, none of us know the whole story. You'll know whether to go or not.

Good luck either way.


rm_z1master 45M

2/13/2006 8:59 pm

A thought
I thought I only liked you
didn't mean to actually love you
Thought that this was only lust
didn't know you would earn my trust
but here we are
at a crossroads

Me asking you were we heading
you asking where this is coming from
me wondering how long you expected us
to only have sexual fun

Sure I accepted it in the beginning
it was cool
but after a year went by
I started to feel like a damn fool

I started craving you for more than sex
more talking
more touching
more kissing
more loving

I didn't mean to trip and fall
but it seems
that from the look on your face
I fell past love and straight into hell
this is a feeling
I know all too well

I didn't mean to be here
with my heart in my hands
this definitely wasnt part of the plan

All I want to know
is from here
where exactly do we go

Do you see anything close to forever with me
should I sit here and wait

Or shall I go
walk away
for if you only see a little while
I cant stay, I cant stay

..... A woman may can fake orgasm, A man can fake a whole relationship......

intierzha 45M

2/13/2006 9:01 pm

If it was an actual letter and not just an email, then it might be worth momentarily investigating. Actual letter writing is a lost art these days (even if it is typing it as an email, then printing it and mailing it... sometimes it is nice just to receive mail). But I digress, as others have said, without knowing the details, the big picture is elusive. Taking the letter simply as is, I might be skeptical.

But then, you can only do what you think is best for your own well being.


SlowPlayin 51M

2/13/2006 9:05 pm

I have no doubt he's sorry ... now ... just remember, he wasn't paying attention a few months ago when it would've made more of a difference. You have really good instincts so I guess only you know how sincere he is. Good luck , sweetie ... you're awesome and you deserve the best.

sillyperv 55M

2/14/2006 9:37 am

Puhleaaaasssssee! Of course, I'm a cynic, but this is just melodramatic crapola to get what HE wants - whatever mistakes that have been made in the past will be made again in the future. Do as you will, but remember you've been warned and have no one to blame but yourself - unless of course the sex is hot - then what's another six months of b.s. for some good canoodiling.
Like I said, I'm a cynic.

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