aascrompn 43M
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2/15/2006 3:55 pm

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Yesterday, while pouting at the end of the bar w/ my 5th beer in my hand, I came up w/ a lot of questions for my blog. One of the questions that I wonder is whether or not your circle of friends is really enough to make you happy?

I love my group of friends, but yesterday, there was nothing even they could do to get me out of my funk. Are friends really enough? For me, if I'm not in some kind of relationship that matters, I don't feel complete. Now I know that I'm going to get lectured by some bloggers about not loving myself first, but even that's BS. I do love myself (every night as a matter of fact), but it's time for something more...

bardicman 51M

2/16/2006 6:51 am

Naaaaa, Ya know, Sometimes we just have to have a little down "down" time to sort through things ourselves. Everyone knows that most all your friends are gonna end up telling you just what you want to hear at the time.. Sometimes we need the answer on our own.

I am not dead yet

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
2/16/2006 10:34 am

I have always needed an equal mix of people time and solitude - even when I was a kid.

But it's funny - I see my friendships as a more permanent and consistent factor in my life and romance as temporary. That's odd, isn't it? Hmmm. Gotta go think about this.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
2/16/2006 5:43 pm

Friends are essential, but to be truly happy I need to have a lover as well. Someone told me that friends will get you through times of no lover, and a lover will get you through times of no friends.

Get off the damn bar stool and go find a date!

Fox4aKnight1 44F

2/17/2006 12:40 pm

DizzingHeights LurkingShadows here is that group that I wastalking to you about ......feel free to give to others hun hugsssssssss

kelly402005 53F

2/17/2006 3:21 pm

I kinda agree with bardicman, sometimes you just have to go inside yourself ...... the reasoning...... after all you "allowed" yourself to feel that way.... And friends are going to tell you what you want to hear. They don't like to see you hurt... ~hugs~

MaggiesWishes 61F

2/17/2006 11:59 pm

Funny how you can still feel alone in a crowded room... ever notice that?

I still love that line from movie "Jerry McGuire" ...
"You complete me."

I think, that is a necessity in any relationship. To feel you are complete, whole and it's all good.

It will happen. Odds are in your favor, hon.

warm wishes

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 8:56 am

bard - You're right about them just telling you what you want to hear! My best friend, on the other hand, tells it to me straight! She's a great girl, but It's hard watching her have a successful relationship and I'm not.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 8:57 am

1hot - That's what I feel... I hate that feeling.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 8:58 am

kelli - That's pretty much the way it seems to be going. I DO need to get off the bar stool and get on w/ gettin' on... Thanks!

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 9:00 am

mineiswetter - I feel empty as well w/out a steady love... I will work on loving myself... (and you).

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 9:01 am

kelly - I'm making the analysis as we speak and I will be successful over this temporary funk. Thanks for your support!! *hugs*

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/19/2006 9:03 am

maggie - Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I'm glad that you agree, and more importantly, that you have confidance in me. You're too cute.

rm_ambu252 45M
8 posts
2/19/2006 9:22 pm

I usualy come in here to see if my exwife or her boyfriend are talking garbage on me. I still love my ex wife very much and all the time we were together I treated her like garbage. As far as frined go well this guy whos her boyfriend now was suppose to be my good friend, when infact he didnt care about me at all and moved in on her and my family. It was my fault and its almost two years that have gone by, but I still miss her every day. Ive cleaned up my act Ive stoped drinking and and I have big goals and planes. No matter if its 10 or 50 years from now I want her to know she will always have a home to come back to. Friends I cant do that now have a hard time trusting people. By the way I cant spell worth a damn either.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/20/2006 5:54 am

Ambu252 - It really sucks when relationships end b/c of our own actions! I'm very sorry that it happened to you. Guys, as you know, are ruthless when it comes to love. I'm glad that you quit drinking! I don't think I have a drinking problem. I feel empty, so I drink to pass the time away and to socialize w/ my friends. Something very similar happened to me. My ex fiance left b/c I wouldn't enable her meth addiction anymore. She ran to her friend, who had been moving in on her during our last year together. They are both messed up together now... It's a sad story, I know, but everybody has one.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I truly appreciate it!

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