Of Open Relationships, Cabbages and Kings...  

Wyldwolfe 43M
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4/1/2006 3:07 am

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Of Open Relationships, Cabbages and Kings...

Ooo, my first blog post. EVER. ANYWHERE. Guess I'm a bit behind the times, eh? Anyway, I'm on here looking for a lot of things, most of which are sexual. NATURALLY, as that's the point of this site.

Oh hey, just noticed the date - it's April 1st! Warm weather is ever nearer for us Midwesterners! And it's April Fool's Day! Wonder if it's significant that my first blog ever is starting on this day...Nah.

Anyhoo, where was I?...Oh yeah, sexual encounters are what this site's about. Right? Are ya with me? Good. I'm currently in an extremely devoted relationshp with a woman I deeply love. Yet I feel that it's fine to fuck anyone I please at any time. And so does she. This is what's referred to as an "open relationship". It's awesome. We only have two real "rules" regarding all this: 1) I don't touch her friends, as this could make things weird between them, and 2) We always let each other know whenever we've had sex with somebody. I have no problem with either of those rules.

This site is so free and unrestrictive, and it's great. None of that puritanical, Christianesque attitude that most "normal" personal sites have. To me, sex isn't the be-all, end-all of life, but it's really (REALLY) fun. I want to explore it to its fullest, you know? But I'm not like the horny bastards who just wanna fuck the first hottie they see. I need to KNOW somebody before I'll get naked with them. I'm not ruling out a hot one-night stand, of course. It could happen, and if it does, awesome. But that's not generally how I like to do things. In general I think sex is so much hotter if I know and respect the woman. Hell, this would even apply to group sex, now that I think of it.

My girlfriend is down with all this, as I said. But not TOTALLY down. First off, she feels too weird about both of us fucking in the same threesome, orgy, or whatever. When one of us does it, it MUST be without the other. Anybody else have a situation like this? Personally, I'd love us to engage in a threesome together, but she won't have it. Still, it's not a big enough deal to really matter, so I let it go.

She also feels that this is possibly just something "we need to get out of our systems" before we get married, at which point we'll stop doing it. Maybe, who knows? But I think I might just want to keep on. Of course I won't, if that's how she wants it. And maybe I'll feel the same by the time we get married. But again, maybe not.

I sort of have a problem with her attitude that an open relationship's fine now, but it won't be ok after marriage...First off, I consider us basically married NOW, in the fullest spiritual sense. We just lack the legal papers. So I honestly don't see the difference. Secondly, she clearly sees this lifestyle as somehow immoral or wrong, otherwise she would just be straight-up fine with it, 100%, right? I mean, is it something she'd feel ashamed to do once we have kids? I wouldn't. Sex is beautiful and amazing. Nothing dirty or nasty about it at all. I wouldn't do it in FRONT of our kids, of course, but I definitely wouldn't be ashamed of it. Either with her, with someone else, or with a crowd.

I guess how we differ is that for me, this seems to be a true lifestyle choice, no regrets. But for her, it's apparently just something she's tolerating "for now" until we reach a future point where we "get over it". I love her with all my heart, but we don't see eye to eye on this issue. Welcome to life and love, I guess. Can't see eye to eye on everything. At least she's willing to do the open relationship thing, which she wasn't at first. And I deeply respect her for that. Hell, after agreeing to go ahead with it, she was the FIRST to fuck someone else! Which helped a lot, I think. She's been a lot better about it since then. Anyway, I'll quit rambling on about it for now. On to other topics...

Hey, you wanna hear something crazy? I ate this really fucked up Chinese salad yesterday, and get this - half the container was occupied by an entire 1/4 of a frickin' cabbage! What was I supposed to do with that?? Just chow down on the damn thing? I'd do that with lettuce maybe, but CABBAGE? Kinda nasty...

So what do you think of Bush signing that bill into law WITHOUT it passing Congress first? That's FUCKED UP. And the whole Patriot "Let's spy on everyone in case they're terrorists" Act...Shit, man, get real. You know what Bush said when confronted about all this spying crap? Read this, it's word-for-word truth, unfortunately for us all:


GOP leaders told Bush that his hardcore push to renew the more onerous provisions of the act could further alienate conservatives still mad at the President from his botched attempt to nominate White House Counsel Harriet Miers to the Supreme Court.

“I don’t give a goddamn,” Bush retorted. “I’m the President and the Commander-in-Chief. Do it my way.”

“Mr. President,” one aide in the meeting said. “There is a valid case that the provisions in this law undermine the Constitution.”

“Stop throwing the Constitution in my face,” Bush screamed back. “It’s just a goddamned piece of paper!”

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Can you believe that shit? "Just a goddamned piece of paper". Between that statement, and his passing a law 100% on his own, Bush has finally done it. He's declared himself the King. But in doing so, he's nothing but the Fool. Hey, guess he's the "April Fool"!! Ha! I made a funny! And on that political note, I'll end my first blog. Happy April Fool's Day...or should I say, happy Dubya Shrubya Day. Take your pick. > Later.

happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
4/1/2006 6:41 am

Well... I would get jealous too if my hubby suggests an open relationship. Then... why am I here?

Interesting 1st post. Keep it Up!


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