A Touch of Sympathy  

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
3484 posts
2/14/2006 11:00 am

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A Touch of Sympathy

I can't help feeling sorry for them ... and they probably number in their thousands. They're the ones who are not only in the doghouse today but have some claim to injustice.

They're not the ones who forgot that today was Valentine's Day; they're the ones that remembered it was Valentine's Day but took seriously the protestations of their Significant Others that Valentine's Day was nothing but an over-commercialised rip-off, just an excuse for the greeting-card companies and florists to make a packet in this traditionally lean time of year.

I guess we all have to learn one way or another that a touch, the merest dash, of cynicism can be useful in these instances. In other words, people don't always entirely mean what they say!

This occured to me when I read the responses to my recent post What a Gift. Helga_Hansen said “As for what I'd love to receive... I've never been one for overt shows of romance … I like the little subtle things, the unexpected things... I'd like to think that every day is Valentine's!!”

Uh-huh. That sort of statement makes life easy for a partner, doesn't it?

Except ... well, I remember the one year I was told by my Significant Other at the time that she didn't want any fuss on her birthday. She was adamant. No party, no meal out, nothing. She got quite cross when I kept checking. That time I believed. And reaped the consequences.

It's one mistake I've never felt the need to make again!

I learned the hard way. And out there tonight, enduring the silent chill of a partner who feels unloved, are more men who have also learned the hard way.

Ladies and gentlemen, a moment of silence if you please for those well-meaning men who today have lost a little more of their innocence ...


helga_hansen 50F
1987 posts
2/14/2006 2:18 pm

And do you know what? I got the perfect non-Valentine surprise ever!! And I have a feeling that I am going to be having a Valentine experience every day!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

brightblonde3 59F

2/14/2006 6:47 pm

Last year was special. This year I would have given anything to have had an IM from him....but I know he's alive, so I'll take that as solace.



FeistySyn 53F

2/14/2006 7:26 pm

Well spoken words by a man who obviously learned the hard way... damn women huh?

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

PrincessKarma 44F
6188 posts
2/14/2006 10:01 pm

I think V-Day is overrated... but God help the man who forgets my birthday! I DEMAND a fuss on that day!

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

AlbertPrince 59M

2/15/2006 8:42 am

On the other hand .... we have more fingers.

And I was thanked today for a card and flowers that I didn't send - result!!!

southrnpeach333 51F

2/15/2006 8:58 am

Silly men, when you give up thinking you can please us? It is game you can never win because we keep changing the rules!

pinkplaytoyz 51F

2/15/2006 3:13 pm

the thing is, maybe, just maybe, we'd like to get something that isn't the same thing that every woman down the street is getting... I always dread Vday, more times than not I haven't received anything, and it always sucks when you're standing in the middle of a group of women who have...I think I'm just doomed.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
2/16/2006 5:01 am

Hubby and i have always agred valentines is a load of crock,but birthdays and name days God help him if those are forgotten

I'm a

i'm here to stay

FeelKindaLonely 45F

2/16/2006 1:53 pm

I forgot it was V-Day! I was so tickled to open my Yahoo messenger and find several "HAPPY VALENTINES DAY" messages waiting for me! What a treat!

I have to say, though, that I couldn't agree more, with you on the topic...my sister told her boy friend, last year, that she didn't want anything...made a HUGE fuss over not wanting ANYTHING. Now, mind you, she didn't get anything and was quite pleased with her boyfriends obedience (and for her, that's the right word) but I felt very badly for him. He's a giver. He's the kind of guy that isn't complete unless he's giving gifts, affection, words of love and kindness and so on...and she totally denied him of that...because she didn't want it. Well...the point I made to her was...What are *HIS* needs? Does that even matter? What about putting your own selfishness aside and thinking about the OTHER person...now THERE'S a concept!

Consequently...they broke up a few weeks later.

Babel__Fish 46F

2/17/2006 6:22 am

lol at your last sentance!! "Ladies and gentlemen, a moment of silence if you please for those well-meaning men who today have lost a little more of their innocence ..."


SxyCrazyCool 39F

2/20/2006 12:54 pm

Mhmm.. I have a lot to say about your post, but I actually just came in to say: Nice Butt Mister!


RoyalPurpleRose 53F

2/22/2006 9:20 pm

I gave up expecting anything on Christmas, my birthday, or Valentine's a long time ago. My birthday is on January 6, not that close to Christmas. But I had bought at new digital camera after Thanksgiving (on sale) as a family Christmas gift, and was promptly told that was to be my birthday present also. I usually buy my own gifts. Just haven't found what I want for Valentine's yet.

~Kisses, RPR

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