Hint? What hint?  

TheQuietGuy2005 56M
3484 posts
9/27/2005 4:30 am

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Hint? What hint?

Let's face it: most men don't do hints.

Women have a whole different range of body-language and verbal cues that mean so much to themselves and which we are, by and large, oblivious to.

Oh, by dint of great effort we can learn. The likes of Paul McKenna and Derren Brown are incredibly good at reading the things that people don't say, male or female, and we can pick up some of that too.

I have come to realise, for instance, that when a wife says quietly, "Isn't there something you should be doing?", the correct response from her husband is not "no" or "well, I wouldn't mind a beer". Hear that question and start trying to figure out what she thinks you should be doing. Generally it isn't too hard as wives normally tell their husbands what they should be doing several times before they hit this stage anyway. (1)

Eventually, I think, all men learn some of this through harsh experience. Failure to respond appropriately to such hints can, after all, earn men punishments ranging from a mild sulk for a first offence through to divorce and, for the most serious omissions, an early grave.

But we all have our blind spots. One of mine, it seems, is with regard to - hmmm, how should a shy guy put this? - attraction or sexual interest. Even when I start to think maybe, the inner critic pops up and tells me I'm imagining it.

It's awful to go through life wondering about possible opportunities missed: was that girl really interested? what might have happened if I had ...? what about that time I was sitting chatting to the naked stripper that I knew? (2) when that other woman happened to bump into me, naked, in the corridor that night was that just pure chance?

Mind you, it's even worse when someone says to you afterwards - when they're too far away for you to do anything about it - "you do realise, don't you, that I was hoping you'd take me to bed last night?". That's happened to me too!

On the other hand, there was the one young beauty I had lunch with. After lunch the conversation went something like this:

Young Beauty: "So I guess we're going to have sex today".

Me {with huge grin}: "Only if you want to - I can leave if you'd prefer".

Young Beauty: "You try to leave without screwing me and I'll break your bloody legs".

Now that, dear reader, is the kind of hint I can understand


(1) This is not the same as nagging; it only qualifies officially as nagging if spread over a period of at least three weeks and is accompanied by overtly emotive statements such as "I don't know why I married you", "My mother was right about you" or "I'd get further talking to the wall".

(2) Yes, really ... and, no, I didn't make a pass. (3)

(3) Of course I think I should have!

AlbertPrince 59M

9/27/2005 6:58 am

I've had that dream too!

sweetalyssum 49F

9/27/2005 8:42 am

I see that you are giving the guys some helpful hints. Perhaps you ought to try nagging them.

I don't know if they can hear your helpful hints.

We are only trying to be helpful Quiet. If only you men realized that...you would be more helpful to us.

__Huntress__ 56M/59F

9/27/2005 10:32 am

Very clever ... I enjoyed this ... !

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
9/27/2005 3:10 pm

i never nag,i attempt to fix things my self and when its in lots of peieces all over the house,hubby then has to fix it quick before i forget where the pieces go

I'm a

i'm here to stay

TheQuietGuy2005 56M
2386 posts
9/27/2005 9:19 pm

Al ... Yeah, I can see it might sound like that

SweetAlyssum ... Sorry, I didn't quite follow that. Are you trying to hint at something?

Huntress ... Thank you, thank you, thank you ... my work here is done!

Papyrina ... You sound like a dangerous woman, Papy ... as it happens, everyone knows that a whiff of danger adds excitement

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