Heart of Metal  

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
3484 posts
1/14/2006 10:59 am

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Heart of Metal

To be half-robot, flesh with a metal heart, not to care, not to grieve, not to love or hurt from its loss ... not to feel ...

Sometimes it's a tempting thought.

When we open our hearts, when we are touched by others, we leave ourselves vulnerable, able to be hurt. Get hurt often enough and it starts to seem inevitable ... and it can be ever harder to open again and trust.

We can learn to handle our emotions sometimes, to keep them neatly within bounds ... but they have a habit of breaking loose from time to time and that, in turn, can be a frightening prospect.

But we don't have unfeeling hearts of metal so what should we do? Should we keep on building the walls around us, pushing people away to avoid the risk of being touched in future?

No we should not. It is our emotions - our capacity for joy and love and, yes, sadness and hurt - that makes us human. We should remember this and rejoice that we can feel. As long as we are feeling we are human and alive.

It doesn't stop it being frightening or painful sometimes though.


brightblonde3 59F

1/14/2006 11:09 am

No, it never stops being frightening or painful. I thought it would get much easier as you got older...it doesnt.

Yet I'd rather take risks, make mistakes, and collect some more bruises along the way than live out my life as Mr. Roboto's sullen sister.

Q, remember your investing principles? Greater the risk, greater the potential reward.

Think of the leap of faith you'll be taking in about a month by attempting to drive Thelma and Louise to Bonsall whilst maintaining your sanity.



freetime648 53F

1/14/2006 11:37 am

Very nice thoughts...very perceptive and very, very true......

xx FREETIME648 xx

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
1/14/2006 12:12 pm

True..............love that pic.

helga_hansen 50F
1987 posts
1/14/2006 2:03 pm

*Sigh*.. you are so wise!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

rm__newn 64F
3 posts
1/14/2006 2:08 pm

we learn from each and every time. for each time we know quicker and are not hurt as much. it is the hurt that makes us build walls and become stronger. but we need to leave a few doors open or we will miss the one worth having. trust needs to be earned, and not a gift to be given quickly. learn from your mistakes. grow with them.

GB_Cple 67M/56F  
3113 posts
1/14/2006 11:52 pm

sadly , we are all vunanable, we just have to listen to our instints , but we will still get hurt.

rm_dizzyandfun 49F
752 posts
1/15/2006 8:13 am

Actually I think the worst part is hurting others. The walls are there becuase of previous hurts that had nothing to do with current events/relationships, and I guess because of those self same walls, they are not given as much of a chance to be "let in".

Diz xx

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
1/17/2006 11:19 am

~ nodz ~


Wackytits 54F

1/17/2006 3:02 pm

You are so right.....and so wise. We live and learn no matter how much it hurts sometimes.

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
2386 posts
1/17/2006 9:22 pm

BB ... You're right, of course: try to avoid risk and we never do anything worthwhile! As for the drive, pffft, that's nothing compared to emotions

WickedWytch ... Sounds like you have a story to tell ... and I'm sorry that it sounds as if it's a sad one. How often can we pick ourselves up? I guess the only answer to that is as often as we have to.

Free ... Thanks

Helga ... Just wise enough to know that I haven't even started to learn yet!

Newn ... I'm not entirely sure about that. I trust too easily and I know it and, despite the fact that that too brings its risks, I'm not sure I'd be a better person if I did otherwise.

Polly ... You make a good point. Enjoy each moment for what it is and what it can bring rather than building up expectations, setting ourselves up for later disappointment and heartbreak ... easier said than done sometimes for all its truth.

GBC ... Sad but true. I wish I could come up with a better alternative.

Dizzy ... I can't argue with any of that

Goddess ... and ~hugs~ right back at you.

Wacky ... I guess as long as we learn something positive - rather than just learning how to build the walls higher in future - then even the heartbreak has its value.

Saintlianna ... Glad you like the pic - it works for me too

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