Suggestions on how to orgasm?  

alexzia 40F
68 posts
11/8/2005 11:13 am

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Suggestions on how to orgasm?

Hey all... I figured what better place to ask this question. In my 28 years I have never been able to orgasm during sex. I can during foreplay but never during. Now to my defense... Ive also never had a guy that was willing to try longer then 20 min... So its not like its been explored very well either. Anybody have any suggestions? I dont fake orgasms either so my boyfriends feelings get hurt that I cant..

lozie87 30F
1 post
11/8/2005 11:27 am

Aren't you a sweety? I've faked most of my life to be honest, i hardly ever come during sex and when i do it's because i play with myself while i ride them! i can sometimes come through foreplay, but its mostly down to me. I know this sounds like a moan and im not being much help, but what im saying is, maybe you could try that? Be on top, sit up and do it yourself. You'll come, he'll get a great view and he'll be happy that you've had an orgasm! Good luck xxx

SillieBear 64M

11/8/2005 11:56 am


From a guy with fairly good success... over the years.

That is a complicated question...believe it or not. Longer duration is not always the answer. Also, I think you are smart for not faking it. If your guy finds out he will be REALLY UPSET! Honesty is the best policy, tell him what gets you hotter while you are in the act. Many women need extra stimulation besides penis in vagina before and during intercourse. Afterplay may be a part of what you need to grow your trust in him and to truly relax which is essential for the orgasm. Relax to get excited and go over the top???? Sounds like a paradox and to some extent it is. Don't try too hard.

I am assuming that you have pleasured yourself to orgasm, frequently and sort of at will. That is really important. If so, consider having your partner present while you do that. At first it may inhibit you to have him there, but eventually nature will win out and you will orgasm. It is a short distance from there to having him "help you out."

One universal answer is loys of foreplay. I am talking an hour of foreplay before the main event. If it isn't worth lots of foreplay than(IMHit isn't worth it!

Since I don't know what you like/dislike it is tough to give specifics. Every woman is different and has different needs from time to time.

Your partner has a lot to do with it. An experienced lover (experienced meaning talented, not his number of conquests) is the biggest single asset you can have. Now, I am not saying that you should change partners, but rather to seek the advice of persons that have practical knowledge. There are many great books out there in the legitimate press, but IMHO they tend to go a bit off the deep end with "100 different secrets to the ultimate orgasm, etc." Also, don't even worry about the "g-spot" or "vaginal" orgasm, etc. Just try for the standard PIV with some additional clitoral stim at first.

Hope this helps.

tonguegod6969 49M

11/8/2005 12:30 pm

i just think when you are with the right man eventually you will get those orgasms.its just a matter of time,he doesnt take the time to warm you up and get the senses going and your imagination running which will bring your hormones to a certain level you need to have a other word more play is needed.

Go_4_the_Best 46M
12 posts
11/8/2005 12:57 pm

Girl... you may have answerd half of the reason why... your partners.

On the otherhand,,,, If you are orgasaming during forplay... then maybe the answer is to get simulation in the same area while intercourse is taking place... I really hope you get the big O soon during one of your sessions...

alexzia 40F

11/8/2005 1:27 pm

Thank you all for the great comments. Yes I have rubbed my clit during intercourse to orgasm during but technically to some guys that doesnt count cause its not from them. I really wish I could though you know?

AltumHunksUnite 54M

11/8/2005 2:35 pm

Wait a sec.. who says it doesn't count if you finger yourself to orgasm during intercourse?

It mostly certainly DOES count.

If that's how your man feels about it, well, that's your business, but in my book, it counts.

Let me drive. I like the view

rm_tamemycock 38M

11/8/2005 10:28 pm

Hey Alex,
It's simple and I've been doing it for years, making the lady orgasm that is....I'm not a self proclaimed pro, but have had good instruction from a few lovely gals. Anytime you'd be interested, or any female that reads this, I'm willing to show you in a discreet manor at your leisure. Comfort is key. Talk to ya....

rm_DavidX5969 58M
2 posts
1/16/2006 9:57 am

I prefer to please the woman before myself. My objective is to make you feel comfortable with tender kisses and rubbing al over the body. I move from lips to breasts to vagina. I like to alternate between rubbing the clitoris and stroking my fingers (2) in your vagina. I then will leave two fingers deep and work on the clitoris with a quick flicking of my tongue. I have never failed to have a woman orgasm within ten minutes. When you orgasm, I then suck the clitoris for extra stimulation while I feel you throb around my fingers. This lasts for a few seconds and then I mount. As I pump slowly, I maintain finger contact around, but not on the clitoris as I do not want to over stimulate. I massage around the clitoris which maintains your orgasm. As I stroke inside your pussy, you will climax at least one more time (which gives you the orgasm you want during intercourse). I would be pleased to demonstrate this technique to any of the women who desire. My best e-mail is AdultFriendFinder Hope to see you soon!
David X

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