In the beginning...  

XJackinyourBoxX 43M
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8/15/2006 9:11 pm

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In the beginning...

In the beginning, there was a man who joined a site to see what he'd been missing for his entire life. Below is an excerpt from the blog posting I made, what seems like an eternity ago (in reality, April), that led me to where I am today. I met someone as a result of that post and it made me realize that not only do I have more to offer than I thought, but that I was stronger than I ever imagined...

Here's to reminiscing with people I hardly know...

Before January, I was married to the woman I dated in high school and on and off ever since. Sex dried out after the first year. Ended up spending the next few years thinking that this is what my life was, and that I should accept it.
January - went away on business. Met someone and hit things off. Two weeks later came back to the same town on business and called her. We chatted. Two weeks later, come back on business. I met her at her place to watch movies. Ended up having sex that night. Had sex with her once more that week before I left for home.

The sex wasn't anything kinky, compared to 90% of anyone on this site, it could be considered very boring. No toys were used. No candle wax. No cheerleader uniforms, it was just sex. Anyway, it was what I was missing for the last... well, forever.

She was like no one I ever met before. Adventurous, fun, wild. Never figured I'd meet someone like that. Didn't even know they really existed. Now I'm finding out she's not the only one. All I got to say is... What the hell have I been missing???!!!??

So obviously there are real women out there that do enjoy sex and sometimes don't get what they want. They're apparently searching for fun and adventure just like me and probably tens of thousands of guys on this site (that probably have pics of their dicks in their hands or something). I guess I'm a little different. I don't have a huge amount of experience. I'm looking for that. I'm looking for women to chat with, or even meet. I'm trying to get to the point that I can experience what I've been missing for the last, well... forever. Whether I find it here, or somewhere else, eventually it will happen. My handle says it all. I've been asleep for all these years and now I'm looking for someone to wake me up.

I've met a few people from this site since then and I can't say that I've had a single bad experience.
If it weren't for AdultFriendFinder, I would never have found the one I'm so close to now.

I'm not done finding out what I've been missing all these years, but I'm closer now than I was in April when I posted the above message.

rm_justfofun32 44M/45F
8 posts
8/16/2006 4:15 pm

nice one / we all agree

lookingaround240 59M/60F

8/16/2006 8:29 pm

i understand your position that at home sex is lost, BUT just look at the other side, while you are leavin town and fuckin, she is not. Maybe if she went out and rejoined single life, it might spark her up and one night she might have a couple extra wines and some hot dude asks her to dance and while on the floor he slips his oversized hand up her skirt and WALA, she is wet like she hasn't been in 10 years, so out to the parkin lot and she has pants down like greased lightning. Well then you might shout to me "she doesnt go out anywhere and have fun" (my situation), so then you need to come up with a plan cause you should still love this gal, so you need to have a plan. My plan is to bring a man to my house and let him pleasure her in hopes that she will again realize that sex is good to indulge. The way you are doing it, you are having all the fun. My idea of fun is listening to her gently moan (she doesnt want me to hear her enjoy, but we know she is and we like that) as she is getting exciting pleasure. Or just give me your home address and i will go and fuck her...

XJackinyourBoxX replies on 8/17/2006 6:32 am:
I'll admit it's much more complicated than that. I've condensed the whole story.
If you went to her place to have sex with her, she'd call the cops. Although I'd find that very amusing, it wouldn't change anything.
I've know her over half my natural life and we both agreed that getting married was a mistake. We were better as friends and we actually still are. The death of my sex life was only a small portion of the overall situation.

florallei 100F

8/18/2006 10:15 pm

Great Post and so many men tell me the same unfortunate story in their married life. The feeling of being dead inside are terms they use...they are looking for re-awakening.

I feel for the younger men who stick it out in their sexless marriage and most likely divorce in 5 to 10 years and loose half of their assets and have children along the way.

For what I know now in my life. I should have left my marriage 20 years earlier. No, I did not get half of the marital assets which I helped build with him...I feared for my life and got away which I was grateful for.

I hope in your situation your wife will either get help or you are content to live like this and stick it out. Life goes by so fast and you wake up one day and say "what am I doing with my life?".

Sorry for the long winded story...I just hear this sad scenario so much...

VCF1962 106F

8/19/2006 1:31 pm

And yet here I am looking for someone half decent to share more than a few fun and frolics with and seem to get the duds.

All except one who's still in my life and wants nothing more from me than the occasional meet and "the best head he's had" - his own words ! Course they may just be flattery but what the hell !

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