Polyamorists Wanna Get Married Too  

VisualViolet 60F
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1/10/2006 7:06 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Polyamorists Wanna Get Married Too

Now that marriage among gays is becoming legal in country after country, Polyamorists wish to get on the bandwagon too. Recently a civil marriage was performed for a man and the two women he loves in the Netherlands. They are now man and wives. Mazel tov.
As a BiPoly this subject is near and dear to my heart.
The irony of the insistence on the part of gays and Polyamorists to marry
never ceases to amaze me (read that causes me chagrin).
Marriage has proven itself to be an untenable institution that causes
widespread misery.
Why emulate it? Why perpetuate it?
Evidently, gays and Polyamorists are stuck in the mindset that only
marriage is official, lawful, a total commitment, stable and fully recognized by society. Is there a tinge of seeking religious sanction for their relationships as well?
That the Polyamorous wish to express the establishment of their
relationships somehow officially can be understood. But why marriage?
I think an adaptation of the old Celtic institution Hand Fasting makes far more sense than marriage for everyone, not only gays and the Polyamorous, i.e., renewable vows to remain together for as long as love lasts. The children of dissolved alliances are not considered "kids of broken homes" or regarded as disadvantaged socially in any way. Neither should the children of people who no longer wish to be partners be disadvantaged economically. Clearly, a society in which there is common wealth would preclude the possibility that children of dissolved relationships would suffer economically.

nbnewcomer 47M

1/27/2006 12:30 pm

I like this idea.

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