Score: Universe: 1 - Me: 0  

VoluptuousXotic 41F
32 posts
1/17/2006 11:57 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Score: Universe: 1 - Me: 0

I have had dates in the recent past, and all of them have been nice. None of them aroused the energy of the universe within me, however they were all better than average, though mostly platonic dates.

Then, this one particular gentleman caught my attention, the universe shook me and urged me to take notice. So, I did, as of late my premonitions have been right on, and it isn't like I have this rush very often, or hardly ever.

So I go to our place of choice and meet this fine man. The initial feeling of strong, positive energy continues to flow. The conversation was great, we were truly enjoying each other's company and openly announced the point.

Things were looking so very nice, and the feeling of possibility was exhilarating. Until Mr. Wonderful slipped in that he wasn't ready for anything serious (and he did just slip it in there). At that moment the little analytical/spiritual creature in my mind turned around to look the universe square in the eyes (if there is such a thing) and exclaimed "WHAT THE FUCK??"

I sat there, the possibility of friendship and what that could lead to, all dissipated before my eyes before it had ever had the opportunity to grow.

He explained that he had gotten out of something 6 months ago. I told him it was fine, I respect that, but I am looking for something more, and perhaps we can be friends (i.e., don't think you are gonna be fucking me).

However, lets be honest, can we be friends? I think not. When an attraction exists that is greater than that which one can control, you need to leave it alone once that warning label is slapped on their forehead.

***WARNING: I do not have the capacity, desire, intent or offer the remote possibility for anything outside of noncommittal sex and conversation***

However, I sat there wondering how did I end up on the other side of this table? I thought I was clear, that I am not into casual sex and I am looking for substance and growth, what was he there to offer me? Something which I stated I did not want in the first place?

He was a very nice guy, a true gentleman, and for that I commend him. I enjoyed our time together, but I will leave it as I left it as we parted. "If I never see you again, know that you are a wonderful man." Its easy to walk away now, than after I find myself looking blankly at his response "I told you in the beginning..." down the line.

rm_Gentle12553 68M
1378 posts
1/21/2006 5:45 pm

It is not easy....this dating...relationship thing...everyone of course has a different objective and it takes time to develop a friendship that might turn into something more. Relationships of quality take time...lots of time...I really think a great deal of men today expect to sleep with a date on the first or if not at least the second date, and is that realistic? Not sure I would want a LTR with a woman who was that loose. What ever happened to the little old fashioned courting a girl...developing character, trust and respect....Well....guess I should not figure on that. AdultFriendFinder is truly a sex site...and many guys figure a girl on here is looking for sex, to get laid with no strings...Not least I have not run into many of them.

Guess the moral of my story is "Keeping the frogs, one is bound to turn into a prince!"

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