First Impressions  

aascrompn 43M
6957 posts
5/9/2006 12:56 pm

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First Impressions

I'm curious as to how you all view this subject. Some say that first impressions are the most important. I don't necessarily agree with this.

I believe that at first meeting, people can be really nervous towards one another, and therefore, can really act incredebly different than they normally would. There have been a number of times where I've been introduced to somebody and didn't have the best impression with them. This could be how they carry themselves to that of them trying to show of b/c of their status in life, what have you. Then, I've run into these people again, and because there has been conversation before, it's been a lot more smooth.

The last time that I made this particular judgement, was at the cabin trip earlier in my blog. I met the roomate of a friend of mine. She has blonde hair, is a size 1, and has an absolutely gorgeous smile. The biggest problem that I had w/ her is that she and her boyfriend kind of separated themselves from the group. I believed that she was rather snobby. If you asked her a question, she would answer you, but would not elaborate. She just didn't seem interested in the rest of us.

About 3 weeks ago, she came into my bar (my home away from home) and I didn't recognize her when she waved to me. Her roomate - a waitress there - finally called me over to reintroduce me to her. She was extremely friendly to me and actually invited me out w/ she and two of her friends for the evening. I, at the time of the cabin trip, had a huge crush on this girl. I was really quite happy that she took the time to invite me out with she and her friends.

Over Easter Sunday, she sent me a text message telling me to have a very happy Easter. Although I was confused and surprised, I thought it was very thoughtful of her.

What are your theories on this? Have your first impressions ever been wrong?

Seriously_Real 49M

5/9/2006 1:27 pm

I think the answer is that your first impressions of her were wrong. And that her boyfriend isn't her favorite person in the world....and she's flirting with you again....and? whatchagonnado?

My first impressions are generally right on, actually. Most of the time.


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:29 am:
She's not flirting w/ me. I'm not sure of what you mean by my first impressions with her. We grow closer every day. We really do have a brother/sister relationship.

So what were your impressions of me, and were you right on?

sexymamma662003 32F

5/9/2006 1:54 pm

i think that some people are so nervous when they meet any one the first time i think that a second impression will tell you more then the first


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:30 am:
I think you just nailed it right on the head! I agree 100% with you!

rm_JohnMacLaine 51M
585 posts
5/9/2006 1:56 pm

Is this the one that texed you the flower in her message while she was with her boyfriend?

I dont go on first impressions, I normally wait and get to know a person before judging them.


"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:31 am:
Yes, it is! Great observation!!

Good for you! I judge all of the time. It's a habit I picked up in the Air Force. Just b/c you work with someone, doesn't mean they are your friends.

rm_shannee2006 53F
3355 posts
5/9/2006 1:57 pm

My first impressions are rarely wrong. I have known plenty of people who changed and would later admit after we reconnected and hit it off, that they were a bit of a jerk at the time we first met.

I tend to read shy and reserved when I first meet people. Some of that is actual shyness. Some of it is me watching them intently to get a sense of who they are.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:33 am:
Hehe... That would describe me. Most people, when they first meet me, feel as if I'm an asshole. They soon, however, see how much of a loyal friend that I become.

I like shy and reserved! I love when women read me (or try to).

jadedbabe78 107F

5/9/2006 2:39 pm

I've been wrong before. People's first impression of me irl is generally wrong. I'm quiet, so a lot assume I'm a snob, lol. I'm not.

Sometimes, people really aren't what the percieve to be.


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:34 am:
You are a snob... But I'll still allow you to bend over for me.

ArtisticTwist75 42F
2505 posts
5/9/2006 2:39 pm

My first impressions, 6th sense, gut instinct has always been right... my problem is listening and acting on them. I can be way to nice, sometimes to my own detriment. Good to think about AAS.


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:34 am:
Glad I stirred a thought process in ya!

FunandFrisky79 43M/38F

5/9/2006 4:29 pm

I do think that nerves sometimes cause people to not show their true selves. I think it all depends on where you meet them. If they're in their element, they are more apt to be themselves. If they're uncomfortable, they may tend to be quiet and more reserved. That's why I don't judge a book by its cover. I do believe that first impressions are important, though. So, I try to be on my best behavior. That is, of course, unless I happened to meet you one day, aas. I'd have a hard time controlling myself then! *WEG*


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:36 am:
I believe they are important, but out of one's element, you are right that they will most likely be shy and reserved, or worse, someone who runs their mouth nonstop! I can give you my address!! I love women who are out of control.

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
5/9/2006 5:20 pm

I dont agree with it either! I misjudged a lot of people that I am either great friends with or sex partners now.

Purry {=}


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:36 am:
You and I didn't get along at first... can I be a sex partner?????

mycin62 55F

5/9/2006 5:30 pm

I'm usually pretty good at reading people, usually my first impressions are mostly accurate.

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:37 am:
And your impression of me is...

Knot4Everyone 41F

5/9/2006 8:17 pm

Man oh man can a first impression be wrong! You mention the way a person carries themself as playing into a first impression, and I agree that it does. I think there are many more factors that should be taken into consideration. What about ailments such as headaches and stomach pains/cramps? What about just finishing the most stressful day at work ever? What about just receiving a phone call with bad news about a family member or a loved one? If you were to meet someone 15 minutes after they found out their favorite uncle had passed away, I have to believe that you wouldn't be seeing their best side. There are many, many things that affect each of us every day, and every one of us has our own way to deal with it all. It would be a terrible shame to miss out on a life-long companion just because, at the time of your first meeting, they were withdrawn from the conversation, preoccupied with thoughts of their recently-passed uncle.

I few years back I had a rather unpleasant first encounter with a co-worker. I was shocked at how rude he was, considering he didn't know me at all. I mean, what could I have possibly done to piss him off so bad? At that moment I never wanted to even be in the same general area as him! Luckily we ran into each other again later, where he apologized to me and explained that he was just having one of those days. I accepted his apology, and today he is one of the very best friends I have ever had!

So no, I don't think a first impression alone counts for much. If the second impression matches the first impression, now that's a slightly different story!

Great question!

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:39 am:
I love that most, here, agree that first impressions are not a make it/break it deal.

MyRealLoverOne 47M

5/9/2006 9:09 pm

First impressions can be way off might find this hard to believe, but when you first started blogging I thought you were a heterosexual that might even make a friend or two on here......

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:39 am:
Yes, I agree... I thought you just liked it in the ass, but later found out your mouth is easily pleased as well... heh.

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