Im beautiful, curvy, and I know it.. so why dont you?  

TehTigerLily 32F
45 posts
7/30/2005 12:37 pm

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Im beautiful, curvy, and I know it.. so why dont you?

About 2 years ago, I weighed about 325 pounds. I was miserable, I felt unlovable, ugly and just fat. In the these past 2 years I have lost enough weight to get me down to a nice 195. I feel great, I think I look great. I have gotten more compliments than ever, and that makes me feel good.

There is nothing wrong with a little extra cushion on ur bones. Actually I think a woman is more desirable, in my eyes, if she has some nice curves and fills out her clothing nicely, rather than being able to count her ribs, and bang sharp hip bones.

Just my opnion. =P

So when I asked a friend of mine if he thought I was girlfriend material, not just fuck-buddy material, he told me well maybe its just because they're not interested at the moment, or maybe that I needed to go to the gym.

When he told me that, I swear steam came out of my ears, and I was spittting fire I was so pissed. I mean how dare he tell me that I need to go to the gym. I had to tell him,
well Im sorry that I dont wiegh 10 pounds, and you cant wrap one hand around my waist.

Dammit I am proud of who I am, of how I look, and Im not going to change that for anyone. I needed to vent that since its been bugging me all damn morning.

So what do you guys think? Which do you prefer, ther is no wrong answer, everyone has there preferences.

DirtyLilSecret61 56F

7/30/2005 12:58 pm

(stands up and applauds) Bravo, BRAVO!!!!!

Thank you for this post - I wrote one similar to this just a few days ago. I totally understand how you feel and wish you all the best life has to offer. Thankfully I have a guy who loves every curve of my body and tells me constantly.


rm_connor696 61M
834 posts
7/30/2005 1:29 pm

Damn, but it's complicated, isn't it? On the one hand, you want to say that there are no wrong answers and that everyone is entitled to his or her preferences. On the other hand, those preferences are obviously hurting you and making you feel depressed.

Yeah, you can just say screw you to the world, but then you're apt to end up lonely and resentful, which sucks in its own way.

I think the real problem lies in the social pressures aginst widely diverging desires. I heard a "joke" once, and I'm going to repeat it not because I think it's funny but because I think it shows what's messed up about the situation: "A fat girl is like a moped; it can be a sweet ride, but you don't want your friends to see you on one."

I think you'll find that a great many men (and women!) find larger women altogether tasty. At the same time, they recognize that society may frown on that, so they bounce between their desires and their public image, usually treating the woman in question badly. And that sucks.

I do think that social values are changing. I hope they hurry up. And I hope you find a good man who can both love you and lust after you, who can do you six ways from Sunday in the bedroom and hold your hand when walking down the street.

Tyrone_AZ 46M

7/30/2005 1:30 pm

Man, thickness is the key to good sex in my opinon. A person who knows how to enjoy food knows how to enjoy life. And that's sexy!

ThumbChickStool 34F

7/30/2005 1:47 pm

Unfortunately, in our society, especially after the "heroine chic" period in the early nineties, thin is in. Lately it's been changing, what with Jennifer Lopez and Beyonce as role models, but it's still a thin world, seeing how Beyonce wears a size 10 and is considered kind of large. And just think, for hundreds of years the ideal was that bigger women were better, since it meant they can bear healthier children. That stopped being the case just before Napoleon came to power, and it's been a thin world after that.

mi_mwpm 52M

7/30/2005 2:10 pm

Curves, curves, curves! Don't want to be able to count ribs or hurt myself on pointy bones. There's a boyfriend out there for you, ya just gotta look a little longer.

Congrats on losing 130 pounds! You should probably drop another 200 or so... that so called friend of yours.

itsallfun1957 60M

7/30/2005 3:03 pm

My preference is that if we click personally, intellectually, with common interests, philosophies, and views of life and living the physical piece is secondary. My belief is that if you're happy, healthy, and comfortable with who you are then you are exactly where you need to be. Good luck and continue to believe in yourself.>>>itsallfun1957

rm_venture12002 64M
67 posts
7/30/2005 3:14 pm

All I can say for sure is that if somebody was that rude to me they wouldn't get any more sex.You can say anything in a way that doesn't hurt too much.There is no reason to be so rude.Which if you can't tell is a peave of mine.I hate people who have no concern for others.By the way, no matter what anybody looks like there will be those who are attracted and those who aren't.So don't let one asshole get you down.

newtothesouth4 48F

7/30/2005 3:23 pm

well just becaise you think you are beautiful, doesn't mean everybody does. some men absolutely love a woman with your figure. and those are the men you should focus on. your average guy likes a thinner woman and you will have a harder time attracting them as boyfriends based on your figure alone...charm them, let them understand how strong you have been to lose the weight you have...that's impressive. most of all good luck. but don't be steamed at your friend for telling you the truth.

spikeryder 51M

7/30/2005 4:00 pm

listen babe i'll let you into a secret that hollywood and womens mags seem to have missed BONES AIN'T BEATUIFUL! ever tried to cuddle a rib?
I have a friend ..sadly she is a recovering anorexic..I tell her time and time again curves are sexy, angles are not!
And as for they guy telling you to go to the gym..i hope you kicked his balls up round his ears!!!
if you are happy with your body more power to you..Personally i like a woman who is soft and sensual to cuddle up to..a comfy breast to use as a pillow.don't want to turn over in bed and poke my eye out on a shoulder blade!!
I looked at your profile are one pretty lady..fuck what anyone says you are beautiful and right to be proud of your looks and your body

UncleReignDelve 32M
1 post
8/7/2005 1:57 am

All i an say is maybe the guy was afraid to say yes cause of a past issue. Maybe he said what you didnt wanna hear because of fear admitting it to himself. You ever think of that TehTiger? Then again he may have been trying to push you away for fear of leading you on and getting the wrong idea. But i'm sure he is EXTREMELY SORRY and would like you to call him.

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