Taking my cue from others  

WildWon1982 35M
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5/17/2006 8:59 am

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Taking my cue from others

Thanks for the suggestions, folks. Some I've already covered, but I'll give them a second go-round.

1, from Phantasm) An exploration of my involuntary celibacy (1 year, 5 months, 16 days and counting): I joke that women have been holding out on me. Obviously, that's not the case. But let's take a look at some other possible reasons (I will not spare myself).

Despite my good humor and sense thereof, I can be a very nervous guy at first. Nervous or shy, one of the two, I don't normally shake, though. In order for me to make a connection with a woman, I need to engage her in conversation, one way or another. This basically eliminated bars and clubs for me. I've tried the scene as a chance to "hook up," but when the music (mostly shitty) is blaring louder than a Pearl Jam concert, I can't hear myself drink, much less think, or speak, when trying to talk to a woman. Also, being the shy guy (10 points for the reference) I am, it's hard to figure out what to say to break the ice. I've gotten many a sore cheek for lame pickup lines, but on the flip side, how do you start a conversation if you don't say something that grabs their intention? To paraphrase mango, us guys got the harder task in the dating world. No wonder many of us think of women as a conquest. It takes a lot of effort, counter-attacks, and back-up plans. And of course, when it doesn't work out, RETREAT!

So I'm nervous and shy. Also, though I may attempt to sometimes portray myself as some horndog who just wants to get laid as much as possible by a myriad of different women (ref. the old blog title), that ain't me. Despite the pleathera of lovely women here, I am extremely attracted to a woman who challenges me mentally, keeps my wit on overdrive, turns me into Alan Shore (10 points again). This isn't to say that I have impossible standards or anything like that. It's just that if I ever get past the initial contact, I look for qualities other than mere physicality, someone I can relate to, forge a deeper connection than what will eventually be made in the bedroom.

I'm a writer. That's the personality. If you ever do one of those test, I'm INFJ (Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging, I believe is what it stands for), and the matching personality is just that, a writer. As such, I can tend to keep to myself, in my own little universe of fantasy (which given my creative juices, can be quite vivid). I can create an ideal situation inside my mind, but I've found that putting that ideal into practice is much more difficult than I'd hope.

So there's a little glimpse into my fucked up psyche. Hope I didn't scare anyone off.

2, from mycin) Fantasies: I've covered this before, but I don't want you all to have to check the archives, so I'll list a few, details upon request:
Anything having to do with water
Ethnic sampling
Controlling Women (not quite to outright domination, but I like a woman who can take hold of the situation)

There are others, but that'll do for now.

3, from NSA) The Popcorn Trick: An ancient prank that somehow started working. I've never tried it, but it just sounds too funny. At the movies, the guy will slyly cut a hole in the bottom of the tub of popcorn. The tub will then sit on his lap during the course of the movie, in hopes of some happy touching from his unsuspecting date. Apparently this does work occasionally.

4, from kaleidoscope) Poker Strategies: Put all your chips in the pot on 7-2 off, especially when I have A-K. It always works, I swear. Your cards add up to 9, and my cards are letters, they don't add up to anything. Seriously, though, poker is much more luck than skill. I could have been knocked out of that tournament about 5 times. I was asked last night if I was any good at poker, or just lucky. The answer is both. I wouldn't play if I wasn't any good. I wouldn't win if I wasn't lucky.

5, from mango) Please give me lots to write about. Be my muse.

NSAAddict 43F

5/17/2006 8:28 pm

OHHHHHHHHH!!! Now I get it, lol Thanks for the clarification and no you're psyche doesn't freak me out at all, I too am an INF_ but I think I'm a P or something else, gotta check that out. Anyway, whatever you do choose to blog about, I'll be here to read them, you are a great writer and I enjoy your blogs

mangomamiCT 43F

5/17/2006 10:15 pm

Your new name will be Prolific Mango Addict

WildWon1982 35M

5/18/2006 8:31 pm

I need my fix!

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