VenusDiaries 63M
531 posts
5/28/2006 7:35 am

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Sometimes we are in love and often times throughout our lives it might be unrequited.

In love and we feel it in the pit of our stomachs.

We have sex, good sex, bad sex, quick sex, go long time sex, sloppy sex, sensuous sex, kinki sex, tantric sex, sex with ourselves, nasty sex, sex on the beach, in a car, outdoors, in public, on a plane, in a train.

Then we have the relationship, working, platonic, good, bad, indifferent.

Sometimes we have combinations of two of the three.

Love & Sex
Love & Relationship
Sex & Relationship

The probability is that in your lifetime you have had in your romance affairs many combinations with the twos. But how often have you had all three? Did it make a difference in your life? Did only having one or two affect your affair in a positive or negative way?
Had all three combinations?
Yes. Had all three and it is still working.
No. Had all three and it crashed and burned.
Had combination of two's on numerous occasions.
Satisfied with just having sex without the other two.

_Safira 54F
11260 posts
5/29/2006 6:37 am

I couldn't vote. I know that might sound strange, but I just couldn't do it. I think I have what I have at different times, and that's as it should be. Living and BEING fully in the moment is where I am most comfortable.

Thanks for the poll! It gave me a chance to finally come to your blog and check you out.


Safira {=}

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.


VenusDiaries replies on 5/29/2006 12:38 pm:
It's OK not to vote. Just trying to shake up some critcal thinking of my own.

pretzel_logic2 41M
31 posts
5/29/2006 11:02 am

Too many times you don't realize that you have the 3 combinations. It can be intense and you misconstrude it as complicated or more than you're willing to take on. We let it go and realize what it was when you start another relationship that's less than what you had or the potential of what you could have had.

VenusDiaries replies on 5/29/2006 12:42 pm:
Being able to recognize the combinations and be willing to commit. Timing is also the essence along with the recognition.

On No maybe the grass wasn't greener is a dilema as well.

TheOracle2006 106F

1/8/2007 2:58 pm

You cannot have love without a relationship... you cannot have a sex without a relationship... most times the lovers are not on the same page and when it turns, all crumbles and someone walks away. Now to have two people on the same page with love, sex and a relationship, it happens but it is a fleeting joy. But this joy stays within the memories forever. It only hold bad memories if this is what one focus' on. Life is not a fairytale and it is never happily forever after. It is only for the time that two lovers enjoy. After that, the work happens. So many keep it in the fantasy, and when reality comes home they do not know how to handle it.

When I read in your blog, a woman wanted to marry you and when her fantasy couldn't come into reality, it ended. I wonder how long she hid that fantasy from you, and invested much time in the 'happy forever after' fantasy before she told you? She didn't tell you because somewhere she knew it was never going to happen... so when she felt you had invested enough into wanting her that you would not walk away, she told you her intentions. This ends sex, the relationship crumbles because it wasn't honestly built, and the love was never there... only desirous fantasies on different pages.

Ever try to read a book with someone? Either you have to take turns reading outloud so that you are both on the same page or one gets annoyed waiting for the other to catch up. Sure you can both have a book, and meet to share the chapters together... but that is when love of the book and the relationship is committed to spend this time in fantasy together. It is usually not with a sexual partner... because the both of them have better things to fantasize about than each someone elses thoughts.

L'Oracle de L'Amour

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