Winds of Change...  

XJackinyourBoxX 43M
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8/1/2006 10:31 am

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8/3/2006 6:07 am

Winds of Change...

As I think back to earlier this year and all the things that have happened to me to get me where I am today, I'm stuck by how many changes have taken place in such a short time.

I won't go into much detail, but I had an affair, got separated, moved out, met a few wonderful women, found my self-confidence, stopped being depressed, got a better job, and now fill my nights with a wonderful woman that says she's never been happier.

So that brings me to this...
I'm not an expert, but knowing that I have/had low self-esteem and mild depression most of my life, I can share some wisdom on coping/dealing and making things better...

Here it goes...
Every person is unique, yet our differences are small. The only major difference between you and someone that's the life of the party is your life-experiences.
Two things need to occur for most anyone to improve their outlook on life and their ability to talk to people.
1. Understand that you're no better than anyone and nobody is better than you. We're all about the same. Two arms, two legs, a head, a brain etc. If you're missing any of those physical traits, don't worry, it just makes you unique. You're you because of what you've experienced in life. That's the major difference. The playing field really is level because you can do exactly what others have done to meet and talk to people.
2. Stop caring about what others think. If I'm no better than you, why is my opinion of you important? You need to feel good about yourself. That always shows and is contagious.

On talking to strangers and the fear of rejection...
If you approach someone and ask him/her out, and he/she says no, what happens? Nothing. If they don't want to be with you, they're not worth your time. The world doesn't end. They'll probably not remember you asking them out and you might forget yourself. Understand that being rejected by a person is just a small event in your life. Tomorrow you could win the lotto and not remember the person's name.
It's really just a mindset. Once you realize that life is too short to worry about what one person thinks of you, you can do anything. Just imagine how freeing that feeling is, and embrace it.

More later, if anyone

florallei 100F

8/2/2006 7:20 pm

As they say knowledge gives wisdom...It takes a heart of a child to have wisdom and a mind of an adult to have wisdom as well. Yes each of us are unique and special and sacred...
If there are no chemical imbalance and emotional or mental disorder and we apply what we learn thru experience or just by watching and learning from others...our present and future will likely be more successful.
I applaud you for your continued growth and that your life has taken for the better.

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