The more things change...  

TreatHerRight_4 47M
35 posts
7/8/2006 4:09 pm

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The more things change...


Greetings and Salutations!

I don't know if I'll ever update this again, but what's life without a mystery?

I just decided to post my feelings on what I'm seeing here. I have been on AdultFriendFinder for several years now. I have met many people. Some wonderful. Some not. And MANY deceivers.

Not so different from the real world, is it? There are those who feign friendship to get close. It is so much easier to cause pain when you know someone. I have the misfortune to be one of those people who are honest. I am who I say I am. Yes I can play and act, but anyone who has been around me knows when I am.

I am reading more again lately of people who are hurt and whatnot by this site. TOO MUCH DRAMA! Hello? This is a Chat Site. It is a Virtual World. Do you people not understand what that means? It is a fantasy. As with any Good fantasy, there are most definitely elements of reality here. But to make this your Life???????

Give me a break.

When the Room becomes more real than reality, it's time to go folks. Get off the computer. Get out in the Real World. How can you possibly get so locked into this????

Don't get me wrong. I've been caught in this. I have friends around the world on this site or because of it. But it has never been Reality to me. The friendships are. The site isn't. But this site has caused some of the greatest pain in my life.

NEVER EVER bring a personal relationship to a chat room. Period.

I brought someone I cared for completely to this site. To meet my friends. To be able to find out about me. To find out about the world. To just plain have fun. What happened?

"Friends" destroyed it. "Friends" told lies. "Friends" did everything they could, up to and including fabricated posts from myself, to break it up.

I take breaks from here often. Especially when I see the Drama. I, personally, can't understand the need for drama in one's life. There is enough trouble actually out there. Why the Hells would you make more up??? And why do so many then buy into it?

Yup. The more things change............

Shade and Sweetwater y'all.

Treat


JuicyBBW1001 56F

7/8/2006 6:45 pm

You took the words right out of my fingers. That is one of the reasons I no longer use the chat rooms and most of the time just blog and read the others. But even in the blogs there is drama, but like you say this not real life in some respects. I personally have learned not to bring my personal relationships with the people I have met on this site into any chatroom and if I write about it in my blog I never name names.

Juicy


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
7/8/2006 10:34 pm

Welcome to the blogs! Hope you'll stop by mine and say hello sometime!


PixieKittySC 62F  
1445 posts
7/22/2006 2:34 pm

((((((((((Treat)))))))))))))
You are so right about never bringing personal relationships to the chat room. It seems that when you do so there's always a few who'll do anything to destroy it. I've learned this from experience, and sometimes it can be people who claim to be your 'friends' that are the worse....the ones who claim to be your friends, then go behind your back and do their best to malign relationships.
At least I can say I learned from my experience, I learned to never bring my personal life or relationships into the chat rooms. I've learned who my true friends are, and I learned to use caution when making new friends.
I have been a member of this site for 4 years now and there has been times when I have thought about leaving, but I keep hanging in there...lol! I've made many good friends from all over the world and have also been fortunate enough to have made several TRUE FRIENDS It's these friends keeps me coming back.......GOOD TRUE FRIENDS like you Treat..... on the cheek.


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
8/28/2006 10:36 pm

Almost 2 months later. Hmmmmm. I see a few have read this. A few have commented on it.

It would seem that things have settled down a little. Whether this is because the Drama tends to be in cycles, because the principles I was reading about that caused me to post this in the first place aren't on as often, or because those who cause the problems in the first place have moved on for a time, I don't know.
I haven't been on all that much myself lately. Reality intrudes on the fantasy, unfortunately. It is much more fun to be on at this point. And that IS the point of being on here. The Fun.

I realize that this is a sex site. The whole reason for this place existing is THAT purpose alone. Quite a few of those I see in the rooms forget that. (How do you forget it? It's at the top of every freakin' page! Hello?? What are blind people doing on a computer in the first place??) I can't tell you how many Chat rooms I've been in here where the regulars tell someone "that isn't what this room is for!" *Raises eybrow* Ummm..... With the exception on ONE single room..... YES IT IS!

Sorry. Off topic, there. THAT just irks me no end though. I hate stupidity. Anyhow....

OK. I have noticed some drama, still. That is no surprise. Shouldn't even bother me that one of my friends is causing it for another. It does though. The biggest problem I have with it is an idiotic Blog posted here. All I'm going to say about it is this: The title of the Blog pertains more to the person who wrote it than it does to the person written about. You who wrote it....you'll know what I'm talking about when you read this. (Yes, I'm sure you'll read this.) I'm not saying anything more about it, but I suggest that you delete it. You've already hurt the person you posted about, but that thing hurts you more.

*Shakes head sadly*

The more things change...............

Shade and Sweetwater.

Treat


SirMounts 103M

10/12/2006 7:00 pm

Treat...
Yeah, for My own sanity if nothing else, I aviod drama like the plague.
As I'm fond of saying, if we're not having fun on here, exactly... what's the point?
And yes, this site isn't the be all and end all. It's not only important, but crucial that we don't neglect our realtime lives. Glad things are working out better now, bro.
Good points and ^5s, Treat.


silverbreeze2 67F

10/12/2006 8:12 pm

I still think your a doll.


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
10/19/2006 5:35 pm

    Quoting SirMounts:
    Treat...
    Yeah, for My own sanity if nothing else, I aviod drama like the plague.
    As I'm fond of saying, if we're not having fun on here, exactly... what's the point?
    And yes, this site isn't the be all and end all. It's not only important, but crucial that we don't neglect our realtime lives. Glad things are working out better now, bro.
    Good points and ^5s, Treat.
My dear SirM,

Who wants Sanity?!?!? Totally overrated. btdt
I have way more fun being Me. *Chuckle*

You are the voice of wisdom. We must not neglect the realtime. I totally agree with you, and am glad to hear from you again. (I finally got wisdom, but it was already rotten so they pulled it.)

Shade and Sweetwater my friend,

Treat


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
10/19/2006 5:37 pm

Yup.

Voodoo.

(Vun Dun for those who know.)

>< {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Silver}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Shade and Sweetwater,

Treat


silverbreeze2 67F

10/19/2006 8:42 pm

    Quoting TreatHerRight_4:
    Yup.

    Voodoo.

    (Vun Dun for those who know.)

    >< {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Silver}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Shade and Sweetwater,

    Treat

The sexiest devil I know

Hugs and to ya Treat Man.


rm_marnisway 86F
5018 posts
11/9/2006 7:14 pm

A brief time to share a few words ...
if pixie is your friend...that says a lot.

m.
smiles

x

Nothing is ever the same... when it comes to pleasures.

with a hint....the erotic senses will manifest into an abounding mess of flesh

the mind needs fulfillment of the body

if it feels good ...it is good

I've done it again...*S*


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
11/23/2006 10:52 pm

Thanks Marni.

Pixie IS my friend. She is one of my truest. I agree that says a lot.

I have made many friends here. I am grateful for that. All ego aside, that simple fact tells me that I must be doing something right. Perhaps I shall succeed as a person after all.

To ALL of my friends, old and new, thank You.

Shade and Sweetwater,

Treat


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
2/15/2007 11:52 pm

Greetings again y'all!

As you may have noticed (or maybe not and didn't give a rat's ass) I haven't been online much lately. RT intrudes once again. In this particular case, it is a GREAT thing. Or so it appears. However, I made it in tonight.

And walked into MORE drama. *chuckle*
By the Gods people!! Have you nothing more important in your dreary little lives than to worry about who uses what words in their handle??? "You AREN'T(x)!! The REAL (x) is better than you and is my friend!!"
ok. rotflmmfao

Get a grip folks! Almost noone on here has a copyrighted handle. There are only so many words in the language, and so many combinations to use. No matter what you use, someone else will end up with something similar. I'm by no means the only Treat on AdultFriendFinder. And I don't advise you to give some other poor bastid Hell because he has a handle like mine, but isn't me. Do y'all tell some guy on the street "You can't be Joe! I know Joe! He's a good friend of mine!" (If you do.............. You need serious help.)

The more things change...............

Shade and Sweetwater


TreatHerRight_4 47M
18 posts
1/22/2008 11:27 pm

Howdy again y'all.

It's been ages since I was on site. The only thing updated more often is my own site. (And those are sorely lacking.)

Just wanted to leave a "HOWDY!" to all my friends whom I did not see tonight. I shall try to be on more often, but make no promises. We are very busy people anymore.

Wasn't on to see how goes the Drama. Hope it is done gone.

Shade and Sweetwater,

Treat


MJLover69 60F
173 posts
10/4/2008 11:01 pm

~Treat~ well w/ friends like that you sure do not need enemies I say. Yes living life through the computer tends to make one just leave it and Live Life on the real side. Check my blog out whenever you make it back here again. Later my friend MJLover


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