Married men...why they lie to us  

VanillaKisses243 44F
170 posts
3/13/2006 7:55 pm

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Married men...why they lie to us

You know...I really don't care why men cheat. However, I am curious as to why they gotta lie about it, esp. when they are on a site like AdultFriendFinder. It just doesn't make sense to me. How many of you women have been told by the man that he wasn't married, attached, living with, etc., only to find out that it was all a bunch of crap.

I have encountered some interesting men on this say the least. Most of them are pretty honest about their living situation though. HOWEVER, I feel a need to tell you about the most recent of encounters.

I met a man on here that seemed like the real deal...a good catch. He was nice looking, had a decent job, divorced, two kids, looking for someone sexually uninhibited for a long term relationship. He lived withing 2 hours of me and was a pretty good conversationalist...he could make me laugh and think. Seems too good to be true other than the divorce and kid part...only thing better would have been never married with no kids.

My momma always told me to remember that just b/c it smells like a rose doesn't mean it wasn't fertilzed with other words, if it looks too good to be true then it probably is. And, well, this one truly was. Come to find out he is engaged to and living with his second ex-wife. Instead of two kids, he has four, with three different women. He does work where he said but not doing what he told me he did. He is broke, with a ton of loans, and living off of the ex-wife.

My question is why lie? If all you wanted was a good time and to fuck why not just say that? Why involve me in the nonsense? And, why pretend to everyone that you meet (my friends and child) that you are something other than what you are. I just don't get it. I am blantantly honest about myself and every aspect of my life. All I ask is that you show me the same amount of respect and honesty. Seriously, is it too much to ask?

So...women...tell the men how you really feel about this shit. to me why ya do it this way?

rm_terilliam 49M
1 post
3/13/2006 11:07 pm

Wow, I can't imagine why someone would lie about stuff as serious as that. Don't they know that they will get caught. Several years ago I caught my wife lying to me. Before I confronted her I investigated and discovered several affairs and or relationships.
We interact all the time and are trying to be friends agains. As for me I have no trust in me, especially to her.
I still do not understand why.
Maybe, they are living a life that is unfulling and the lies give them something that reality does not.
I just wish they wouldn't. So many good people get hurt.

marcusgerald 44M

3/14/2006 6:40 am

Well I can say that every man and situation is not the same. In general I don't know. My world isn't perfect but I don't have to lie about it. My great aunt told me you can only stack dirt so high until it'll fall on top of you. I'm thinking that happens so a person can escape their problems. I like facing my problems. I get tired of something getting in my way. Some men get themselves into more than they can handle and search for a way out. That's how I see it. I was told a lot of times that I'm to good to be true. That's the worst thing I ever told to me because I'm not. I rather make mistakes you learn from that. That's my thoughts on that. OH Hi Vanilla!!! Like the topic!

rm_Keystone3812 66M
583 posts
3/17/2006 10:28 am

I'd say that any man that lies is looking for a cheap thrill, looking for a piece of ass. NOT what I'm looking for.

rm_jmon4663 53M
3 posts
4/10/2006 12:13 pm

I think men lie cause its expected, intellectually we know we are wrong, but a lie helps take the sting out of there actions. I never lie, if and wehn i get involved with some extra, it is neccessary to protect those who could be hurt the most(your family). but lying does not diminishes you wrongness, it makes you more guility.


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