Alone again, naturally  

absolutelynormal 57F
6016 posts
5/13/2006 12:50 pm

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Alone again, naturally

Ya know I am tired of feeling like a spaz because I am single.

I'm going to open a whole chain of restaurants where only single people are allowed. No one will feel bad because they are eating alone because it will be the norm. It'll be called Single People Have to Eat Too Ya Know!

Then I'm opening a chain of supermarkets. They'll have single servings of EVERYTHING and nothing will be any more expesive because it's single serve.

You can't buy nothing in bulk at our store because we don't want things going bad and be wasted. We'll have teeny tiny watermelons just the right soze for one person.

No family packs of meat. Just enough for you and you alone, well because you are!

You want to buy some paper napkins? No need to buy 500 of them, just buy 50 at the I'm Single and There's Nothing Wrong with Me Store.

You get tired of this shit too? Go to a restaurant and feel like people are staring at you wondering where your sig other is?

Go to the grocery store and bring stuff home that ruins because you're sick of eating it before whatever it is runs out?

Yeah, me too. Mac

rm_chislut 43F
710 posts
5/13/2006 2:15 pm

I've been going to restaurants along for *years* now. It's only in the last couple of years, I think, that I've read/heard about people worried about eating alone. Worried what others would think of them. I swear, that never occurred to me! Of course, I'm always reading when I eat alone, so even if people *were* looking at me, I wouldn't notice.

I love dining alone. Having time to read. And think. And people watch. GO DO IT!

OTOH, I totally agree with you about the single-serving grocery store idea! Especially bread. They need to sell smaller loaves.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:33 pm:
I'll tell you why eating alone is uncomfy for me... I was married forever and had kids. I am not used to eating alone. I do employ the book as something else to do besides have a conversation thing, though.

I keep my bread in the refrigerator which is OK unless you have something stinky or gross (year old Lactaid milk DocDirk?, lol) in your fridge. It keeps much longer. I'm surprised I'm not walking around with mold growing in my eyebrows it's so warm and humid down here.

chasingfun27 39M
1108 posts
5/13/2006 2:43 pm

I know what you're saying about restaurants but if I'm hungry I'll go out to eat, it's only occasionally when I glance up and notice that I'm the only solo table in the room, that it feels a little strange.

I vehemently disagree with reducing sizes at supermarkets. The single serves they do sell are a pathetic size and I'd generally need to eat 2 or 3 to be satisfied. If the food's there I'll mow down - minimal wastage. Of course, I am a beast!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:34 pm:
You don't look like a beast. You do a very good job of disquising yourself.

jdocfunguy 51M

5/13/2006 3:18 pm

I'm getting more comfortable with the dining alone concept. I actually like paying more attention to the other patrons. As for the single serve, I'm with chase. Maybe there's a difference in male and female portions.

As for the alone thing, what gets me is going to a bar for a drink. I'm just to shy to start talking to someone and not attractive enough for someone to talk to me. I'd hire an escort if I didn't think I was paying for something else.

RogueAgent000 51M

5/13/2006 3:33 pm

Nail on the Head type of thing here. I can't remember the number of times I've gone to movies by myself or gone out to eat by myself...certainly more in my mid to late 20's than I do now; mainly because I don't get to go many places, order in, and have Netflix! Such is the life of an agent off the grid!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:35 pm:
Yeah well, the less you're seen in public the better when you've gone rogue, right?

mycin62 55F

5/13/2006 3:36 pm

Hey, us married people do stuff alone too! We're not joined at the hip ya know!! We both go out to eat on our own and I go the movies by myself all the time

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:37 pm:
I love going to the movies, if you were closer we could go together I didn't mean to say anything bad about married people. I'm sorry you took that way. Not that there's anything wrong with being by yourself or being married and doin stuff by yourself.... I'm shutting up now! mac

rm_truedom2 57M
663 posts
5/13/2006 4:24 pm

Yeah...and what worse is the single "tax".
Buy a half size can of veggies for 75 cents....full size is 95 cents.
So it's like ...ok do I waste money or get screwed.
Cooking is a challenge also.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:43 pm:
Yeah I know what you mean. I hate to be wasteful, most of the time the drive thru is just about the same price as cooking at home for one. Besides the time that it takes to cook, I could be blogging.... Oh wait! That's in [blog Gerson42] 's blog tonight!

trillionman 56M

5/13/2006 4:47 pm

I hate to eat by myself in a restaurant.I can deal with buying food and stuff in the stores.You just have to separate it and freeze it.I am always willing to meet a friend for a meal just so I don't have to eat alone.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:45 pm:
I did that tonight, T'man! Yummy Chinese food!

ilsuconu 57M

5/13/2006 5:50 pm

Can I make a reservation now for that restaurant? Provided of course that you set an extra place setting... just in case you'd like to join me! And you being the owner... you could do that!

Seriously, it doesn't bother me so much... I guess it's because people don't often think it's so weird that a guy eats alone. Now, when it comes to grocery shopping... I'm with you 100% on that one! I love to cook, but I hate cooking for one... and throwing away the leftovers when I finally get around to remembering that they're there!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:48 pm:
Yeah, we're one of them high cost establishments, takes YEARS to get a reservation.... but hey, you know the owner! What'll it be, prime rib or lobster?

Helper874 46M

5/13/2006 6:05 pm

mycin62 had a really good answer. It is not just single people that deal with that issue. Alot of us married people go through the same things. I know there has been times when I have been gone weeks at a time in an area I didn't know anyone. It was like I was alone in the world.

I see where You are coming from on this, and to a point You are correct. Society seems to throw monkey wrenches into everything. Makes it hard for all walks of life...single and married. Have noticed a theme though over last couple of blogs. Makes me wonder. Let me know if You want to chat.....Helper.

PS...and You were right, last night was wonderful.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:51 pm:
Hey Helper, help me out here, email me and tell me what you're seeing because I'm not feeling any particular way. When I blog, many times it's because of what someone else said or a comment that was made in another person's blog. Glad you had a good time last night Mac

Jeepidiot 43M

5/13/2006 7:00 pm

Bars where only single people are allowed. Oh and movie theaters.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:54 pm:
Yeah, they let single people in bars and movie theaters.

mangomamiCT 43F

5/13/2006 7:36 pm

That is my favorite time to people watch , some of the couple arguments I have heard have made me glad to be single !!!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/13/2006 8:56 pm:
Yeah, you can tell who is just dating and who is married. The married people are the ones who aren't talking to each other! Well, the ones who are married and miserable, but married, miserable people have to eat too.

mycin62 55F

5/13/2006 9:18 pm

Honey, no offense was taken, I was just kidding with you!! Like Helper says, sometimes we married's do things alone. Often my husbands and my schedule just don't jive.

ProtonicMan 49M

5/13/2006 11:42 pm

Hi, Mac.

Sometimes I will go out to eat alone. I don't think too much of it. Maybe I'll chat with the waitress, or maybe I'll do some writing. I'm getting to the point where I just relax, wherever I am.

I could use some help a the grocery store, though. I like your ideas!


absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 7:11 am:
Thanks TJ

rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
5/13/2006 11:45 pm

Better to be happy single than miserable in company, even if it does cost more.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 12:47 am:
True dat, G Mac

ilsuconu 57M

5/14/2006 3:28 am

Oh, prime rib, of course! and some "peach" pie for dessert!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 7:10 am:
Peaches aren't ripe yet

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
5/14/2006 7:42 am

Great post! Reminds me of a comedian I once heard. In this restaurant, they need to have a row of sinks....because we women are used to eating over the sink

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 8:27 am:
Lol! That's true for those who still have people they have to feed at the house, I only got me. Sigh.

rm_wetfingeraz 55F
3012 posts
5/14/2006 8:31 am

I think they should have designated airline flights for singles. Or at least child-free flights. But that's another topic.

It's funny, whenever I see a woman eating alone in a restaurant (and I'm usually one of them) I think, "oh, she's single." But when I see a man eating alone, for some reason I think he's on a business trip. Seems to me like single guys are in packs more often than women are. Women just take a book to a restaurant, no big deal. If a man's eating alone, you can feel the awkwardness rollling off of him.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 12:32 pm:
Yeah a screaming baby on a flight can make it a really LONG flight. BTDT a few times, I'd like childfree restaurants too. Mac

Jeepidiot 43M

5/14/2006 8:34 am

Yes but ONLY single people. Couples suck!

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 12:33 pm:
Some single people do too, not you, that's not the reference I was getting at Mac

rm_dcving24 44M

5/14/2006 9:17 am

This is a great post. What I hate is I end up spending more at the store they just don't sell single people servings at the store I go to. Eating alone is awkard at times. I guess thats why I don't go out to eat that often.

absolutelynormal replies on 5/14/2006 12:34 pm:
Mac nods in agreement.

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