Distance Sucks  

aascrompn 43M
6957 posts
3/17/2006 11:41 am

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10/18/2006 6:27 am

Distance Sucks

In today's modern world, travel has become so incredibly easy. Think back not too long ago when the first flight took place at Kitty Hawk. Now, we are traversing the globe everyday.

I've written before asking how far would you go to meet somebody for the possibility for a match-up. I've also written inquiring what you would sacrifice for love. I said that I would do anything to find The One. I stated that I would do anything to find Her.

Today, I took a pretty big step in contacting one of my favorite bloggers to just let her know that I truly appreciated her writing and to leave her my IM handle, should she be interested in chatting w/ me sometime. I really wasn't expecting to hear anything back. It wasn't long before I had an invitation to her IM. We talked, I think, for about 3 to 4 hours. It was some of the best IM'ing that I've had in a very, very long time. I got to know a side of her that I would've never suspected she had. I was actually intimidated by her profile, but she had intrigued me enough that I had to at least say hello.

It seems that she just couldn't believe that I had taken interest in her. She said that she didn't fit my "type". However, after reading a blog earlier this week, or last week about how "types" change or don't exist at all, I really started to think about that. It's true that she doesn't fit my blonde w/ ripped abs normal, default type, but one thing is for damn certain... she fits in more places than the majority of the blonde, ripped abs, girls on this site. I love her writing. I now understand her wit. I am intrigued by her sexual interests. She is absolutely beautiful and very, very genuine. What amazed me the most, was how humble she was. She actually has self conscience side to her that blew my mind. This girl would make any man beg, trust me... It's wonderful to really get to know her and see where this could go, if anywhere.

It's incredible, right? Yes and no... She lives across the pond. What does one do with that? Do I fly over? Do I invite her over here? If things worked out well over time, should I, or better yet, could I leave everything behind? Could I leave my family? Could I leave my friends? I could leave my career, b/c there are computers all over the world. Would you try it?

I don't want you all to think that I've jumped right into a relationship mode here. I certainly have not. However, I could see us getting along very, very well. I could see many laughs and great conversations in the future. I could see this flirting being dialed up. I can see phone calls (even if she is paranoid about talking on the phone). I am very interested in seeing where this will go. I'm not sure that she feels the same, but I never asked her.

How should I feel about this? Should I be excited? Should I just face the reality that she would never move for me and that it would be hard for me to move? Should I just be happy that I've made another friend (who happens to be hot as hell and so very charming)?

I don't know very much, but I know that I'm happy.

CuriousAries67 50F

3/17/2006 12:02 pm

Be excited! As trite as it sounds, I truly believe that things happen for a reason. This old world works in really funny ways. There are wonderful opportunities out there if you are open to them. Take life one day at a time, see where things lead. Maybe you'll find yourself jetting off to meet her. You may find that all of the difficulties you forsee don't really matter in the face of love. Or who knows, even if things don't work with the Lady over the Pond you just might meet a tremendous person on the flight home... And just think, you never would have had either opportunity if you didn't feel a little bit of excitement now. Enjoy the happiness. ~ aries

southrnpeach333 51F

3/17/2006 12:27 pm

Just relax and enjoy the experience.

HBowt2 60F

3/17/2006 12:42 pm

slow down.....take it one step at a time....don't scare her.....and she is a beautiful person....

fantasylover_05 63M

3/17/2006 12:54 pm

My Dearest Friend aascrompn

Be OPEN to the experience... who the hell knows where if anywhere it will go... but trying to compartmentalize or catagorize in now would be premature at best and could close your mind off to the possibilities!!

You seem to have connected on some level.... walk before you can run!!


So.. what is her handle so I can go check her out? LOL LOL BEG huh?? hmmmmm....

It may be that you are now begining to see the light.. does it really matter the "facade"? It sounds like she is GORGEOUS INSIDE which for me is much more important!! Forget your previous "type".. she sounds genuine and REAL!

I am truly happy for the possibilities for you Buddy!! I am very happy to "hear" you so excited!!

GO FOR IT BUDDY!! Now remember on lesson you learned recently... TALK OPENLY WITH HER!! Tell her what you think.. want.. desire... Don't ASSUME anything! Be open and honest with her!


kelly402005 53F

3/17/2006 12:55 pm

Be happy!
I'm happy for you.....


saddletrampsk 55F

3/17/2006 2:41 pm

glad you are thinking outside your type..the barbie dolls on here seem to be either fake or have major issues..some barbies are known to be evil..

jadedbabe78 107F

3/17/2006 3:39 pm

Stranger things have been known to happen.

Good luck with it all.


caressmewell 54F

3/17/2006 3:53 pm

Breath..just let it happen

wantonwill 61M

3/17/2006 4:23 pm


quit thinkin too hard


these things follow a natural progression...follow it...guide it when needed

this is not an interdiction...a firefight engagement...or a search and destroy....it's life

crawl...stand....walk....run....and dont look back

what a wonderful boost for your spirits...what a nice beginning for a relationship

and yes.....distance sucks

SummerFunfor2006 46F

3/17/2006 5:41 pm

Good luck to you both. Sometimes happiness is further away than just down the street. Even if you are "across the pond" from her as you put it, isn't it worth the happiness that you are feeling today?

Take it for what it is, a great person that you like, a nice space to be in and happiness that you would not have had otherwise

qyxx 61F
3334 posts
3/17/2006 7:46 pm

Distance sucks.....but relax and enjoy it for what it is


spinmedown 50M
3626 posts
3/17/2006 8:05 pm

Just enjoy treading water for a while.
It's a long swim to the other side.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde

rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
2110 posts
3/17/2006 8:07 pm

Distance does suck, but, if your heart is ready, I say go for it. Happiness of that magnitude doesn't come around too often.

Be happy, and take one day at a time...


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
3/17/2006 9:21 pm

Just take baby steps...and enjoy the walk! If nothing other than a lasting friendship develops...then at least you have learned to think outside your box (type of woman) thing....and the woman of your dreams could come walking into your life. Be happy! Enjoy the journey! You deserve it.

bardicman 51M

3/17/2006 9:28 pm

I believe in fate.

Dont over think it.

It will all be shown to you in time..

I am not dead yet

2TimesFirst 59M
117 posts
3/17/2006 10:04 pm

Enjoy every aspect of it, especially the uncertinty.

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

3/17/2006 10:27 pm

Bask in the thrill of your budding romance. At the same time, however, keep your head about you, take things slowly, and do not have any false expectations.

Good Luck,
Lady Bambi

rm_iculkn101 50M/50F

3/17/2006 11:52 pm

Happy your happy, you deserve it I think your great Pimp Daddy!!!!

MaggiesWishes 61F

3/18/2006 12:42 am

The "Match Transporter" is being built as we speak. With the new changes around here, wouldn't surprise me as being one click away from reality.

Hang tough, life has it's surprises for all of us.


MoutnainGirl 38F

3/18/2006 7:56 am

Congrats! Go for it.. Long distance relationships can be diffuicult, but well worth the wait and trials you overcome!

Moutnain Girl

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TabithaElectra79 39F

3/18/2006 10:51 am

I am with the others, it is great that you are happy!

mycin62 55F

3/18/2006 3:34 pm

Relax, take it slow, and enjoy the ride. Whatever comes of it, you will be better for it. Long distance is tough, but can be worth it and can work out, if you both want it to.

Glad you're in a happy place now.

Good luck.


SpunkNLace 48F

3/18/2006 4:07 pm

I am going through the same thing right now , so if you find any answers please share them. Who would have thought words from another could open up so much.


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