Friends with benefits.... supposedly  

TryNEthingOnce42 33M
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9/9/2006 3:54 pm

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9/12/2006 4:27 pm

Friends with benefits.... supposedly

Well here the deal, I met this fine young lady where I worked. She is really into me and thinks I'm just the hot stuff of this place. She was just getting out of a relationship and just needed to fuck to get by. Well, she said that I just made her hot whenever I came around, and she thought that we would make great fuck buddies... nothing else. She actually approached me with this. Anyway, everything is swell and we fucked for some time(great by the way). Then all of a sudden, she gets weird on me. She starts asking why I wouldnt date a girl like her, but then she started saying her instead. Well, needless to say I had to say something to her b/c it was getting obvious... she was falling for me. We made an agreement!! I told her that I would love to date a girl like her, but that's not what we had in mind when we started this, and we made a deal that this was all it would be until it fizzled into a good friendship or just die completely. But I really like this girl, I dont want to date her, she is a really great friend. I dont want to loose the friendship, so what should I do? Why can't people be "friends" without falling in love???

Parisfrance8719 32F

9/12/2006 9:36 am

Ewwww...sounds like you got yourself in some issues....I'm sorry. Anyways, from personal experience, there is no way that some people can hold a this kind of friendship without getting involved like that. I guess, what I'm trying to say is that when I had a friendship thing like that, I fell for the guy, you know why? Because I was looking for someone to love me. I admit, I was stupid back then and those days. No more! In her case, it's the same, she got out of a relationship and she's falling for you..duh. If i were you, I hold off on the "lust" scene for a awhile until she can realize that you two weren't meant to be together, or in a relationship. Hope I could be of help..ttyl. GOOD LUCK!

pooh6193 41F
1 post
9/12/2006 1:06 pm

What it sounds like is a big mess! Let me explain a little something about women. We are emotional creatures that want that something special in our lives, even if it's bad for us. I think that the situation wasn't discussed fully to were there was that understanding. We are only hearing your side of the story( not saying that you're lying.) Maybe the best thing to do is sit down and talk about the problem. But think about this to : What if the shoe was on the other foot? And would you what me telling our business to other people??? Without coming to me first,'cause I'm the one you're sleeping with?????/

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