*Sexual thoughts*  

amberabercrombie 38F
11929 posts
4/12/2006 9:22 pm

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*Sexual thoughts*

Have you ever wondered how others perceive you in the bedroom? I sometimes wonder after sex....was I a 9 or a 10 tonight ...did I lay there to much and do nothing, did I over fuck him and bore him...was I too much for him to handle...could I have been better...

Have you ever thought to yourself ....are they comparing me with other lovers right now, was that blow job not the *right away*...was I suppose to do this when I could have did that...

I often wonder how one rates themselves sexually and what thoughts go thru their head during and after intercourse...

So I plan to find out...

What are you thinking about during and after intercourse? Do you wonder what thoughts they have of you?

Knot4Everyone 41F

4/12/2006 9:34 pm

Hmmmm... During intercourse I'm not thinking about anything (or anyone) except what I'm doing right then and there. I try to get as much pleasure out of it as I can - it doesn't happen often so I have to get while the gettin's good! I do sometimes wonder, when things first get going anyway, if he's thinking about someone else and comparing me to them. After a few minutes my worries disappear and it's all good!

No one's ever said "This other woman I was with, she would do it this way...", but that doesn't mean he wasn't thinking it. Now I'm going to be paranoid the next time I'm about to have sex!


rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
4/12/2006 9:48 pm

Think? Uh ... I'm supposed to think?

SlowPlayin 51M

4/12/2006 10:26 pm


OK ... you asked for it.

Last weekend was awesome ... don't worry, I'm not going to give details but ... the first time was a 9 because we were both a little nervous but ... definitely a 10 the second and third times ... especially saturday morning ... you were/are YUMMY ... just in case you were wondering about that specifically.

Sorry to "kiss and tell" but you asked.


n0tatalker 40M

4/12/2006 10:27 pm

It depends,
With just any old "regular" yeah! I sometimes think about the hotter girls... but I'm thinkin' you don't have to worry about that, for atleast another decade! In fact, Blondi (and this goes for all you other hotties aswell)be thankful you can't hear us when we have sex... I'm sure your hearts want to lead you towards the beleif his mind and body are aligned in absolute harmonious satisfaction! Even his dissatisfaction with not being able to relay to you his deepest kinkiest secrets may be better than the reality in this case. But, unfortunatly, most of the time we are just thinking to ourselves "...Don't come yet, don't come yet, don't...etc.)

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
4/12/2006 10:43 pm

This was interesting....I've had girls try to trick me...lol...

"Am I doing this right?" "Did someone else (girl abc) do it better (different)?"...LMAO


ps If they persist in the above, the answer is YES!!...do this or that...there that's wonderful...or more likely, call me later we'll do lunch!...lMAO

reverend21 50M
1913 posts
4/12/2006 10:55 pm

NO, usually the women I am with are quite vocally and very appreciative. Well there was that on complaint, are 13 orgasms in an hour really painful for a woman?

intierzha 44M

4/12/2006 11:05 pm

I know you might be shocked, lol, but I'm a person that thinks things through a lot. Too much, most of the time. Before intercourse or other related sexual activity, I am certainly thinking too much; however, once things get going, instinct takes over. I feel and sense the woman's movements and how she reacts. Listening to her, talking to her, responding to her, but rarely thinking about it.

Afterward, I go back to thinking too much as the thoughts do overwhelm me, but its a gauzy, easy kind of thought while cuddling and embracing. And I don't rate myself or my partners. Every experience is unique in its own way because we or the environment or the circumstance changes to each encounter.

Ok, now thinking about it too much again


EverReady343 48M

4/12/2006 11:31 pm

Most of the time I can tell how things are going during sex.I love to please so I do think about how they are feeling and this makes for more enjoyable sex. Sex has a lot to do within the mind. Body language plays a big part as well. I can remember one time when I was in a 69 position when this woman stopped sucking me because she had lost control while having orgasms. I love to look into their gazing eyes while I am fucking them.
I have compared one partner from another after sex but have kept it to myself. Although I have told some girls that have been great in bed that they were the best. Its good to tell someone how much you loved it.

Lots of love from EverReady

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
4/12/2006 11:56 pm

Even though I'm at the age where I'm not out to impress anyone, I still can't help but think:

"Is she enjoying herself?"
"Will she get off with what I'm doing?"

Things like that.....

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
4/13/2006 1:37 am

Only the first time (ok maybe the 2nd time(ok, ok maybe the 3rd time)) but I was an over thinker, hell in a lot of things I still am. Now however I just stay away from those who have an unhealthy attachment to an ex lover. If they continuously talk about their ex like they were the best thing since sliced bread its definately time for me to take a step back. No one is that good, I mean I make some damn good bread.

Oh and btw I've ordered 2 wheelchairs (one for each of us) and one pair of boxing gloves for you. Anytime you want it to begin just come knocking.

If the worst comes to the worst I should win the wheelchair race, seeing you will have gloves on.

Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
4/13/2006 2:41 am

I think its pretty easy to tell if the breathing and moaning is real or not, and if your still not sure by sight and sound, the best way is to tell by touch. If they don't tremble when you lightly touch her skin(and not in the usual tickle spots), you havn't done your job.

oldude1946 72M

4/13/2006 3:25 am

During: I Think I Can....I Think I Can>>!

After: I Know I Did.....I Know I Didhappym;

hansum_strangrr 48M
384 posts
4/13/2006 3:48 am

I am a leo, so I am pretty confident. I am not worried, but on occasion that first time can be to quick and I think about... does she know that it's just because it is new and exciting and it will get MUCH better the second time around.

Everybody Dies, Not Everyone Really Lives.

11nilinho 34M
2 posts
4/13/2006 5:58 am

i惴 asking myself if she愀 satisfied...than i look at them ..they愉e sweaty and their pussies are still drippin wet of cum and their own juice...than i know it...and that愀 what makes me even more feel good.. i just like to satisfy girls till their bodies can愒 go any further cause battery is empty

rm_cnilingsfan2 49M
158 posts
4/13/2006 9:14 am

AS stated with others I worried about those sort of questions when I was younger. Now I am confident and learned how to listen for what she would want even when she does not talk Personally I try not to compare as it could become distracting and who cares maybe if she was not as good as a past lover in one thing maybe she is better at another Also being a teacher or student can be fun

Fletch8491 51M

4/13/2006 9:19 am

I always wonder how I am perceived, but I don't dwell on it or let it affect me during. I always concentrate on making sure the woman is getting the most out of it, so I adapt as we progress. For the record, I have never been verbally given a poor rating, but you can sort of tell when a woman has enjoyed the experience or not. I am probably my harshest critic more so than anyone else.

StaynHardnHot 43M
305 posts
4/13/2006 9:53 am

This has nothing to do with the subject, but i just realized i was in your backyard last week...not literally, but i was visiting my cousin who lives downtown on Queens Quay and York last week....small world huh??

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
4/13/2006 12:07 pm

I've never really wondered too much about it... Sure, I've thought of it, but usually, once I go down on the girl for a very long time and feel her cum numerous times, I know she's probably just thinking of me at that point! You weren't thinking of me?

docdirk 48M

4/13/2006 5:02 pm

Oh no, not that question: "What are you thinking?" Ahhhhhh!!!

Here's what a guy is thinking after sex; "I just got laid... YES!!!"

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
4/14/2006 5:22 am

I'm not really in a sense considering how good my lover is as much as im trying to focus on how good of an orgasm i do give her when we make love. I like those OMG where did that come from looks a lover gives you when you do it just right Or those looks in her eyes like she is about to go out of her mind during lovemaking. If your with your lover then there is no rating scale because they know everything that pleases you sexually and how to get out of you what they want at any time if they choose. My perspective anyways


rm_acer57 60M
124 posts
4/14/2006 10:11 am

This is a really good question because with time it changed with me. In the begining I did over-think in a very self-critical or occasionally in a 'comparison' way, but now I'm much more in the moment and focused on what turns her on. It seems to depend so much on the 'ifs'. The publisher of Penthou*e magazine was once asked what makes a woman good in bed? He answered 'A good man.' If there is mutual attraction... if he can read her... if she can read him.... All these things are important. No longer is it how does she compare to someone else it has become 'how much fun are we going to have right Now?' The time right now is special and unique all on it's own.

rm_ptbobiboy 37M
14 posts
4/14/2006 12:00 pm

Hiya, Amber. This is the first time I've checked out your blog... pretty sweet if you ask me.

As to the topic of discussion, I don't usually think too much during sex, but afterwards I'm wondering if I'm being compared to past lovers/fucks. Then I quickly realize that it doesn't matter what anyone before me was like because I'M HERE NOW.

Allsleeky 37F

4/14/2006 5:13 pm

I never really thought about it! But ,"did he enjoy it as much as I did" would probably be the Q.

rm_cnilingsfan2 49M
158 posts
4/14/2006 5:17 pm

Should I get out my paddle

beatpoeme 55M

4/14/2006 7:46 pm

Life/sex is a learning process. I never assume that I have all the bases covered but I still like to keep a confidence about anything I do. I always go in with the best intentions and hope to learn soemthing new. That is difficult if you have barriers of arrogance and conciet. Expression requires a bit of hit and miss, especially when people are new together. Or even with people who are familiar. I have heard it said that if you do something the same way for a long periond of time you may be doing it wrong. Give and take learn and grow from the experience.

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
4/15/2006 1:54 am

YOu may never lose but what you don't realise is i'm an old style street fighter, there is no limit to the number of rounds. I may not win but I never lose, I'm no quitter. You sure about that wheelchair?

StaynHardnHot 43M
305 posts
4/15/2006 2:28 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Next time your in my backyard stop by the patio for a cooler!
Definately, drop me a line here so we can stay in touch be back in a month i think.

JaniSux 45F

4/15/2006 7:12 pm

Hmmmm... great ques...

But one of those things that ya never really want to let anyone know... during sex.. I love to just lose myself in the moment and try to enjoy every single touch, lick, kiss, blow, suck, and fuck... and afterwards.. well the thoughts going through my head are different for each guy..

There is one guy who I wonder if he's comparing me to other women he's been with... he's very hot and have a feeling that the rest of his partners were much better looking, and in better shape, less fat, etc.. I force myself to stop because it's only torturing me.. and making me feel self-conscious.

Others.. I pretty much just focus on the good time that I had with them.. and well.. they're usually still raving about somethg, or thgs that I did to them... so I feel pretty confident abt my performance.. lol and if I'm wrong well... they shld say somethn... lol


smackyman 47M
3849 posts
4/15/2006 11:07 pm

During sex? Hmmmm - who's on first, what's on second, I don't know is on third...

Naughty12plzU 60M

4/16/2006 5:40 am

Without a strong disciplined mind, seeking the comparison and perhaps worse, the answer to the question could be dangerous for a fragile soul. I focus on the moment and prefer to believe that each of us brings to these most pleasuable of lifes pursuits our more treasured experiences and "techniques" and in the spirit of fun and exploration with a new lover we try things out. We find what works for "us" at that moment. Perhaps it's something I learned, or perhaps something she shared with me or, even better, something totally new that we both just fell into during our own unbridled lusty pursuit. Oh yeah, lots of good ole fashion communication helps too.

rm_shag125 50M

4/18/2006 5:48 am

BABY JUST BE SURE OF YOURSELF. He will be proud of you I guarantee that. And I'll bet he will want some more.[OF YOU THAT IS] SO JUST GIVE HIM ALL YOU GOT

their_be_pirates 65M
7 posts
4/22/2006 4:24 am

i think of wanting to please the woman , for her to be as satisfied as possible with me of prolonging my orgasm till the very last and and enjoying the act of sex not the ejaculation

rm_zero_antares 37M
1 post
4/23/2006 12:00 pm

al pareser tenemos el mismo gusto por expresar nuestros estados atravez de diujos, lastima q no entienda nada , hablas español

sexmanStrongss 34M
34 posts
5/1/2006 2:25 am

I am in Shanghai.I am a single man.22 years old collage student.good at sex.I want to have sex with you do you accept me?

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