Sexy is as Sexy Does - A guide to be Sexy (Part 1)  

Zinfandel101 44M
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4/10/2006 2:34 am

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Sexy is as Sexy Does - A guide to be Sexy (Part 1)


Vamps and vixens, sirens and femmes fatales, come out, come out, wherever you are! Everywhere you look from everyone's favorite prime-time diva Camryn Manheim to Days of Our Lives saucy schemer Patrika Darbo, to luscious Star Jones, to zaftig model Kate Dillon, well-rounded, well-padded women are showing up in the spotlight, and boy, do they sizzle! It's not just because they're famous. They and countless thousands of other plus-size women who've learned to embrace their sexuality, sensuality, and sex appeal prove that not only are you, as big women, sexy to other people, but that more and more, you're seeing ourselves as sexy, too.

The big secret about being sexy, the thing that diet center ads don't want you to know, is that sexiness actually doesn't have anything to do with what size you are or how much you weigh. It's about who you are and what you do: the way you think, the way you act, and the positive vibes you put out. Sexy is as sexy does.

Learning to be sexy and to be comfortable with it doesn't happen overnight. It takes time to slay all the many little trolls that lurk under the bridges you have to cross in the process. You might still have bad days when you just can't quite muster up the enthusiasm to actually smile at the chubby broad in the mirror. But for every moment you learn to be sexy by doing sexy, for every hour you learn how to sail through your world on your own deliciousness, you vanquish a whole lot of those pesky little trolls.

It's good to remember that being sexy or feeling sexy isn't always about having sex! Sexiness can be about sex, most definitely! However, feeling sexually self-confident and secure in your sensuality will stand you in good stead in almost any arena of your life. Feeling sexy makes you feel good about yourself, and that makes you a happier, healthier, more confident person whose joie de vivre shines like sunlight through a gorgeous stained-glass window. And that's infectious, it's appealing, it's captivating, and it's sexy as all-get-out.

It is true that the sexier you feel and act, the more in control you are when it comes to keeping your sanity, health, and dignity in the often difficult territory of romance and relationships. Knowing you're attractive helps you remember, for instance, that you don't have to "settle for what you can get" if someone who really isn't your cup of tea asks you out or propositions you. Asserting that you deserve to be treated well and remembering that you don't have to "compensate" for not being thin by giving in to whatever a partner asks for can help keep you from everything from boring dates to unsafe or unwanted sex. In fact, knowing that you are a sexy, desirable person lets you go after what you want in the realm of sex and relationships.

The question isn't whether to let your sexy self shine, but how. It's usually more a matter of getting comfortable with the sexy side of yourself than anything else. But how do you move from feeling conflicted about letting people see your sexy side to a place where you can be unapologetic and happy about being a big beautiful bombshell?



poison_syrup 44F
8533 posts
4/10/2006 5:15 am

Your post reminds me of my recent post on The Art Of Seduction. In fact I think self confidence and self assurance are the keys to making it to many areas in life.


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Serenely_Yours 118

4/10/2006 6:23 am

Im a BIG BIG girl in this small small world.
Learning to be sexy and confident.
It is true that being sexy is not just about how you look but how you think. Like I always said, the brain is the most erotic organ. And the sexiest of all.


٭ ˚ °◦○☻ Serenely Yours ☺○◦° ˚ ٭


Zinfandel101 44M

4/10/2006 9:16 am

Poison Syrup > Yup self confidence and self assurance are the keys.
How many times you heard women with good sexy figure, with all the right measurements telling others they need to go on a diet.



Serene Ann > Yes you are right.


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