The Cruellest Cut?  

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
3484 posts
9/8/2006 2:14 pm

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9/10/2006 3:00 pm

The Cruellest Cut?

My son is 14.

He's been shaving for well over a year now. During the summer holidays he stopped and grew a half-decent beard. Now he's back at school he's expected to be clean-shaven and he hates it: he's realised he now has to shave every day without fail.

Now, me, I've had a beard since I was 18 when I stopped going to college. That's not quite true: there was one day when shaving seemed a good idea. It took all of a minute for my partner and I to decide that it was a bad idea and I then let grow back. I guess that must have been about 24 years ago!

One of the initial reasons I stopped shaving was precisely what is annoying Son now: the need to keep on shaving every bloody day, sometimes twice a day. It's an absolute pain in the ... face.

Besides, while it's certainly true that many women don't like beards I have to say that in my humble experience there is no shortage of those that are prepared at the very least to tolerate them *

So why am I thinking of shaving it off?

Curiosity more than anything else. Does it really look as awful behind that fuzz as I remember? Has age withered me or possibly - as seems to be the case with some men - improved on the youthful original? Would I look younger clean-shaven ... certainly as a youngster the beard added a few years and I'm sure my current silver adornment can hardly be any different.

And there are people who, I admit, would quite like to see what I look like bare (as it were) ... or maybe, I'm told, with a goatee. And I'd quite like to give (some of) them the chance

But it's not that easy. Some of the chatters in the European Hot Tub have been telling me to do it NOW as if it's as easy as having a haircut or changing my shirt. It's not. The beard is part of how I see myself just like my nose or ears ...

And, if I'm honest, I guess I hide behind it. The psychologists say that we all have masks ... mine just happens to be furry!

Shaving it off will be unnerving ... and I need a few days clear to grow it back if I hate the fuzzless me

So ... watch this space ... and maybe one day someone will convince me!


* Aren't you glad I didn't make the "tickle your fancy" joke?

rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
9/8/2006 2:53 pm

Trim it slightly each day, give yourself a chance to get used to the gradual decrease in facial hair. Be prepared for looking very pale underneath. You might decide somewhere between a full beard and bare that you like the new look and stick with it a while.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_WackyEPP 54F
8470 posts
9/8/2006 5:19 pm

I'm sure you'd look just as sexy with or without the beard.

But gladly it would make no difference to the wonderful person inside.

Wacky Jacky

freetime648 53F

9/9/2006 12:29 am

Shave the Beard.....I cut my hair.....YOUR CALL!!!!!!

xx FREETIME648 xx

hotandhorny107 59F

9/9/2006 1:06 am

I say go for it. I am sure it will be a shock at first, but it is quick to get used to and if you really don't like it you can grow it back.. So when do I get a before and after photo?

starlight_runner 40F

9/9/2006 12:48 pm

rofl @ freetime now you have 2 do it.

pls promise to stay unshaven 4 at least a week tho.This is as cause as u say you will need to get used to it.

if you dont have this week to readjust then you will not like what you see purely as it is so different on a pychological level.


cassandrabear 50M/36F

9/9/2006 1:14 pm

I had mine for best part of twenty years and still as ugly with or without. Go for it it will make a change you know you want too.Hell i've seen with now go for the clean look.

P.S blades have changed a lot don't use the open razor that you used to try a new style one. LOL

marathonman45202 54M
6640 posts
9/10/2006 2:31 pm

I always wondered, does one stop shaving, or does one let his beard grow?

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