Temporary Stay of Execution!  

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7/28/2006 7:55 pm

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Temporary Stay of Execution!

YES! The doc had a C-section and couldn't keep our appointment! No sitting in a puddle of KY Jelly for ME today! Yesterday I got to ask Phuc Buddy 2 questions for his Phuc Project blog. It got me to thinking. Who is the love of YOUR life? What makes them the LOYL? Are you with that person now? If not, why? Did timing play into it? As many of you know, I have a FWB that I've been trying to shake for some time now. He tells me he loves me (Because that makes me HOT! I don't care if you mean it, I won't hold you to it, I just love to HEAR it!)that he wants me to leave hubby and marry him, etc. Not gonna happen! He is NOT the LOML. The love of my life is Jack. He's a bad boy, badass, sexy, horny guy. I haven't seen him in 17 years, but if he called today and said "let's go" I would. We were together on and off for years, but things never worked out with us, always timing or circumstances that kept it from moving on. I don't even know if it would've worked if we DID manage to get it all together, and maybe that's why he's the LOML. Maybe the fantasy is better than the reality. What do YOU think? Is there someone in your past you just can't let go of? Someone that the mere thought of them makes you daydream and fantasize? C'mon, tell MAMI all about it!

intierzha 45M

7/28/2006 9:16 pm

Well, glad you didn't have to deal with the doctor... I'm generally not a fan of them, but considering the times I've spent in hospitals, I try to avoid them as much as possible.

You do pose some intriguing, if energetic, questions (but considering the big bold type of your blog, I would suspect a lot of energy from you for which no easy answer exists. Of course, the best questions never have the easy answers. I feel I have been blessed to meet two people who would be considered the loves of my life, though they might disagree now. One was so long ago, my memories of her are the hazy days of youth (though I saw her not long ago in Sydney), and the other woman, my ex-wife, while there are issues, I still have a fondness for her. I am resolved to my current situation and know I may not see them again, but there are other lives


akron42 replies on 7/29/2006 7:00 pm:
Sometimes I think it's enough just knowing they are still around, that I COULD be with them again if I wanted. Like you, I think youth had a big hand in some of it!

florallei 100F

7/28/2006 9:57 pm

Hi Hun,

No one from my past...burned the bridges. My BF and lover are both LOMF. My lover just declared he wants to leave his wife. The marriage had been bad for years before I was even in the picture. He moved from his city to be where I am and commutes back to his home on weekends. He is serious and so am I but I love both men. Never thought it could happen.

akron42 replies on 7/29/2006 7:02 pm:
Isn't it strange? I know what you mean though. Two men, two different loves, but both equally intense. Do you WANT him to leave his wife? I say do what makes you happy sweetie.

chef953 64M

7/29/2006 3:43 am

I spent 9yrs altogether with a woman I totally adored. I really had no choice I was bewitched or it was magnetic, chemical or whatever you want to call it. Stormy it was, we broke up, got back together, finally got married and then split for good. Not sure I could survive another, LOL.... I suspect I'd be will to try though.

akron42 replies on 7/29/2006 7:12 pm:
It's weird isn't it? Sometimes the totally wrong people for us are the ones we love the most!

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
7/29/2006 11:49 am

There is a girl...we had an open relationship in college...i really miss having her around, even now

akron42 replies on 7/29/2006 7:13 pm:
It seems like there is that ONE person, someone we'll spend the rest of our lives remembering.

SirluvsStorms 47M
684 posts
7/29/2006 1:39 pm

She is in my life today. I get to see her when she allows time for me and I would and will make time for her every chance I get. She knows how I feel, yet she lets me be me. Time with her is scary fun exciting and yet how in the world do I keep it all together when I come apart so easily around her. There is a duality in her nature that scares me deeply yet, I am at peace with her always because I choose to be. Does she know? maybe, sometimes yes, sometimes no. One day I will have that title of best friend to her and I work hard to put my place there. Maybe I have it and I dont know it. In all things Friends first all other emotions are allowed when allowed.

akron42 replies on 7/29/2006 7:14 pm:
I hope she realizes how much you care about her, and I hope she feels that too. Sounds like you two were meant to be together!

florallei 100F

7/29/2006 8:15 pm

Hi Hun,

Sure I want him to leave his wife....she is such an abusive person emotionally and verbally, a real psycho...I want him to be happy and have peace. He is a really good hearted and wonderful man.
He should taste singleton for awhile and then decide. I think he may be deciding with his heart because I treat him lovingly and he has never had that.

akron42 replies on 7/30/2006 12:40 pm:
Honey, I know how big your heart is and I'm sure you're right, he probably cherishes that. You are just the person to show him how love can REALLY be.

Supervy_Sage 51M

7/29/2006 10:57 pm

The love of my life was a beautiful, intelligent, witty Thai lady I met while I was working in Thailand. She had dark skin, a white smile, long black hair, and the British accent she got from school. That last thing was the clincher.

We spent a lot of time together for several months, and then I left Thailand and never saw her again. I was going to be married to a Japanese woman, whom I did marry, but regretted it.

When I left my Thai lover, I felt as if we had passed in two separate automobiles at a busy intersection. I caught a glimpse of happiness out the auto’s window, only to see it pass by, and I was helpless to do anything about it. But in fact, my desire not to hurt anyone was what caused me to marry the one I did not truly, deeply love. I didn’t want to hurt the Japanese women by telling her I met another, whom I had no way to contact anyway, I ensured that.

The relationship with my Thai lover was like a walk through a comforting forest, offering shade and cool pleasure. As I left the forest, and crossed the bridge to my life, I burned the bridge so I couldn’t return. It was a truly sad act for me. I regret it to this day, and I still have photographs of my Thai love of 10 years ago that I cherish dearly.

The Super Pervy Sage

akron42 replies on 7/30/2006 12:43 pm:
It's funny how we do things in an effort to keep others from being hurt, yet we hurt ourselves in the process. Do you ever wonder where you might be right now if things had happened differently? I know I do, yet I also know that things between Jack and me were too volatile for a long term relationship. But as I said, if he were to show up today, I would follow him anywhere.

Catdoc2000 58M

8/4/2006 8:49 pm

Bridges of Madison County. We all have our own version.
Great topic!

rm_Lostinglos 53M

8/9/2006 12:44 pm

Hi its Jack here "lets go" lol x

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