Crap, crap and more crap  

rm_The_Succubus 33F
135 posts
12/19/2005 6:34 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Crap, crap and more crap

"Hi babe, lets meet. My phone number is..."

Lots of users, especially female ones, might recognize this line. I receive a great amount of such mail every week and they always surprise me since it is impossible for me to comprehend the logic of people that send this kind of crap (my apologies to anyone I offend but...come on!!!). And that is the case today, which inspired me to write a new blog entry with this subject.

Such men really have missed the whole point of online dating. I wonder if they have ever received a serious reaction after sending a line like this. The whole beauty of online dating is the fact that you can get to know a little the other person through e-mail and chatting first, in the comfort and safety of your own home. If it clicks, you meet. If it doesn’t, then you move to the next one.

What surprised me most is that I can distinguish so many mistakes in such a short line as the one opening today’s blog entry.

Mistake number 1: Never ever call a woman a 'babe' if you don’t know her. I am definitely not a feminist but even so, I dislike men that feel so comfortable with someone they don’t know. And this word is so cliché, time to use another one.

Mistake number 2: Mention your name. In the highly unlikely possibility that you get a reaction, the woman must know your name so she knows how to call you in her reply. I always thought it looked kinda funny (not in the good way) to start an e-mail with "Hi Bouncy_Balls0587927". But then again I don’t know if it is the nickname itself that makes it funny or the countless numbers following.

Mistake number 3: Men forget how much mail you get as a female user. I don’t even have to browse and contact guys; I wait for a good one to come along. If you want to make the woman notice you, make it an original, interesting and preferably long mail. And no, writing and sending your sex fantasy and asking at the end what I think about it, does not count as original and interesting. And the fact that you can write a long mail shows me that you might be a potential good conversationalist.

Mistake number 4: Privacy policies exist for a reason. Learn to respect them. And if you ask me, the fact that you send your phone number to someone you don’t know just shows how desperate you are.

Mistake number 5: When you are a member of a dating site as huge as AdultFriendFinder, you have to see yourself as a product. This means that if you want to score in the market, you have to advertise yourself and thus, give reasons why "we should meet" and what you have to offer.

My conclusion is that some men live in their own porno fantasy, the fantasy of 'stranger meets stranger and have sex without even exchanging names'. But it is time to face reality and realize that it is called a fantasy because it is an imaginative, an unrealistic and improbable thought. Even if it does happen, it is in a club or bar, where it is just lust at first sight. It does not happen through a dating site, even not through a sex oriented one like AdultFriendFinder.

The_Wraith_1969 48M

12/19/2005 7:50 am

You go gettem' ba.... ummmm.... Succubus!

calis1978 39M
65 posts
12/19/2005 3:09 pm

Some people simply are desperate (both men and women).

As for my name....a lot of people actually think my name is Calis.
My real name is no mystery, but i'm very comfortable using this one online.

About the advertising....i always say to 'just be yourself'. I think that works both best both online and IRL.

justlooking8113 36M
4 posts
12/27/2005 1:01 pm

thanx for crushing my fantasy
Well i guess you are right! and you give some good tips!? (not that i send mail like that, i am not even a paying member, so the few mails i send have to be worth it )

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