He's just NOT THAT into you!  

_Bound4Pleasure 52F
338 posts
6/20/2006 12:50 pm
He's just NOT THAT into you!


after reading a post from one of the bloggers I follow...
it got me thinking about a book i read a couple of years ago!
"He's Just Not That Into You"
If you havent read the book, it is an eye opener.
If you read it, and stick to the basics of the book, it can save you much heart ache in years to come...
or so you think....
until you forget about the book

In the book he points out some
Standard-Raising Suggestions...
VERY good suggestions, if you remember to follow them!

I won't go over the book in full detail, only mention some key factors....
if he is NOT calling....he is NOT interested..
if he is TOO busy...he is NOT interested
if he works too much.....he is NOT interested
if he spends too much time with friends...he is NOT interested!
if he is not sending you emails....he is NOT interested...

Lets face it, its easy to make a phone call, and no one say it has to be a marathon phone session, even just a hey how are you...at least you know then, they are thinking about you, if they are thinking about you, they are interested!

If he never initiates plans to do anything...good chance he is NOT interested..

Think about your own closet here...say the Blouses you have there. you have a pretty pink one you often wear, beside that is a white blouse, eh kind of boring...but has its place in ur wardrobe...Often you buy bottoms just to match that pink blouse u adore, while the white blouse hangs in your closet getting old. You seldom wear that white blouse, you sometimes drag it out of the closet, but more often than not, hang it right back up, no interest in wearing it....

Don't settle on being that white blouse...to be used on occasion. Strive to be that pink blouse, one that is not only worn often, but worn proudly!

From the book....
Q.How can I tell if he thinks I'm worth it? --
A If the guy thinks you're worth it, he will do whatever is necessary if he thinks you're worth it. All the guys are nodding. Because he raised the bar and he wants to raise the bar to meet you where you are, if he thinks you're worth it.
If he doesn't, then he doesn't. He's just not that into you. And you–we all–should have another standard.

I think its time for me to reread the book!

LovableAscending 61F

6/20/2006 7:20 pm

I have that book and skimmed through it. Maybe I should reread it and pay more attention. I think it is a good thing for anyone to re-examine their relationship from time to time. And I think we should pay attention to the messages we are sending, as well as those we are receiving.


heavensent11236 53F

6/21/2006 1:03 pm

I wanna be the pink blouse and if that fails do you mind if I borrow that book?


softnlush 54F

6/22/2006 6:38 am

I LOVE that book..but there is one exception to the too busy..and for sure he is the exception..my FWB working for our lovely country..well,he is often away..but he always always calls me when he can,emails me when he can and IM's me when he can get a connection LOL..which is kinda funny to be in the middle of a huge sex chat and he loses his connection LOL..and when he is in town..he is IN me..oops..seeing me..darn I hate when I do that..but yea,if they don't call..he is not that into you..men are pretty simple...but I love when I call them out on it and they deny it..I am like..are you kidding me??? oh well,time for all women to read that book again..or buy it if they do not have it..it is refreshing and it saves hurt feelings..good post Bound


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