Ive emailed and emailed ladies that are simular  

ThreeD2005 47M
8 posts
5/6/2006 9:08 pm

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5/7/2006 9:24 pm

Ive emailed and emailed ladies that are simular


ive emailed and emailed ladies and im very picky but i usually get the same thing. I try to stick with ladies or couples in my area and that have a simular profile as mine and 99% of the time i get no reply or a autoreply and i know they are on and probably hear from hundreds of peeps on here and ive yet to get it why does everyone say they are looking for all this and yes we are on a dating site and sex site and friend finder site yet no one ever answers or even takes the time to reply. im new to this and looking for all the help i can get to figure out all this as i would like to make some friends and maybe meet someone and looking for how you guys do it and what it generally takes to get someone to answer or how to get into the loop. yes i get on the chat board and try to be a part of the group but if you dont know them they usually wont answer and the ones who do generally live like outragous distances from me so what does it take? well im open for comment and criticism and anything.

rm_1SweetBitch 56F
8575 posts
5/6/2006 9:43 pm

I cant answer for everyone but I can tell you when I get a e-mail from a man that has not read my profile I will not return a e-mail. Why the people you e-mail are not answering you...only they can tell you why

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch


SlimGoodGuy 39M

5/6/2006 10:25 pm

I'm typing this up on the fly, so take it lightly and take what I say and turn it at different angles to work it out for yourself.

Well the first thing that strikes me is your punctuation habits and some ladies like a well written email. Your blog post alone made my eyes a little hazed. But let's set that aside. There is no quick fix for your problem. It will take time because you're a guy. It's much easier as far as I can tell for women to connect here.

Let's look at some simple things. You're a silver member, so you have several things at your disposal that many guys don't. That puts you higher on the list. Good. You sound like you are reading their profiles. As long as you fit what they are looking for, you should be okay. If you aren't a big black dick or a couple and they are only looking for those things, it's probably a good idea to skip them. You have a photo of your face. Wonderful! The majority here say no dick pics. I'd take a more clean cut pic of your face though. Lose the hat. You already know they get tons of emails, so replying aint easy. If you don't get a response from someone you think is very busy, make another attempt and sound more alluring. Maybe she'll bite the 2nd time. Some women like to play games like that you know. I always avoided those types, especially if they say they play hard to get. I don't play and it's their loss. In other words, for me, med school was easier to get into.

Now, there are more complicated things to figure out. As you're probably aware, many profiles on this site are fake. Learn to recognize them and save your emails for legit people. I haven't seen your emails, but make sure they stand out somehow. Take an interest in something they put in their profile. Don't criticize them. Don't creep them out either. You're probably familiar with how difficult it is to figure out women. Well, let's say you come across a profile that says for example, she wants a serious guy, but also funny. If there are a few more opposing characteristics on her list, she really isn't clear about what she wants. While I still say go for her, you may not be the odd combo of guy she is looking for and won't write you back. There are millions of random quirks members have. All I'm trying to get at is try and get inside their head.

Okay, what could drive them away in your profile?
Size queens won't like Average/Average. Smoking is enough to turn some away. You have kids that don't live with you. That might raise some eyebrows. Your actual written profile needs some work. Articulate what you want in a woman a bit clearer. You're tired of the same old same old. That's a great intro because they can relate, however, your profile sounds "same old same old."

Whew! I shoulda made my own blog outta that. Hope those suggestions got you thinking man.

Best of luck to ya! You'll get em.


Mr_sweetness 45M
2599 posts
5/6/2006 10:34 pm

I have the same luck man...i hate reading a womens profile as to what they want and when you fit what they want and get no reply then i know they just are going on looks and the size of the mans cock....i do not even try anymore on here...if it happens it happens if not oh well, i will not lose any sleep over it and especialy on the internet...but good luck to you man...

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Happiness, cause it feels good and life is to short to be mean and unhappy all the time!!


frbnkslady 49F
6183 posts
5/6/2006 11:16 pm

Well Slim has given you some awesome pointers. Good luck with your emails. I like the chat rooms.. Just jump right into the conversations, don't hang back and be a room lurker, don't wait wait for the room to say hello to you, YOU say hello. Most are friendly as I have been to all of them and was only pointedly rude to in one, NC. If you become a regular it will make your chatting easier. Find out if your area stages Meet and Greets. Go to those.
Enjoy and good luck, T

T




MOfunNOWWOW 56F

5/6/2006 11:52 pm

I am horny, willing to travel, and eager for action. Email me!


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


OhSoVeryCurious 47F

5/7/2006 12:38 am

I can say that one of the biggest reasons I won't respond to an email even if they match my preference is I just don't feel the same interest after reading their profile. I personally find that people who don't take the time to fill out a profile aren't really as serious as maybe I am. They may not be a detailed kind of person and perhaps that carries over to the bedroom. If a person doesn't say much on a profile they usually don't have much to say any other time. This I've tried and that is mostly the outcome...Or it can simply be that they don't find the other person attractive which happens. Just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean they will share the same like for you. Keep in mind women get lots of email versus most guys since you out number us. So with the sheer volume of email women can't respond to everyone. I have never taken it personal if someone didn't' return my email. It happens. Keep persevering you'll find what your looking for...it can take time for some guys..No matter what they look like or how they come across...Understand that if you send a email that simply says HI! Let's Play!!! isn't really an enticing email.


vidiohunter 52M

5/7/2006 3:22 am

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ThreeD2005 47M
1 post
5/7/2006 5:08 am

I love the comments and you guys have really helped me out with how to post. I love the post from Slimgoodguy he is very helpful on his post and a couple of the ladies that posted on here really helps. I will try some of these things and yes i learn from others. I love reading these posts as they are very helpful and im hoping that other members get some help from these as well. keep them coming as i feel this is a very useful tool and could help alot. Thanks guys and gals.


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