No, Mac is NOT confused ... about her sexuality!  

absolutelynormal 57F
6016 posts
5/17/2006 9:52 pm

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No, Mac is NOT confused ... about her sexuality!

OK, I tired to go to bed but I couldn't because of the blog posting Mac is XX rated. The way I wrote it, didn't sound right to me after I laid down. I don't want you guys to think that I am having a gender identity crisis. Believe me Mac is 100% heterosexual woman. Mac also has to have a hysterectomy sometime in the near future.

All my "female" parts will be *yanked* out of a small incision in my vagina... sounds like fun, don't it?

Mac doesn't admit to being scared very often.

Mac does admit to being sad pretty often in this blog. Mac is both of those things now.

When I was a young girl the thought was that menarche (starting to have periods) suddenly changed you into a "woman" overnight.

So, subconsciously, you can see how that would fuck with my entire mindset. Period=woman. No period=?

The good news is that I will end up with a brand new box. They say that good things come in small packages.

That's a whole "nuther" worry. I have so many friends who have had this done and then lose all interest in sex or they can no longer have an orgasm. That's really my biggest fear. Fuck dying on the table or getting a staph infection. I'm afraid my sexuality will be ruined.

If any of you ladies has had this done, please comment. Thanks, Mac

rm_mmmgoodnova 107M/107F
1259 posts
5/17/2006 9:58 pm

Parts don't make you male or female...history, feelings, etc. do if you end up having to have an operation that takes away some of those "parts." No, I haven't had to go through it myself. But I think you are going to be fine. Have you talked to your doctor? Asked if there is hormone therapy that could help if you lose interest in sex? Asked if there is a support group, either formal or informal? There's bound to be an online community on or another such site. Good luck, God Bless, and hang in there. I'm sorry to hear of this and sorry you are having to go through it.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:48 am:
Thank you mmmmgood

rm_yukonpaul 52M
1120 posts
5/17/2006 10:20 pm

Go ask angelofmercy5, she just had that operation.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:49 am:
Good advice Paul, thank you

Lautreamont 51M

5/17/2006 10:43 pm

I only were in touch once before, with a women who had this operation.
She was 18 years older than me, I was 25, her sexual appetite lacks of nothing at all. Could be that this lose you reported is somehow connected to other circumstances. In case of uterus cancer for example the associated radiant therapy.
Thats just my opinion but for me you are a strong women, curious, smart and shrewd and with this attributes you are sexy for me !
Best wishes and

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:50 am:
Thankfully, I don't have uterine cancer. Just big ole boggy uterus that needs to get the hell outta me!

Helper874 46M

5/17/2006 11:58 pm

You know I am thinking about You....Hugs sweetie...Your friend, Helper

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:50 am:

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
5/18/2006 3:28 am

Every person I have ever talked to who has had this opearation has never had a problem with decreased sensitivity or lack of interest. Regardless though, I can understand the fear. But what makes you a woman runs much much deeper then the physical. It's not about what parts you do or don't's about your mind and your heart.
Sending warm thoughts your way.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 3:51 am:
Thank you curious

pet_humility 50F

5/18/2006 6:30 am

Haven't had it done. But did have my tubes tied and that played a huge emotional play on me. Even to this day it kills me that I did it.

As far as your sex drive.. I don't think you'll lose it. A sex drive starts with visuals so I think you'll be just fine sweet thing!!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/18/2006 7:26 pm:
I had my tubes tied when I was 23. By the time I was 28 I regretted doing it but I was married and didn't want to have a baby with him again. If I could get pregnant today, I'd do it. I love kids, loved being a mommmy. I'm still their Mom but they're grown so I don't have to mommy tham (as much).

norprin5 56M

5/18/2006 1:35 pm

nothin' to say except i'm thinkin' about you, luv...and i believe you'll be just fine

King Nor XVIII

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 2:59 pm:
Thanks Nop

complexlysimple 35M

5/18/2006 3:59 pm

Just had a song pop into my head .... Billy Joel - "She's always a Woman"

You're always a woman to me Mac.

Besides unless I'm completely confused in this case -
no period=absolutely no chance of pregancy

.......which means you could have sex all day, every day and not have a worry in the world...

Soooo ...where can I sign up? ...and yes, my sanity can be questioned.. but don't expect it to answer ..

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:01 pm:
Unfortunately I've been pretty much able to do that since I was 23. I had 2 kids, thought I didn't want anymore. Had the tubes tied, cut, burned, crimped. I would have loved to have had another baby. You hear about women in their 60's having them with invitro and all, makes me sad that I'll never have the chance.

docdirk 49M

5/18/2006 5:24 pm

Obviously, I can't relate. But I can send my best thoughts, prayers and wishes your way. I'm not using them at the moment.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:02 pm:
Mac takes 'em

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
5/18/2006 9:00 pm

Thinking of you. Hey, listen to MzHuny...she's an expert!
My friend had one last year. She has lost some libido but she also had breast cancer, a masectomy, is on anti-cancer drugs. I think the drugs had a bigger effect on it than the hysterectomy. From what I read, you can continue to have a satisfying sex life. Good luck and warm wishes.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:02 pm:
Thanks Real

evil_lolita 35F

5/18/2006 9:42 pm

Good luck - it's definitely not an easy thing to face, even by choice. I'll keep you in my thoughts

Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.

Guillaume Apollinaire

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absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:03 pm:
Thanks Evil

mangomamiCT 43F

5/18/2006 10:19 pm

sexy and vibrance dont just go away baby girl , love and hugs Mango

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 3:03 pm:
thanks Miss Mango

mycin62 55F

5/19/2006 1:45 am

Just think of the freedom you'll have!!! No more periods!!! No more birth control!!!

I'd give mine away in a minute!!

I think the best sex is yet to cum!!

Good luck, my thoughts and prayers will be with you


absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 5:46 pm:
Thanks Cin

MaggiesWishes 61F

5/19/2006 3:38 am

Medically, it's an easy procedure, little painful on the recovery side, but in time that passes.
AS for sexuality ... you can't lose what you never had, so IF you are sexually sexy, sensually sexy, mentally sexy ... babygirl it's all good to go.
Just cause the workers are gone don't mean the building is condemned.

warm wishes & huggies 2ya in what ever you decide

absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 5:46 pm:
Thank you very much, Maggie, Mac

ProtonicMan 49M

5/19/2006 7:51 pm

Hey, (((Mac))). As several people here have already said, it's more about attitude and expectation than it is about clinical realities. I know you will get through this just fine.

You know where to reach me if you want to talk.


absolutelynormal replies on 5/20/2006 5:47 pm:
1100 posts huh? Thanks TJ. Mac

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