tell all?  

alwzwetbbw 38F
213 posts
7/12/2006 3:17 am

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11/28/2006 8:13 pm

tell all?


Recently I met up with someone for drinks. We had chatted off and on for a few months, exchanged pics, etc. and decided it was time we should meet.

When I got to the location to meet him it was obvious there was something he failed to tell me about himself.

After I left, I was irritated at him because after a a month of chatting, it wasn't something that was ever mentioned. Even though my reasons for not meeting again have nothing to do with what he failed to tell me about himself, I'm still not understanding why he wouldn't have breifly told me.

So my question is.....

Is it acceptable to hide something that is fairly obvious, which you know might turn off people for the first meet?

I understand no one is perfect (lord knows, I'm not). But, if it is something that is obvious and known that people could potentially have a problem with, is it okay not to mention? How much do you tell? Do you think that with AdultFriendFinder people are obligated to be upfront?

SweetLoadInKC 47M

7/12/2006 4:49 am

I'm dying to know.... what was the thing that he failed to mention?!?!?!?!?!??


alwzwetbbw replies on 7/17/2006 4:42 pm:
he has ms....i feel like an ass for even have blogged about it. i just thought that is something someone would be upfront about.

nightnsa 49M  
415 posts
7/12/2006 6:23 am

i would think that you need to be upfront..esp if it is obvious....i am curious too...was he hidiously disfigured???


alwzwetbbw replies on 7/17/2006 4:43 pm:
i would think a person would be too. as for what was wrong, see the above reply.

rm_Drush36 38M

7/15/2006 2:04 am

Honesty is a big thing with me. Besides if the attraction is based on a lie or partial truth then the attraction is fake and the lieing was for not. That's what I think anyway


alwzwetbbw replies on 7/17/2006 4:47 pm:
honesty is a big deal to me too and i completely agree by lying or telling "partial truths" the attraction isn't whole or sincere. thanks for your comment!

letsdoitn2005 56F

7/17/2006 10:02 am

Being a female myself I feel that he should have been upfront and honest with you especially if you had been honest with him.I know myself I do not base everything on looks,it is the inner person.So guys and gals,if you chat and plan too meet,please be open and honest.By the way what was he not open with you about


alwzwetbbw replies on 7/17/2006 4:49 pm:
100% agreement with your comment again see above for the response as to what he failed to mention. thanks for your post!

rm_catdaddy842 53M
1 post
7/19/2006 1:07 pm

Definitely honest...you are who you are and, if soneone won't take you as you are, neither will be happy.


alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 5:47 am:
i agree.

whodey123 51M  
27 posts
8/21/2006 4:48 pm

he has a horrible debilitating disease and you cut off ties, i think you have what is known as scs, or shallow cunt syndrome. trust me it would have taken a big person to try to figure out what obviously attracted you to him, or you probably would not have had a meet. all you clearly are looking for is a rod, know this it will not be mine.


alwzwetbbw replies on 8/22/2006 4:00 pm:
your comment is appreciated, you just need to get your facts straight and understand i didn't cut off ties because of the ms. i cut off ties because of how he liked to talk about pulling guns on people. i was irritated not only because he wasn't upfront about the ms but also because he wasn't the person he seemed to be on chat. as far as cutting off ties, i did so months ago and its funny that he keeps trying to hit me up. he needs to get a clue.

as for me being a, what was it, shallow cunt, last i checked i was a bitch, an honest one at that. i don't hide who or what i am and i expect others to extend the same courtesy.

as far as me looking for a rod, why the fuck else would i be on AdultFriendFinder? i'm not looking for the love of my life and if you come to AdultFriendFinder to do so, you are definately looking in the wrong place.

ClockYetisBalls 52M
2 posts
10/9/2006 12:13 pm

WELL AS LONG AS IT STAYS AN ON-LINE RELATIONSHIP NO BUT THE MOMENT A MEETING IS SET UP YES YOU SHOULD'VE BEEN TOLD.I'M A C4-5-6 QUADRAPLEDGIC IN A WHEELCHAIR AND CAN'T HIDE IT AND AM ALWAYS UP-FRONT WITH PEOPLE ABOUT IT WHEN WE DECIDE TO MEET IN PERSON.THAT WAY A PERSON CAN MAKE AN INFORMED DECISION ABOUT MEETING OR NOT.SO YOU HAVE EVERY REASON TO BE UPSET/MAD WITH THAT PERSON.


Sir_Phillip_Flor 63M

11/25/2006 10:36 am

Sometimes it is good to tell all while at other times it is not. If there is something that is phsyically different about you, you should tell someone before meeting them. i.e. having six fingers on a hand or you have to use a wheel chair because you can not walk. I feel it is best to tell these things up front. That way you can get rid of those that will reject you because of these. Now there are personal things that we generally do not talk about. Some people don't because they are proud and are not looking for pitty.


thatlikinstik 41M
32 posts
11/28/2006 6:51 pm

I think that some people have what other people perceive to be obvious and glaring deficincies. But to those who bear them, they are simply a part of their makeup and because they have a healthy sense of self, they do not view those perceived deficiencies as anything abnormal, wrong or even worth mentioning.

Some folks who fit that description are aware and sensitive to others' perceptions and in turn disclose accordingly. Other people are so comfortable in their own skin that they become oblivious.


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