The down side of love  

TomEboy10 60M
357 posts
9/14/2005 12:05 pm

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The down side of love

I took the Big Golden Guy into the vets today to check out a lump we found on his chest.While we waited, I observed an elderly couple talking quietly at the front desk, signing papers and looking very distraught.The woman started to cry uncontrollably and had to leave.Her husband spoke to the nurse, gave her the paper and than went outside to comfort his wife. They had just said goodbye to their dog of 15 years who had to be put to sleep.In the bag was his collar and leash.My heart broke and a knot welled up in my throat.The office staff seemed oblivious to the drama that was taking place- maybe a case of been there and done that. I know what it is like to lose a pet. I watched a car kill my dog when I was 7 years old and at 21 said goodbye to his brother as he had to be put to sleep.While my kids were growing up we never had a dog - maybe it was because I knew how much it hurt to say goodbye to the most loyal and loving friend you can have growing up.It wasn't until 4 years ago I "adopted" these two goldens who I call my step goldens.The big guy is ok -the lump was just a fat deposit.But I can not get that couple out of my mind.It is a terrible thing to love someone- and a pet is one of the most important someones you can have-and to have that taken away from you by death.It is the risk of loving - of leaving your heart open to the pain of loss and remembering what life was like when you had that special someone.We do not die all at once.Death happens over time as we experience big and small losses in our lives.Yet we must keep on loving because the upside makes the downside bearable.

warmandsexy52 65M
13164 posts
9/14/2005 1:19 pm

I am really moved. I shed tears when I lost my mother. I shed tears when our cat was put to sleep. Both times very privately in the car. Sometimes the very awareness of loss can remind you about love, like when my significant other was under the shadow of cancer. Love endures, but life does not.

tillerbabe 57F

9/14/2005 11:01 pm

TomE - sweetie-
You know I understand this. I lost my Dad 6 years ago - seems like yesterday. we took him off life support. I had to put down a pet rabbit 8 years ago - "Rico", and at the time I only had "Leto" my first adopted 'pit'. Leto and Rico were buds. They slept together when I was at work and played together. When I had to put him down, I brought Leto with me so she would understand and not be confused by his absence. It was a good thing - she could say "Goodbye" in her own sweet-dog-way. Have you ever read "When Elephants Weep?" great book, I highly recommend it.

Especially the elderly need their pets so desprately. My mother has a Doberman and a Chiuhahua, - what a combo! (I know I didn't spell that right) - they mean everything to her, keep her vital and young. Animals - they bring us so much and ask so little....

"Near this spot are deposited the remains of one who posssessed Beauty without Vanity, Strength without Insolence, Courage without Ferocity, and all the Virtues of Man without his vices. This praise, which would be unmeaning Flattery, if inscribed over human ashes, is but a just Tribute to the Memory of BOATSWAIN, a Dog.
-John Cam Hobhouse

Ultraviolet_69 63F

9/15/2005 12:48 am

Get a new Vet! When I had to put my cat, Clyde, to sleep my Vet and her staff sent me a condolence card and followed up with a phone call a couple of days later to make sure I was all right. Just because that staff has been there and done that doesn't mean everyone else has. Many people don't understand what an overwhelming loss the death of a pet can be but one would think those who work with animals would have some comprehension. Not hearing the sound of their tag bumping against the water dish, not being greeted at the door, the disharmony which arises as a result of the disruption in your daily routine because you no longer have to care for your pet. I thought you were a pretty great guy before this post. Now I'm convinced.

keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
9/15/2005 6:55 am

Our pets are like family members. Witness the extent to which folks are going to rescue animals in the wake of Katrina. I heard one story about a 400 pound pig that was rescued. When the owner found out that the pig would not be euthanized and would be kept until he could claim it, he wept uncontrollably with happiness and relief.

(Princess Lips)

9/15/2005 8:49 am

glad to hear your golden guy is ok...

sad about the couple...

saying goodbye to a pet is heartbreaking...


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