I don't know about you ... but I like them on....  

amberabercrombie 38F
11929 posts
5/17/2006 6:05 am

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I don't know about you ... but I like them on....

I like to have sex with the lights on...I enjoy seeing his face... expressions hes making...where his eyes are wandering... etc. It gives me a good indication as to what hes enjoying from me and what hes not...I’ve never been one to get fully aroused when the lights are off...I suppose you could call me a visual person...perhaps I'm a pervert who needs to see it all...

Ill never forget making love with my X and seeing his different facial expressions ... noticing the little things he did...enjoying the moments when our eyes locked....savoring the emotions that were displayed on his face.... making love with the lights on presents so many opportunities to become in tune with your partner..entwined with one another.....its just this amazing and intense feeling to not only be connected thru your bodies...but connected to them mentally...spiritually and emotionally as well....I have to say I enjoy the visual stimulation of making love just as much as the act of making love itself....

What about you......are you a visual person...does the site of your lover turn you on...do you have to have the lights on or off while making love...does visual stimulation get you in the mood..... does it really matter...what ca think.....lights on or lights off...?

reverend21 51M
1913 posts
5/17/2006 6:23 am

I can go either way, it depends on the person I'm with, but personally, my bedroom faces east, and there is nothing quite like the early morning glow for truely passionate sex, with maybe the exception of the full moon (big skylights in my house), and lightning.

Now all I need is a lover, any volunteers?

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
5/17/2006 6:33 am

Depends on the moment ... but especially with a new lover, lights on!

firestarter665 44M/40F

5/17/2006 6:35 am

Usually I am a dimmed light kind of person. I don't like it completely dark, but I don't like bright lights either. A nice candle light evening does it for me.

Phuc_Buddy 47M

5/17/2006 6:35 am

Give it to me all in full technicolor, dolby surround sound and scratch and sniff!

rm_Horsn_round 57M
126 posts
5/17/2006 6:51 am

It depends on the mood. A flickering candle enhances a romantic evening. But brighter lights boost a playful twist.

If you were my homework, I'd do you everyday, in every possible way.

ilsuconu 58M

5/17/2006 7:09 am

Well Well Well!!! I'm not so weird after all! Of course the lights have to be on... it's silly to think that art can be appreciated in the dark!

sillyperv 56M

5/17/2006 8:56 am

Lights on. The voyuer comes out. That's one of the best things about going down on a woman: seeing the hips roll up and down, the various slopes of her stomach, chest and breast rise and fall as she builds to orgasm and then that sleepy smile. The best.

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

5/17/2006 9:19 am

Making LOVE to Mr.Bambi just wouldn't be the same if I could not see and feel the expressions on his face.

And of course he feels the same way, especially when I get ready to squirt, he loves watching it come out.

So yes, I agree with you totally.

Lady Bambi

closer2u1971 47M

5/17/2006 9:41 am

as a kid I always read the "pictures" and not the words. i am HIGHLY VISUAL person and totally get turned on by the sites and sounds of it all.

i want to be watched and I want to watch. to me it's the total package. now I can't stand it though when it's quiet in the room. music must be the background.

blueguy1051 61M

5/17/2006 9:42 am

If I have to turn the light off, then I probably don't want to be there when the sun comes up ...

Candlelight is nice.

I once had a lover (for several months) that I never saw nude. Pretty strange.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/17/2006 9:53 am

It depends on my mood.....most of the time, I like to watch my lady's reaction during our lovemaking/playtime....

I get a little self concious knowing she's watching me, but I can get passed that...

NG61...fading back into the shadows...

digdug41 50M

5/17/2006 10:19 am

Yes its definitely a turn on to see my partners face as we do the do

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

Longwoodlovers 60M/59F

5/17/2006 10:31 am

I'm with you Amber.
Lights off is like getting a blowjob while wearing a condom. You just can't complete the connection.

rm_Twister2bed 48M
617 posts
5/17/2006 10:35 am

Lights off Lights on really makes no difference to me to be honest.
Though candle light is my favorite not real bright but just enough for the mood.

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
5/17/2006 10:43 am

Usually, I enjoy the lights being on. Sometimes I like them off. But I like to see my lover - watch his body as he moves or thrusts deeply inside of me. I also like for him to be able to see me.


P.s. I took your suggestion and left a post today about condoms. You're mentioned in the post (hope you don't mind).

Helper874 46M

5/17/2006 10:52 am

Great subject.....Lights definately on. Have too see into My lover's eyes.....see the expressions.....see the soul within. I get so aroused not just physically but mentally responding to her.....seeing the way she moves, watching her breathe. Watching her watch me.

Guess it is the way it should be. To see the pleasure in each other's responses. Like I said...great subject.

Look forward to reading more of Your blogs. Think I will enjoy it. Have a great day...

concupiscentKid 41M

5/17/2006 10:53 am

I'm a visual person, so lights on.

JoLeeS 42F

5/17/2006 11:19 am

I have always been so self conscious about myself that sex with the lights on was an absolute no... The curtains in my room had other curtains under it(ever seen the movie "Pitch Black"? That was how my room was).... I didn't want to be seen naked...at all.... However, recently I met someone who didn't mind any of my flaws.... He likes me for me.... He is the first person that has ever touched my entire body(it's like he can't stop...lol)from head to toe..... He loves my ass in particular...lol He told me he wanted to see my face and my body... He lit a candle or two.... I thought it couldn't get any better(than that last post girl)...I was SOOOO wrong..... Let's just put it this way girl... He got here at 11 and didn't leave til the sun came up.... And we didn't sleep one bit. And...that is ok with me. Funny thing is I didn't meet him here.... He is a total sweetheart. If he is not here he calls me at 9(after I put kiddo in bed)and we talk until 2 or 3 in the morning..... I think Fate has stepped in and brought me that "Knight In White Satin"...

MyRealLoverOne 47M

5/17/2006 11:34 am

Yes....I gotta have the lights on so I can see exactly where my hand will strike that ass......

honeycomb1974 45M/44F
282 posts
5/17/2006 11:42 am

I like it both ways. Some times I like to be able to see him and know where is going to touch me, then again in the dark I'm totally taken by surprise and I love surprises! Honey

cobra70118 106M

5/17/2006 12:42 pm

At night by soft candle light...

to look into their eyes...

unless your in another position...

qship52 64M

5/17/2006 1:38 pm

I must be weird. My girlfriend likes the lights on, and she says she loves to watch me. I usually like to have my eyes closed, and mentally visualize what I am feeling.

Dildo_replacemen 39M

5/17/2006 1:45 pm

I'm a very visual person, especially with sex... I want to see it all, so lights on. Then again, I do get very aroused with sensory deprevation, like blind folds or absolute darkness!

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
5/17/2006 4:10 pm

Love the lights on but low just bright enough to see ut low and seductive. I am a visual person too there is nothing more erotic then the sexy look of a woman's face right before she has a climax the way her mouth is slightly open her eyes close lightly her lips puffy and full her hair slightly disheveled, her breasts bouncing with each stroke see her body wiggling and squirming see her sleek legs scissoring back and forth and watch my hardness disappearing inside her beautiful sex and come out all slick and glistening from her wetness hmmmmmmmm You do this on purpose don't you just to get me all worked up. You know I was going to just say yes and I got all carried away again hahaha well I hope it was good for you too at least hehehehehe see you girl oh and part 3 is out too check it out see you JD

Djeeper1987 48M

5/17/2006 4:17 pm

Depends on the moment....with you I want to keep the lights on so I can see your beauty!!!!

Carpe Diem

im_curious_4u 51M

5/17/2006 4:21 pm

I like some lights on, but not too bright. Candle light is great and so is getting romantic infront of a fireplace.

My lady kept telling me to turn out the lights the other day so I end up running around the house shutting off one light after another and asking how's that each time. By the time she says that's good I'm already out of breath and we hadn't even gotten naked yet.

rm_tlaw781 40M

5/17/2006 6:12 pm

Yes lights are very nice indeed to visualize the entire experience eyes gazing, emotions etc, but I don't like to forget about the other senses given to me and try to use those just as much. There was this funky blind exhibit I went to as a kid where they would send you thru a hall with absolutely no light and tell you to feel your way through. When you got out you had to tell them all you felt and what it was. It was amazing to realize how under used my other senses were and how nobody correctly identified anything in the hall. So I take that little lesson to heart and especially in the bedroom where even if the lights are out all the other senses are heightened and you "see" so many more sides of intimacy in touch smell taste and hearing when your eyes are taken away. Take those heightened senses outside of the bedroom and the world is a whole new place. I once yelled to a girl who was on the complete opposite end of a hallway if she was wearing a particular scent i was familiar with. She freaked out and asked how I knew and told me she had tried some (s spray or two)at a friends apt about 8 hours earlier. Gotta love the human body! Ramble ramble.

frangipanigal 46F
10406 posts
5/17/2006 6:17 pm

In the night, I prefer half a dozen or so candles. Enough light to see and enough dark to hide my body faults.

In the morning, love the dark to make those suprise attack manouevres!!


rm_Ellenback 60F
966 posts
5/17/2006 7:03 pm

Lights on, although that's a recent occurrence with me!!! Used to be only lights off with my Ex, and I think I lost that inhibition when I dumped him..HUH!

Good writer, hun, love your stuff - for a young'un you're quite learned...



norprin5 56M

5/17/2006 7:04 pm

some light, definitely...candles or a lamp, or the moon...

but full daylight's good too, outside in the big ol' world

King Nor XVIII

oldude1946 72M

5/17/2006 8:04 pm

I'm kind of like Motel 6, I'll leave the light on for ya

puntachueca 107M

5/17/2006 8:22 pm

Definitely in the light...but there are all kinds of light...candle light, moon light, sun light, flashes of lightning...

docdirk 49M

5/17/2006 9:03 pm

It's all about the candlelight. Especially when in church!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

chasingfun27 39M
1108 posts
5/17/2006 9:07 pm

If you can't see your partner, 1/2 the fun is taken away. There's a time for everything but why would you choose to be unable to see the person you're pleasing, and who pleases you?

f7south 51M

5/17/2006 9:48 pm

I would like to have the opportunity to get to that point to have a choice!!! The ex never liked to have the lights on-she said it made her feel more relaxed, and if our son should walk in on us, the cover of darkness would buy us more time to cover up.

rm_IMHOTEP0069 44M
21 posts
5/17/2006 9:54 pm

definitely lights on, I put up A ceiling fan with a remote so I can dim the lights if that's the mood, Or on the headboard I have black lights for that mood, or candles and an oil lamp for that mood. I love watching her eyes roll up in the back of her head, body's pounding together, sweat rolling off...you know what I mean >>! >>!

rm_lust2u2 53M

5/18/2006 12:44 am

I agree with kelli4u2dew

alphuctup 41M

5/18/2006 1:32 am

Yes, preferably on. I like to see her and I like her to see me.

Peche85 32F

5/18/2006 5:10 am

Candles would be my fave! I don't mind having the light on, but if I'm on my back I don't like it on because its too bright and hurts my eyes. My candles have just the right amount of light to be able to see everything but aren't too bright

rm_mrshyguy6705 50M

5/18/2006 6:58 am

On or off, each has it's own perks. But overall I'm like most and prefer on...mostly candlelight for that extra ambience.


rm_acer57 60M
124 posts
5/18/2006 8:28 am

I'm not surprised most here like some light (me too!). You should have a poll about how they feel about mirrors!

fijiguy610 58M  
88 posts
5/18/2006 9:42 am

General consensus seems to be "lights on" with a favorable rating on the "candles". I would concur.

I enjoy the light of day but can really howl at a full moon - if ya know what I mean. (Y)

It is infinately more enjoyable when we can look into each others eyes and see the expression on each others faces. This works especially well with the lady on top.

How can you resist that smoldering look on Sexydisaster30's face!!!!!

I'll concur with Peche85 though on the bright lights in the eyes. Candles will create the right mood.

JaniSux 46F

5/18/2006 4:08 pm

A dim room is my fav... hides my faults and I can still kinda see the emotions on his face.. although I do love to clearly see into his eyes, to know every emoation sail across his face with the things that makes him shiver, or see the look on his face as he's moaning.. or as his cock is sliding in and out of my mouth...

I'm not completely comfortable with every single thing about my body BUT if I'm with a man who's totally turned on by me, and who is practically foaming at the mouth over my body (and don't be surprised this has happened), then I'm more comfy with having the lights on, but with a guy who's been with thin women on a regular... I admit, I get self-conscious and want a dim room. I don't want to be compared to someone else, let's face it, I"m doing enough of that to myself..

sorry for the lengthy comment Amber

reverend21 51M
1913 posts
5/18/2006 7:00 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Ill volenteer as long as your patient with one who has had sex in what seems like a billon trillon light years!
with you, I'm always patient

Kamikazewild2005 39M/30F
10 posts
5/18/2006 8:52 pm

Lights on for sure. I totally agree with you about watching your lovers face, and watching their expressions. Not to mention that connection you can feel when looking deep into their eyes while your pushing each other completely over the edge.

im_curious_4u 51M

5/18/2006 8:53 pm

amberabercrombie replies ~ lol...that requires WAY to much work!!! You two should invest in one of those clappers!

Hey now becareful with using the words clappers or clap on a sex site. Next time if the g/f says anything about the lights I'm going to turn all of them on.

Phuc_Buddy 47M

5/19/2006 2:11 am

Girl are you being a chicken?

And as far as THOSE things well that should have been understood!


gwilly35 48M
1 post
5/19/2006 5:16 am

Hey just wanted to say you put a lot of interesting things to read and think about. It's a pleasure reading someones short thoughts that actually have a brain and know's how to use it.

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
5/19/2006 5:22 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    You know, right before I start a blog im thinking what can I write to turn JD on tonight
I was thinking that, you are such a wonderful person to go through all the trouble for just little old me hehehe. You are too much fun see you around JD

LookandWink 64M

5/19/2006 8:00 am

I would rather have the lights on. I enjoy giving sensual massages and really exploring my lovers body. My last lover had a beautiful body that I really loved to examine. When we make love, I get very turned on by watching her face ... looking deep into her eyes.

Dildo_replacemen 39M

5/19/2006 3:06 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    I like being tied up..perhaps you and I should exchange sex secrets here lol.
Oh god it's no secret, I'll just come over and show you.

rm_amesisboring 34M

5/25/2006 8:26 am

i prefer some light but not alot of light

cageywolf 49M

5/26/2006 6:23 am

I like to do it in the daytime so lights are not an issue. Outdoors is good too.

rm_sloman44 61M
701 posts
5/29/2006 4:10 pm

Give me just enough soft light to see her beautiful face, that gorgeous body and where all the moving parts are and I'm a happy camper.

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