*sigh* back to the drawing board?  

adventuresome72 45M/49F
25 posts
4/24/2006 7:45 pm

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7/12/2006 10:54 pm

*sigh* back to the drawing board?


So, I guess I should not be confused, but I am.

Talked again with the wife again and she's not sure now if a couple is the best way forward. She might be leaning towards a single woman as the simplest method to see how things go... and that excludes a couples' party, which is the easiest to join.

Well, more talk. Communication is the key!

adventuresome72 45M/49F
15 posts
4/25/2006 1:48 am

Thank you lagano for your encourangment.

Indeed, it may be harder to find a single woman, but my wife is worth the effort I'm 100% commited to only doing what she is comfortable with (well, I need to be comfortable also, but I'm a little more liberal).

>FYI I have known couples who were on AdultFriendFinder for a year before they got round to their first experience.

That is a good thing to know. Thank you for your knowledge on the topic.. because we are so new, we don't really know what to expect. More importantly, we don't want to be in the possition of "letting other people down." I'm sure other people have _some_ level of expectations, so we both feel guilty if we get someone's hopes up, but withdraw because of our-side anxiety. I suppose not doing something for fear of failure is not the right prognosis, but it's like that. We are both over-achievers, so we fear rejection by not meeting other's expectations. Hehe, hopefully we will both mature with experience and not be so worried about it. Hahaha!

>Anyway good luck to you both

Your kind words and advice are appreciated.


rm_IDMT1963 55M/53F

4/26/2006 7:47 pm

The great thing about swinging with a good couple is that there is no pressure to do anything. We have been with couples that the feeling was just not there. The wife and I would just make love to one another, the other couple the same. Best thing to do is talk with a couple till you feel at ease. Then meet and see how everyone feels. If it is good head to a hotel room, just because you are in the hotel room does not mean you are going to swap. We like to start off with our own partners and see where things go from there. If there is a spark then let things happen. Pressure to act is the worst thing here with this life style. Hope this helps...R & S


adventuresome72 45M/49F
15 posts
4/29/2006 12:00 am

Thanks for dropping by R&S.

Yep, we're still deciding what's gonna be the best way forward. The sex in the same room idea might be a good starter, as you mentioned.

Thank you for your advice and support!


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