She's Leaving Home ...  

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
3484 posts
8/21/2006 2:07 pm

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She's Leaving Home ...

I was driving home from my Dad's this evening with Son who chose to put The Beatles' Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band onto the car's CD player. Let no one say I haven't tried to give him a decent cultural education!

Anyway, one track, She's Leaving Home, contains what is to me a particularly poignant line:

She's leaving home after living alone for so many years.

I can't imagine how often Son has listened to this track but this time he turned to me and asked, with a puzzled look on his face, 'Dad? How could she have been living alone if she was living at home?'

Ah, the memories ... the terrible, saddening, heartbreaking memories.

I tried to explain as best I could - and without potentially upsetting references to my own life - how desperately lonely it can be living with someone who (supposedly) loves you.

He seems to have grasped the idea but purely as an abstract. I'm very glad that at the moment it appears to have no relevance to his life.

Yet it's left a certain heaviness in my heart. One of the hardest things you have to accept as a parent is that you can't always protect your children. I hope Son never has reason to gain a more practical understanding of that line.

But I wouldn’t place a bet on it.


rm_WackyEPP 54F
8470 posts
8/21/2006 3:35 pm

Here's hoping he will never experience it first hand.


Wacky Jacky

TheQuietGuy2005 replies on 8/28/2006 7:32 am:
I guess we'd all hope for that for our children but as I look around me and see all of the people of my own generation who have either experienced it themselves or, worse still, are currently going through it it's hard to maintain any real optimism.

Still, we learn from it, don't we? Don't we?

hotandhorny107 59F

8/21/2006 9:26 pm

Very thought provoking song, and sorry to hear that son is listening to lyrics and questioning the lyrics. Means he is growing up my friend. I too hope that he does not experience such a feeling in his life, although I am sure he will never be alone as long as he has you.....

TheQuietGuy2005 replies on 8/28/2006 7:33 am:
That's a kind way to put it!

I do hope that the bond we've already established will remain strong enough that he'll always know he can turn to me in time of need. At the same time, though, we always have to experience these things on our own, don't we? If you're living with someone where once there was love and now there is loneliness, a father can be a solace perhaps ... but he can never take away the pain.

racingcrazy67 50M

8/22/2006 3:14 am

It's tough for him to try and understand this, and as per Wacky's post, I hope he doesn't experience it himself either.

TheQuietGuy2005 replies on 8/28/2006 7:35 am:
But as Hotandhorny pointed out, it's all part of growing up. While that almost inevitably means that he's going to grow further away from me as he clocks up the years, I can't be too sorry about that. It makes me too proud to see the fine young man that he's growing into

GB_Cple 67M/56F  
3113 posts
8/23/2006 5:53 am

Strangly enough my dad said the same to me , when we first heard it too,

I didnt bother to try and explain it to him.

TheQuietGuy2005 replies on 8/28/2006 7:35 am:
Ah ... the old generation gap.

For all I know my father feels the same way about it ... but I wouldn't know. That's one of many types of topic we'd never discuss.

CelticFlower 51F

8/23/2006 12:09 pm

We have some very difficult things to explain as parents. I`m sad to say i really do understand those words too.
Take Care

TheQuietGuy2005 replies on 8/28/2006 7:37 am:
Well, I guess if there's anything good to come from the fact that we do understand the sentiment, it's that we will at least be able to understand what our children are going through should they ever find themselves in the same position.

I remember someone saying to me not so long ago, though on a totally different though equally emotive subject, that her father really did try to be supportive but he was hampered by a total lack of any kind of real understanding of her situation.

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