Yes, I'm a slut... yes, I fuck other people... no, I don't cheat. Doesn't make sense? Read on.  

Weirdie 60M
79 posts
7/13/2006 9:45 pm

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Yes, I'm a slut... yes, I fuck other people... no, I don't cheat. Doesn't make sense? Read on.


I'm sorry folks, but I have a problem with all you married guys whose wives don't know you play. And all you married ladies whose husbands don't know.
Yes, I've heard many reasons, many of which I can agree with, and see the point of. Like the person who's in mid divorce, doesn't want to stay celibate, but doesn't want to give their soon-to-be-ex ammo in court. Like the person whose spouse is very likely to die in the next couple of years, and they are only keeping up appearances for the sake of a stable environment for the kids. But those are the exception, not the rule.
Most of you marrieds out there who are playing on your spouses... well, this is A FF. Most of your spouses know, heartily approve, and play themselves. It's a sharing, and a great one. I know, I'm there myself. But most of the rest of you....
You're tired of your relationship, for whatever reasons, good or bad. You don't think it's worth fighting to keep it healthy and happy anymore, or you don't know how. But you don't want the bitching, the accusations, the bitter divorce. Fine and good, and in many ways I can't say as I blame you.
But think about it for a moment. What position does that put my lady and me in, when you want to play with us? You are using us as a weapon against your spouse, or as an escape from choices you made long ago and now regret, but aren't willing to make the hard choices to fix. Are you not? I know this sounds callous, but in a sense aren't you asking us to bear part of the burden of *your* laziness or lack of backbone?
The people who are mine and my lady's lovers... yes, at first they may just be a fun chance to 'bounce around naked', as my honey likes to say. But if it continues, as we often hope it does, it eventually becomes a real friendship, or in some sense more than friendship. Will you sacrifice a potential of friendship for the sake of NOT making the decisions to change your own life to what you *wanted* it to be in the first place?
Well, fine and good, and you have every right to make that decision. But if you're going to *start out* that way before we even meet you, I think you can understand why we'd rather play with someone else. Again, I know this is a coarse way of putting it, but your web of lies is *your* problem, not ours.

crazygurl2xx 58F

7/14/2006 5:01 pm

i am SO NOT about the lying thing.. nope. playing is one thing, lying is another. maybe if those people who cheat Could talk to their spouses, they would find out a lot about the other person and them selves...maybe they would figure out, as you say, that changes need to be made.

slut does not = dishonesty. it just means you love sex and variety, but what fun is hurting other people? i just don't agree with it and avoid married liars as well as single liars.


needingitdeep 47F
21 posts
7/25/2006 2:53 pm

I agree with you .. and those who are married pretending to be single are worse ... they go out with you a number of times and get you to see them for who you think they are .. then someone calls telling you they are married and have a completely different name than the one he gave you (that was a personal experience)... its just not right .. honesty is the best thing anyone can do for another person

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