International womens day +1  

_CoffeeNoCream_ 54F
6527 posts
3/9/2006 1:52 pm

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International womens day +1

I am not a feminist..... I support equal rights for everyone . Please don't label me, I resent labels, but If you have to label me you could
say I am a humanist, one who is concerned with the interests and welfare of humans. I'm not putting women before men, blacks, Jews, homosexuals or any other cause.

I see myself as a woman....a person who has worked incredibly hard for what she has achieved. I currently hold, and have held in the past, several positions of relative authority and power. I have
competed with men for jobs and have won because I was better qualified. I have worked goddamn hard for the respect I have earned, and I deeply resent any person who tries to tell me that I am "oppressed". If I have to work twice as hard as someone else for half the credit, then I will damn well work twice as hard and say nothing of it.

Give me a fucking break. I don't need any assistance because of my gender. I am perfectly capable of fighting my own battles and do not
feel that I need a million "sisters" behind me. Girls in skirts can sit around and complain all they want about how disadvantaged they are. I would say .....Grow up and fight ladies !

I am willing to accept that society has in the past made it difficult for women to get ahead in the game. I recognize that my grandmother
never graduated from high school because her own parents didn't consider higher education a valuable asset for a girl. This is the past and are no longer applicable to a millenium woman like me.

I can hear you thinking "but she is a part-time mother ?". Yes I am a mother and yes I work part-time. So whot ? Its my choice ,its my life.
We live our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility. Its actually simple there are only two choices...
submit or fight, so "sisters" take your pick and get of my back.

Yes it's true, I don't like my "sisters", and I can't stand any woman who tries to tell me I am her "sister" because we share the same biological organs

I always have choices and sometimes it's only a choice of attitude.

Liefs C

interested13563 54M
2557 posts
3/9/2006 5:01 pm

Coffee, this is how a human being should be - including women.
Thank you for posting this very outspoken and correct statement!

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
3/9/2006 7:59 pm

I felt just this way for a long time. But when I began to see how hard breaking those 'glass ceilings' were, I became at least a little more aware of the value of combining forces to smash those suckers, lol. But yeah, still, I'm basically with ya on this.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
3/9/2006 9:22 pm

You could be my sister anytime, CnC sweetie...

oldman1776 79M
3164 posts
3/9/2006 9:45 pm

Very good post dear. I hear you loud and clear.

rm_meow344 106F
2615 posts
3/10/2006 12:23 am

You have voiced yourself clear.There is no you nor me or them..It is only us in on this earth. Only then we all can view each other as a family..Great Post.. You deserve respect..

wildoats19622 56M
3530 posts
3/10/2006 1:29 am

You can't control the obstacles others put in front of you. You can't control how someone else reacts. You can control your own attitude.

Go get'em tiger!


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HBowt2 60F

3/10/2006 2:31 am

totally agree with you on this one coffee. Was once asked to leave a course in women's studies for suggesting that true liberation for women was the ability to live whatever lifestyle they wanted without condemnation or critism......and the most critcal people of women are other women...that really gets to me....sisterly love.....who needs that sort of 'sisters'......

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
3/10/2006 5:01 am

is happy not burning my bra thankyou,far too pretty.

In the past i worked harder than 2 guys to climb my way up the ladder ,never once using the excuse,but i'm a woman,i got to where i wanted the hard way and was proud of it and in the end so where my bosses by frequent wage increases and promotions.

You being a humanist would that make me an animalist,not partial to the human race at all,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Kaliedascope61 43M
4084 posts
3/10/2006 6:26 am

great post as always.

warmandsexy52 65M
13164 posts
3/10/2006 2:20 pm

An excellent post Coffee. I know a young black woman, daughter of a close friend, who did not take up entry to a South London medical school that was made easier because it was positively weighted for gender and ethnicity and instead chose to go to another medical school entirely on her own merit. She is now a doctor and recognises in herself achievement on equal terms with everyone else. It really mattered to her and I do really understand where she was coming from.

A person's character is their destiny, dear Coffee. My guess is that destiny bodes well for you irrespective of the challenges it presents.

warm xx

rm_Kissmystuff 62F
1435 posts
3/10/2006 4:51 pm

How you face challenges in your life is what helps to make you who you are.'s important to know the history but it should never be used as an excuse for not trying. I also have been in positions of power...and authority...having won those jobs over that of other people...including men.

Carter G. Woodson...was a Black educator and scholar. He wrote the book..."The Miseducation of the Negro". He basically pointed out that given the opportunity and the chance to believe in themselves...people will accomplish great things. But if a person is taught to think like and have the mentality/mind set...of a slave, that person will not have to be told to go to the back door. He will go of his own accord and even create one...if there is none.

I raised my daughters to believe in themselves...that they have as much right to as much as anyone else. It depends upon them and what effort they put forth to achieve it.

Now that said. I also believe that there are times...when as a group...people need to fight for what is right. But don't approach that fight as victims. Pick your your research...and be willing to go to the mat.



LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
3/11/2006 9:40 am some cappacino...


dutchpete 55M
563 posts
3/13/2006 3:14 am

My staff always consisted of 50% women in the same position as the men.
No distinction between the sexes are needed because it is not a GI-Jane situation.

At least that's my believe.

simlpyfun68 49F
1173 posts
3/13/2006 2:41 pm

I think you summed it up not much left to ad to that one.

Hugz n Smiles

womanoirish 55F

3/13/2006 11:45 pm

Well put, well put indeed. The times I can see banding together, is as Wahine put it, "combining forces to smash those suckers." Sometimes the power of numbers is useful.

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