Is it me or is it you?  

rm_The_Succubus 33F
135 posts
3/14/2006 4:21 am

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Is it me or is it you?

Understanding men is like understanding Dynamics. Just when you think you got the hang of it, something new & unexpected comes up and you are back where you started. Fortunately, in the case of Dynamics, there are Newton's handy laws, to guide you in the difficult journey to the reason why objects move the way they do. But what laws are there to guide you in the complicated task of understanding men?

I had been chatting for a while with a guy I met here. Now, I have done that plenty of times before and I know better than anyone to not expect much since AdultFriendFinder is like a magnet for creeps and weirdos, but I thought that the guy in question was OK. We chatted a lot and after a while we arranged a date. However, when the day came, he cancelled it and I haven't heard from him since. I know he has come online but he hasn't contacted me yet.

All is well, and I couldn't care less but deep down I do wonder: was it something I did or said? What makes a person lose interest when his needs haven't been satisfied? You see, I wouldn't even be writing this if we would have met and had sex. I know men lose interest after 1-2 times of fucking. That is a universal law, as important as any of Newton's, and I have been through this a million of times. It is not the most polite and respectful side of men, by it is ok when you are prepared.

They say that you don't only gain knowledge at school, but also social skills. Perhaps I should have paid less attention to Newton and played more with boys. Maybe then I would have gained some more useful knowledge, one that would have actually come handy and useful in the future. To tell you the truth, never have I used Newton's laws in everyday life...but I wish everyday to have the ability to get into a man's mind.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
3/14/2006 4:46 am

who knows,amybe he got cold feet at the last minute and now too embarressed to say anything,women do the same often enough so i read on here

I'm a

i'm here to stay

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
3/14/2006 4:52 am

A man's mind isn't anything special, you can trust me on that. Or maybe it's just mine thatis nothing special

rm_moohand 49F

3/14/2006 5:13 am

honey, that is part of men and be prepared for it. Some will even arrange to meet you and fail to turn up and never hear from them again. My piece of advice to you, have a plan drawn when you get somebody you would want to know more. It could be something like exchande couple of emails first, then photograph and then may be coffee. Allow the friendship to grow and if the man is not the disciplined type, take control and see how it goes. Good luck.

calis1978 39M
65 posts
3/14/2006 5:34 am

I'm with Papyrina on this one....he probably got cold feet.

Why would any guy in his right mind cancel a date with you if it wasn't for that? You're very cute to look at and as far as i can read i don't think you'd be boring company either (b.t.w. Newton, Dynamics...what do you study? physics?)

As far as understanding the oppisite sex goes...i can't help you there
(the last year i've met a few very frustrating women myself)

b.t.w. it's not a universal rule that men lose interest after 1-2 fucks i wouldn't start it if i knew it'd happen only once or twice..

hockeystick14 35M

3/14/2006 5:42 am

Haha, you should try understanding women....

I'm only half joking around. But I don't think that men are supposed to understand women and I don't think women are supposed to understand men.

I realize that this doesn't get you any closer to why the hell he did that, but maybe it will make you feel a little better, just knowing that maybe there is no real explanation.

rm_The_Succubus 33F

3/14/2006 8:33 am

Papyrina: there is nothing that pisses me more off than a man who is coward, especially when there is no need.

im_your_man77: why the pessimism? Everyone is special.

Moohand: exchanging mails, pictures and chatting is essential and compulsory before meeting. I have a good plan but sometimes it fails. It is just sad that only I enjoyed the conversations we had. But hey, plenty of fish out there.

hockeystick14: the fact that there might be no real explanation is actually worse, it doesn't make me feel any better at all, lol. There should be a reason and cause for everything and it sucks when you don't know what it is.

Anyway, it is not like I need to be cheered up or something, I just hate when I do something wrong and no one cares to tell me. Criticism makes a person better in many aspects and I just want to avoid making the same mistake in the future.

rm_The_Succubus 33F

3/15/2006 12:31 am

Calis: Thank you for your compliments *blush*. And no, I don't study Physics, I study English. I just paid attention at school and that happened to be one of the things I still remember, lol.

I was just exaggerating with the "universal law". But the truth is, 8 out of 10 men are like that. You just happen to be one of those 2.

hockeystick14 35M

3/15/2006 2:06 am

Haha, I was talking generally. I'm sure there is a reason for this particular instance. Maybe he got cold feet. Maybe he read your post about guys lying about their height.

But I can tell you this much, if I were in Amsterdam and you agreed to meet up with me, I would only stand you up if I got hit by a car or something like that.

calis1978 39M
65 posts
3/15/2006 4:15 am

You've just confirmed a prejudice I like women who study english (or have studied english). If you also like history and have an obsession with preserving books i'm afraid i'll have to ask you out on a date (and if you know what XML is we can go see Date Movie, have a lot of fun and become great friends).

No need to blush or thank me...i think you're quite an interesting person Maybe we'll switch to chatting some time.

B.t.w. i wasn't sure if Newton had done something remarkable in the field of dynamics, but he's most well known for his laws of mechanics.What did he do with dynamics?

rm_The_Succubus 33F

3/17/2006 6:25 am

I like history (mostly ancient Greek, Roman and Egyptian) but I have no obsession with preserving books. Sorry...

If I remember correctly Newton established 3 rules of motion, and motion has to do with Dynamics. The first one was Galileo's Principle, the third one was about reciprocal actions and the second one, I have no idea...Can't remember, I am amazed I can remember something about the other 2 though...

calis1978 39M
65 posts
3/18/2006 3:24 am

Same here...though i know very little from Greek history. Only mythology and legends the last 5 weeks i had a Roman law course which was very interesting The professor is pretty well known for his expertise in this field (often asked for help with Common Law issues) and he made me realise even more how highly developed the roman culture was.

That's i don't _have_ to ask you out on a date
(not saying i'd mind your company in person)

Milady i concede..
has a very clear description of all three of Newton's laws
The last time i worked with them was...6 years ago i think

massagekoning 45M

3/18/2006 5:31 pm

i don't think he chickened out... i bet he probably met someone else and felt guilty somehow and just decided to lay low for a while.
wouldnt surprise me if he'd contact you in a while or so with some lame excuse... but then again, big chance he's reading your blog and won't contact you at all anymore...

and i think it's not fair to say that AdultFriendFinder is a magnet for creeps and wierdo's. i talked to a lot of 'normal' people here... well, normal is maybe not the right word... let's just say excentric... which is a lot better than normal anyway

hockeystick14 35M

3/18/2006 10:29 pm

Newton's Three Laws are:

Objects in motion tend to stay in motion, objects at rest tend to stay at rest.

Force equals mass times acceleration.

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

I know these because my university program is basicaly centred around math and physics. (Although I had to look them up to remember the exact wording)

mister_1973 44M
41 posts
3/19/2006 1:03 am

hello and shaom. the laws lf newton work for all things, living and not, men and women. a man minds is much more simple to understand than a women's mind. women in general play much more games than men. why did he get cold feet ? could be so many answers as the nummber of stars. i hope you forget him and move on looking for that star that will fall into your heart and light you with happyness

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