Push Away  

aascrompn 43M
6957 posts
9/1/2006 10:18 am

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10/18/2006 8:22 am

Push Away

Have you ever pushed somebody out of your life in order to protect yourself?

Unfortunately, I feel I've been pushed away, and I feel that I've pushed somebody away. I think that this is very unfortunate. I think it sucks that this is what people resort to in the name of protection.

When I realized that I was being pushed away, I pushed back. I did this, b/c it's easeir not to deal with the situation, rather than address any lingering conflicts. I told the person, 'I told you so...', knowing that something was going to happen and that I had been expecting it. This helped validate my being not worthy enough for her.

What happens when and if down the road you start talking to that persona again? Do you always reserve a bit of yourself?? Do you always just hold that little part back so as not to put yourself into that position again? This is what I do. What's going to happen when topics change to that of relationships? I'll avoid it at all costs, b/c I don't want to think of the one that didn't work out. I'm not saying that the idividuals can't go on, but I think at that point it's not worth analyzing the why it didn't work out. It's just going to bring back up hurtful topics.

It sucks losing friendships this way. I think it's hurtful and I think it's unnnecesary. I think both parties come out scratching their heads and wondering what exactly the hell happened.

Do you do this? Why do you feel you can, if you can, stay friends w/ the person? Why don't you stay friends w/ the person if you don't? Personally, I'm usually still friends (in some form) with my ex's, including my ex fiance.


marathonman45202 54M
6640 posts
9/1/2006 10:52 am

Reading this post brings to mind a friend with whom I haven't spoken in over a year. You've hit the nail on the head (as far as I'm concerned) - the pushing away is often about protecting ourselves. I don't think that's always a bad thing. In my case it's definitely time to reach out to him, and hope the pushing away ends.

Thanks for writing this.

alphuctup 41M

9/2/2006 5:16 am

A burnt bridge can be rebuilt, but leave it too long and people wonder why it was they ever wanted to cross the river in the first place.

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